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men and boobs
A question that has puzzled me for quite awhile.
If a man is really, really turned on by large breasted women why doesn't he stay single till he meets one ? Why hookup with a small breasted gal then spend all your time checking out stacked women ? Why not just accept that large breasts are on your list of requirements and pass on the less endowed gal ? Last edited by uptown; 12-01-2005 at 07:57 PM.. |
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shit, if everyone stayed single until they meet their 'ideal' ... well, that just goes against human nature. Quote:
(ok, ... granted such an issue can certainly be manageable in a relationship, but shit uptown, this isn't the first time we've heard such from you ... not at all. get over it or get out). ![]()
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It's not that easy.. sigh... you know how when you're making love and a guy will reach down to fondle your breast ? I'm so small that he ends up frantically pawing the air, totally forget leaning down to kiss a nipple or any other kind of breast play during actual intercourse cause it doesn't work. Last edited by uptown; 12-01-2005 at 08:29 PM.. |
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Pretty much everything that SiNi said. Yes it would be awesome if everyone could be with their perfect physical ideal for a partner, but it's just reality that it doens't happen. And there is so much more to be gained from a relationship than simple physical attraction. Given time you don't even notice the flaws anymore, and if you do you simply don't care. There is no reason to miss out on everything a relationship can bring you because of a few inches here and there. If someone choses to be with another person who isn't their physical ideal I'm sure it's because they recognize this and all the other wonderful qualities that person has to offer.
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Looking isn't, I think, a big problem all by itself unless it's accompanied by other rude behaviors. Does he insult yours for being small, or just enjoy the big ones he enjoys when out and about? That's not necessarily a judgement about you so much as a reflection on him. It doesn't mean he cares any less for you unless he's accompanying it with derogatory marks regarding your appearance. I do know what you're talking about; I have tiny breasts myself. There are lots of things that you can do even with the smaller ones if you take the time for some dedicated breast play rather than trying to multitask. Gilda
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He doesn't make derogatory comments towards me but his positive reactions to bigger busted women make it very clear he prefers much more amply endowed women. The biggest problem is the multitask thing, it's really ackward when he does it and he does it almost every time. Lol, almost like he was hoping they grew magically or something since his last failed attempt. Last edited by uptown; 12-01-2005 at 09:30 PM.. |
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Location: Chicago
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Have you tried being on top and leaning over top of him. This makes you breasts a little bigger and is more convenient for the during sex action. Just a thought. On another note, I find that many men like to ogle big breasts, but prefer smaller ones. I may be wrong, but this is what I have noticed. If your guy is really not happy with your breasts and he was only in the relationship for the sex, he would have left already. I think you just need to be happy with what you have and experiment various ways to have fun with what you have ![]()
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Location: Right behind you...BOO!
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I think you need to take some time and think about the real problem. Besides, if we each got what we wanted in a person, what would there be left to fantasize about?? That would get pretty boring I think! --side note...we are a very open family, and I happen to be more endowed then most of my family, so we make breast jokes all the time, and we also share information openly, hence why I know these things.
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A good friend of mine is in a relationship where her guy likes bigger breasts as well. Yet he wouldn't trade hers for all the bigger boobs in the world. Why? Because they're attached to her. Sure, some chicks have larger ones, but they're not HERS.
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One of our fine male members has this to say about the whole deal:
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Psycho
Location: so cal
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A guy can look and appreciate certain aspects of other women as long as he isn't being obnoxious about it, or towards you. If he is, well you may want to re-evaluate the relationship and search for someone who adores everything that you are... At that, if he absolutely loves big breasted women, but he is still turned on by you, loves touching you and holding you, I don't think you have much to worry about. It might actually just be all in your head....
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Insane
Location: There's no place like home..
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Speaking as one of the well-endowed women (size DD) I've exprienced the same problems during sex. My husband will lean down and try to play with them and slip out. I have two problems actually: 1) my breasts are too big to really play with, and 2) my breasts are usually too sensitive or not sensitive enough so that it isn't all that much fun to have my husband play with my breasts.
I envy women who have smaller breasts. You don't have pain or strain on your back, can wear cute shirts that they don't make for larger breasted women, and can run or play sports without it hurting. But while I envy smaller breasted women, I wouldn't trade mine just because my husband has trouble playing with them during sex. There are lots of other things to explore at that time too. ![]() uptown- it sounds to me like this is more of an issue for you. Talk to your boyfriend, experiment, and hopefully it works out. I have the feeling that if you leave the relationship just because of this issue in search of a guy who doesn't love big breasts, your problem won't be solved.
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Psycho
Location: so cal
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However, I do love the hell out of them and I always been a bit proud of my curvature..ah and the added bonus is that someone else enjoys them too.... Pros and Cons on each side....But what's most important is how you feel about you..everything else is just, well, excess.
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Eat your vegetables
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Location: Arabidopsis-ville
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I tend to think of my boobies as "just right". 32C. I guess I'm spoiled. Sounds like the slipping out problem isn't so much an issue of your breast size as either 1) the man's gut size or 2) their lack of concentration. Gets distracted by the boobies and forgets they need to stay inside, perhaps?
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I guess part of the problem is the fact that I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where I was my partner's prefered physical type. I'd like to be the "hot" one just once before I die.
Maybe I should bring up the idea of opening the relationship sexually. Last edited by uptown; 12-10-2005 at 09:58 AM.. |
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peekaboo
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There's one factor no one really touched on: I am considered 'large'(36C on a thin frame). When women lie down, breasts, specially larger ones, 'flatten' a bit-flop to the sides, etc. They don't stick out as if we were standing up! (While larger breasts are good for tittie-fucks, we DO have to hold them there.) The only ones that probably stay in place, ie; stick out, are fake ones. Uptown, I agree with Sin about your views via your past posts and agree that you really need to get past this. Constantly dwelling on negative aspects is an excellent way to sabotage what otherwise would be a wonderful experience. Let it go with the knowledge that it was YOU he was attracted to, the whole you.
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peekaboo
Location: on the back, bitch
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Sorry to hear that, but seems you kicked him to the curb as a result of your own low self-perceptions, unless there's a big section you didn't mention in the beginning. It would take a lot of mental abusing from another, personally, to make me feel second-rate in their eyes. I know there will always be younger, prettier, smarter, but I also know I'm loved for who I am.
I'm sorry you weren't or didn't feel you could be.
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Psycho
Location: so cal
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Psycho
Location: so cal
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If you feel the relationship had no contribution to you as a person, and you were being seen/treated unfairly, then I'm glad you realized that early on and opted to move on. No one should be made to feel like they are less of a person--especially if that person has the potential to spend their life with you
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