Changing my perspective..on porn!

[katyg]

Okay, now for the first time in MY ENTIRE LIFE I watched porn by myself - I have previously hated the stuff but I have to say that as currently my lovelife is pretty much rubbish and me and the fella have called it a day a week ago I've been feeling fairly erm, how to put it...hot!

So, using my vibrator, I looked through pornotube. I found some stuff I liked, a bit of downright filthy rude shagging - I came in about 2 seconds. It just made ist so easy to imagine that it was me being pulled up and down on this guy - it's not like I even found him really attractive - just made things a bit spicier for me as vibrators can seem a little well, electro!

Ummm, I've changed my ways. I no longer think it's evil, or in some way cheating - it's a means to an end, and funny as it is - I really needed that release, I feel waaay more chilled out. I just wanted to share that, you guys said be more open-minded and I did it. Thankyou. *chuffed* :-)

[shesus]

Welcome to the world of porn!

[katyg]

haha very funny. it was surprised though - most porn is rubbish! too many blow jobs and gay anal for my taste - just show me a man and woman going at it please - plus most of the porn men are a tad scary, big and muscular for me!

[Cynthetiq]

Originally Posted by katyg

haha very funny. it was surprised though - most porn is rubbish! too many blow jobs and gay anal for my taste - just show me a man and woman going at it please - plus most of the porn men are a tad scary, big and muscular for me!

wow... i wonder where you find your porn. i seem to never stumble upon gay anal. not that i want to...

[katyg]

well first i tried googling 'male porn' that thew up lots of gay porn, then i remember porntube and that seemed to be quite gay until i realised theres a gay and a straight option tab and you switch it - but i stand by my assessment - MOST PORN IS SHIT FOR WOMEN. It really is, the guys are just, well, plastic?

[abaya]

Nice work on being open-minded and trying something new. Not to say that EVERYone HAS to end up liking porn, but not everyone can say that they've at least given it a fair shot. So, good on you.

The same thing happened to me a few years back (long distance relationships tend to encourage this kind of thing) and I haven't really gone back since. I don't watch it as much now that we're married and cohabiting (i.e. having lotsa sex), but I certainly don't mind watching it. And always handy for masturbation... watching two women go at it (or close-up of XXX) is my thing!

[Ilow]

congrats, and welcome to the world of depravity!
seriously, I respect your choice to delve into something that you may not have been that comfortable with in the past.
I can certainly see why you would find most porn out there pretty uninspiring, even i do sometimes. I would say if you find some "actor" or "actress" that you like, try to find some more of their stuff and go from there.
I am sure that whoever gets to be with you in person next, will be pleased with your adventurousness.

[MrFriendly]

LOL

While you've found your interest in porn, I, for some reason completely lost my interest in it

Damn grey weather here is robbing me of my mojo

[Plan9]

(gives Mr. Friendly some mojo) You'll probably use it before me, anyschways.

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Pr0n is a useful survival tool in the mental survival of today's crazy mating dance.

[Adri]

Originally Posted by abaya

... And always handy for masturbation... watching two women go at it (or close-up of XXX) is my thing!

Me too... I always found that a little weird about myself until I was talking with some girls at work the other day and discovered that indeed, every woman in the lunchroom at the time felt the same way. Who knew?

katyg, congrats on trying it out. I think that while regular media portrays a bit more sexuality than I'm comfortable with (merely because it's for public consumption whereas I consider porn a private thing), porn is a valuable and exciting medium that can be used in a number of ways. For instance, I now know that DVDA is indeed possible, as are the donkey show, female ejaculation, and many others that, prior to opening myself to watching porn, I hadn't believed in any more than I now believe in fairies. The flying kind.

[ASU2003]

It sounds like you might watch some more videos, so I would recommend this site: (I have nothing to do with it)
http://www.pornoamateurs.be/

It is mostly amateur male-female sex, with not so great camera work sometimes. But there are some good videos there where the participants are into each other in a way that porn stars can't quite reproduce.

There are plenty of other good sites out there to find whatever videos you want. So have fun searching.

[Infinite_Loser]

Watching other people have sex just doesn't do anything for me.

*Shrugs*

I guess I'm odd.

[Sultana]

I think taste in porn is like taste in books--you don't just walk into the library and grab the closest five books and expect them to be great for you, right? Porn is the same way. Gotta do a little research to find what works best for you, and where to find it.

Eventually you will likely find good sources right here on TFP.

[Plan9]

I want the "Liebewitz special" or whatever the hell its called.

The thing where the porno chick engages in smalltalk for 45 minutes.

[snowy]

Originally Posted by Sultana

I think taste in porn is like taste in books--you don't just walk into the library and grab the closest five books and expect them to be great for you, right? Porn is the same way. Gotta do a little research to find what works best for you, and where to find it.

Eventually you will likely find good sources right here on TFP.

Agreed. And some of what you like might depend on your mood. Sometimes I like to see two chicks going at it, sometimes heterosexual stuff, sometimes blow job porn. It's funny--some porn things guys in my life take issue with, like really rough blow job porn where the chick is gagging, are things I really like sometimes. I am generally turned on by people being dominated, regardless of sex, so sometimes that throat gagger porn just hits the spot. I also really love big black guys with tiny white girls sometimes, where the girl is just getting reamed by a huge cock (like Lex Steele and Silvia Saint in "The Academy"). Again, domination being the theme.

You'll find out what you like eventually...it might take watching a lot of different kinds of porn first, though.

[oneofmanymen]

Hey roll with it, find what you like and who cares what anybody else things. It really can be a means to an end!

[squeeeb]

look at and enjoy whatever gets you off. if watching someone in a big chicken suit dry humping a car (just an example, not an actual fetish that i know of, but now that i mention it, i bet there is a niche for it...) gets you off, don't fret it, embrace it and enjoy it.

and remember, rule #34: If it exists, there is porn of it.

i like amatuer stuff. real people, with flaws. looking at perfect models bores the crap out of me.

[hunnychile]

For me, porn is a great outlet for stress, entertainment and the successful fullfillment of years of wild unfullfilled dreams and no sex at home. It's a great hobby & calorie free! There is a ton of good stuff out there and lot's of free sites. Searching for it - is part of the fun. I have adear friend who sends me the best clips on occasion and we really enjoy discussing it and laughing about some of the stuff we've seen. It's also a way to be radical, untamed & totally rebellious with out getting an STD. Nice... The funny thing is that I hardly fit the normal type cast by the general (i.e. Stupid Public), because I'm a college eductated older professional lady with a position of some power in local business. Hehehe, ain't that a chuckle?

Enjoy and have fun. You only live once -- so be happy!!

[bobby]

you've got some good advice here......xoxoxoo

[BigBaldRon]

my girlfriend had a tape (yes, tape) of all lesbian scenes and she hated it. That's what she had thought porn was like. So, I showed her some of the better "couples" porn and now she requests we watch once a month or so.

Its nice to spice things up.

Find what you like and enjoy!

[fooie]

I suspect that in prehistoric times, before the invention of privacy, couples routinely watched each other have sex. The ones who were turned on by watching probably had more sex and, therefore, more offspring. If this behavioral adaptation was genetically encoded, many modern humans may still carry an instinctive predisposition toward voyeurism.

[troit]

A little porn to spice up the sex life is always a good thing.

[MARYDLVIT]

i've tried masterbating to porn in the past and yes it works for sure, but remember it sucks you under into the porn world and you have a hard time getting off with someone you really like or love after that. Also iv'e had the tables turned on me and my partner was into it and it can really ruin a relationship if the other is not game for it. thought we would try watching it together still not a good idea. trust me ive lived and learned on this one!

[fooie]

Originally Posted by MARYDLVIT

i've tried masterbating to porn in the past and yes it works for sure, but remember it sucks you under into the porn world and you have a hard time getting off with someone you really like or love after that. Also iv'e had the tables turned on me and my partner was into it and it can really ruin a relationship if the other is not game for it. thought we would try watching it together still not a good idea. trust me ive lived and learned on this one!

It's interesting how porn resembles addictive drugs. One becomes accustomed to increased levels of stimulation, and seeks more and more. The same might be said of "kinky" sex. I find anal play highly stimulating , for example, but it can de-emphasize the genitalia to some degree.

[xepherys]

Originally Posted by squeeeb

look at and enjoy whatever gets you off. if watching someone in a big chicken suit dry humping a car (just an example, not an actual fetish that i know of, but now that i mention it, i bet there is a niche for it...) gets you off, don't fret it, embrace it and enjoy it.

Anyone else seen the pterodactyl porn on pornotube? It might not get you off, but it's certainly worth watching once.

[M3nt0R]

Originally Posted by katyg

well first i tried googling 'male porn' that thew up lots of gay porn, then i remember porntube and that seemed to be quite gay until i realised theres a gay and a straight option tab and you switch it - but i stand by my assessment - MOST PORN IS SHIT FOR WOMEN. It really is, the guys are just, well, plastic?

Wow I didn't even know that...it always pisses me off how there's always some gay porn results that you have to see the thumbnails of...thanks!

[rr1024]

Originally Posted by katyg

Okay, now for the first time in MY ENTIRE LIFE I watched porn by myself - I have previously hated the stuff but I have to say that as currently my lovelife is pretty much rubbish and me and the fella have called it a day a week ago I've been feeling fairly erm, how to put it...hot!

So, using my vibrator, I looked through pornotube. I found some stuff I liked, a bit of downright filthy rude shagging - I came in about 2 seconds. It just made ist so easy to imagine that it was me being pulled up and down on this guy - it's not like I even found him really attractive - just made things a bit spicier for me as vibrators can seem a little well, electro!

Ummm, I've changed my ways. I no longer think it's evil, or in some way cheating - it's a means to an end, and funny as it is - I really needed that release, I feel waaay more chilled out. I just wanted to share that, you guys said be more open-minded and I did it. Thankyou. *chuffed* :-)

Welcome LOL we both enjoy it, he has what he likes and I have what I like and some of ours crosses over. It's great and we always have a good time alone or with each other

[mfh]

Most women dislike porn because they have easy access to the real thing and can't see any reason why someone would prefer porn over sex. Honestly I have no idea, but I would presume most women don't come to this conclusion until they're about .. 25-30. Possibly a little older, depending on how badly they age, and how quickly they realize the world does not revolve around their view of reality.

Most men enjoy porn because they don't have easy access to the real thing and wish they could get more action, but instead are relegated to watching porn. Most men come to this conclusion when they're about 13 years old, possibly a little younger.

Welcome to logical reality, where everything has an objective and rational explanation. Enjoy your stay.

Originally Posted by katyg

Okay, now for the first time in MY ENTIRE LIFE I watched porn by myself - I have previously hated the stuff but I have to say that as currently my lovelife is pretty much rubbish and me and the fella have called it a day a week ago I've been feeling fairly erm, how to put it...hot!

So, using my vibrator, I looked through pornotube. I found some stuff I liked, a bit of downright filthy rude shagging - I came in about 2 seconds. It just made ist so easy to imagine that it was me being pulled up and down on this guy - it's not like I even found him really attractive - just made things a bit spicier for me as vibrators can seem a little well, electro!

Ummm, I've changed my ways. I no longer think it's evil, or in some way cheating - it's a means to an end, and funny as it is - I really needed that release, I feel waaay more chilled out. I just wanted to share that, you guys said be more open-minded and I did it. Thankyou. *chuffed* :-)

[Shauk]

yeah you're going to run into sites aimed at men, because like mfh said, its partially because men dont have quite the access. Some are more "blessed" with the silver tongue, personality and looks to be a regular don juan, but lets be real here. most men are fairly "plain" looking.

So, thus, men are the largest market, the largest consumer, and well, probably just more hardwired by genetics/instinct to spread their dna as much as possible.

There are a few couples friendly movie production companies out there though. I'm not good with the names off the top of my head though, perhaps someone else will pick up this post and elaborate.

[Plan9]

Originally Posted by mfh

Most women dislike porn because they have easy access to the real thing and can't see any reason why someone would prefer porn over sex. Honestly I have no idea, but I would presume most women don't come to this conclusion until they're about .. 25-30. Possibly a little older, depending on how badly they age, and how quickly they realize the world does not revolve around their view of reality.

Most men enjoy porn because they don't have easy access to the real thing and wish they could get more action, but instead are relegated to watching porn. Most men come to this conclusion when they're about 13 years old, possibly a little younger.

Welcome to logical reality, where everything has an objective and rational explanation. Enjoy your stay.

Wow, I got a hard-on just reading that shot-of-obvious.

Nicely put.