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Harshaw · 08-12-2003, 08:37 PM

So, I was with my girlfriend last night. We had fun for several hours. But just as I decided to put the condom on, my libido went south. I guess I waited too long (this was probably 3 hours of erectness without use). I said sorry, she brushed it off and we went to bed. 2 hours later I woke her up and we were able to finish.
I want to know two things. First, how often does this happen to the people out there? I'm in my early 20's I wasn't expecting this crap till I was 40 or 50. Could it have been because I spent so long screwing around?
Second, I said I was sorry. She said it was ok, but I could tell from the sounds she was making, I messed up bad. She wanted me. We did finish the act later on in the night, now I am wondering if I need to apologize further, or if I should leave it at this.

People here give golden advice, so I'm wondering what they think about this one.

Nizzle · 08-12-2003, 08:49 PM

Too many unknown's here, such as, were you drinking, do you normally have a healthy libido *with her*, and other details. But barring any breaking news, I'd say don't sweat it. And don't apologize profusely, just make up for it next time.

angela146 · 08-12-2003, 09:34 PM

It does happen more often to guys in the first few years of doing it. You eventually get enough practice of "staying hard" and knowing how to do it that it isn't a problem.

Unfortunately, I no idea how that works and hubby doesn't remember any more.

One specific thing: have her put the condom on you. If you do it, you're thinking about unwrapping it, unrolling it, balancing so that you can get on etc. That distracts you from the actual eroticism that's supposed to be keeping you hard.

If she does it, you're thinking "ooo she has nice hands" and other deviant things that will help keep you hard. In other words, putting the condom on should be a part of foreplay.

angela146 · 08-12-2003, 09:38 PM

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Originally posted by angela146
Unfortunately, I no idea how that works and hubby doesn't remember any more. ... putting the condom on should be a part of foreplay.

OK, Homer Simpson moment.

Now I remember why it got so much easier after the first year or so... That's when I went on the pill and we didn't have to worry about condoms. When we were ready to screw, we just did it.

rival · 08-12-2003, 09:38 PM

I'm 23 and it used to happen to me every so often. Of course...

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healthy libido *with her*

...it only happened with one particular girl. I have no idea why. She was cute, she was fun to fuck, she always wanted to fuck, I just couldn't make it happen with her. I couldn't stay hard with this girl for the life of me.

Solution --

New girl. Haven't had the problem since then. I dunno if this applies to you, but I thought I'd share.

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That's when I went on the pill and we didn't have to worry about condoms.

Condoms suck.

Gorgo · 08-12-2003, 09:45 PM

Obviously, your penis isn't "broken" like a guy in his 40s , haha.
BTW, Plenty of "old" guys are functional.

Having an "erection" is a mental thing, not physical. You just need to keep your mind in the game. Like Angela said, have the girlfriend put on the condom.

Not hard?

Have your girlfriend play with you, hands or mouth (her choice) until your ready to go. Then she slips on the condom and you
finish what you started.

Follow this advice, you'll never need to apologize.

08-12-2003, 08:37 PM	#1 (permalink)
Harshaw Is mad at you. Location: Bored in Sacramento	Non-performance So, I was with my girlfriend last night. We had fun for several hours. But just as I decided to put the condom on, my libido went south. I guess I waited too long (this was probably 3 hours of erectness without use). I said sorry, she brushed it off and we went to bed. 2 hours later I woke her up and we were able to finish. I want to know two things. First, how often does this happen to the people out there? I'm in my early 20's I wasn't expecting this crap till I was 40 or 50. Could it have been because I spent so long screwing around? Second, I said I was sorry. She said it was ok, but I could tell from the sounds she was making, I messed up bad. She wanted me. We did finish the act later on in the night, now I am wondering if I need to apologize further, or if I should leave it at this. People here give golden advice, so I'm wondering what they think about this one.

08-12-2003, 08:49 PM	#2 (permalink)
Nizzle God-Hating Liberal Location: Silicon Valley, CA	Too many unknown's here, such as, were you drinking, do you normally have a healthy libido with her, and other details. But barring any breaking news, I'd say don't sweat it. And don't apologize profusely, just make up for it next time. __________________ Nizzle

08-12-2003, 09:45 PM	#6 (permalink)
Gorgo Tilted Location: Tampa Bay, Florida	Obviously, your penis isn't "broken" like a guy in his 40s , haha. BTW, Plenty of "old" guys are functional. Having an "erection" is a mental thing, not physical. You just need to keep your mind in the game. Like Angela said, have the girlfriend put on the condom. Not hard? Have your girlfriend play with you, hands or mouth (her choice) until your ready to go. Then she slips on the condom and you finish what you started. Follow this advice, you'll never need to apologize. __________________ Will Code for food . . . Last edited by Gorgo; 08-12-2003 at 09:51 PM..

08-12-2003, 09:34 PM	#3 (permalink)
angela146 Loser Location: Somewhere near Hubby	It does happen more often to guys in the first few years of doing it. You eventually get enough practice of "staying hard" and knowing how to do it that it isn't a problem. Unfortunately, I no idea how that works and hubby doesn't remember any more. One specific thing: have her put the condom on you. If you do it, you're thinking about unwrapping it, unrolling it, balancing so that you can get on etc. That distracts you from the actual eroticism that's supposed to be keeping you hard. If she does it, you're thinking "ooo she has nice hands" and other deviant things that will help keep you hard. In other words, putting the condom on should be a part of foreplay.