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Leah's Passion · 11-06-2004, 09:21 PM

I used to have a pic of me wearing a strap on dildo on my yahoo profile. I don't chat that often, but when I did with that pic, I would get man after man PMing me to ask if I would do, might do, thought about doing a man with that thing.

The reality is that I never did anyone with it, ever. I bought it so a friend of mine could pop out of a cake wearing it for a mutual friend's birthday (long story).

A few women would PM me, but it seemed as if EVERY MAN was interested. My s/o and I have had discussions about this. He thinks that very few men would be open to being on the receiving end of it, but most women would be willing to do it to their man if he wanted it.

So, I am posting two polls. One for the women, one for the men.

Thanks for participating

onodrim · 11-06-2004, 10:47 PM

It's something I would be willing to try, just to get a different perspective on things, see how it feels to be the one more in control. I'm very submissive by nature though, so I don't know that I'd want to do it all the time, but I'd certainly be willing to try it once.

StickODynomite · 11-06-2004, 11:13 PM

I would try almost anything, but the idea just doesn't appeal to me. Anal just sorta grosses me out a bit, and I KNOW my guy wouldn't let me NEAR him with that thing.

la petite moi · 11-07-2004, 12:22 AM

I like trying new things out, but the only time I get near his butthole is when I'm being annoying and poking it.

Sugar&Spice · 11-07-2004, 12:41 AM

I don't think I'd be interested in trying that out. As it is, he hardly lets me get near his butt with my hand.

ShaniFaye · 11-07-2004, 05:28 AM

I dont think it would come as any surprise that this is something that happens in my relationship

Its great, gives me a very powerful "controlling" feeling

Nancy · 11-07-2004, 05:47 AM

I'd love to try it and usually Loverboy's up for just about anything so hopefully I'll get to try it sometime

jillian · 11-07-2004, 10:25 AM

i would love to do it.. but unfortunatly for me i dont have a strap on... i have fingered a cpl guys and i have used a toy on 1 but never full on strap-on sex... i think it would be fun

qtpye4u84 · 11-07-2004, 03:16 PM

I would try it. I don't have a willing boyfriend to try it on. His butt is off limits.

Maybe if I ever get a new boyfriend/girlfriend, he/she will let me.

Leah's Passion · 11-07-2004, 03:40 PM

This is the one I just bought:

(it's not me, it's a mannequin)

I am a retailer of sex toys, so I can get 'em at wholesale prices. I think this one retails at about $60. I chose it because it's pretty. Without the dildo, it looks like lingerie. And the straps across the bottom of your butt help it stay in place.

I just started in this business, so I don't have the means to take orders over the internet (sorry).

Men have prostates. It's God's way of making homophobes feel insecure

My s/o and I are going to try it out. But we both know he will like it because not only have we played with various buzzing, phallic shaped things before, but he has had full on anal sex with a man.

It should be arriving by mail in 5-10 business days... I'll let you know how it goes

*Nikki* · 11-07-2004, 09:34 PM

Wow. I have to get that.

I am lucky that my man will do/try anything I am up for.

fallenangel · 11-08-2004, 07:56 AM

I haven't tried it but definately am looking in to various prices for a strap on. That's been a huge fantasy for me lately, either using it on a guy or a girl. I just think it would be a lot of fun and something new to try!

KinkyKiwi · 11-09-2004, 04:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by StickODynomite

I would try almost anything, but the idea just doesn't appeal to me. Anal just sorta grosses me out a bit, and I KNOW my guy wouldn't let me NEAR him with that thing.

lol same..it just doesnt turn me on...altho i'm not against having anal..just the whole strap on thing...

zombie_sympathi · 01-04-2005, 10:14 PM

i would try it if my SO wanted to, but i'm pretty sure he doesn't, and i wouldn't pressure him to. it's not a big deal.

i find it ironic that many of the guys in the other thread who are completely opposed to the idea are very into the thought of giving anal sex to a woman. are the tables turning?

cowgirl02 · 01-04-2005, 10:41 PM

i wish that my s/o would let me try that. We have done the fingering in the butt stuff but he made me stop he said that it felt to "weird" maybe i just was doing it wrong!! Any advice on how to do the whole finger in the butt thing to make it pleasurable for him?

ShaniFaye · 01-05-2005, 04:18 AM

I posted this last nite...and realized I'd posted it in the "guys" version of this thread...so Im moving it

for our special new years trip we took my strap on.....yes Dave does enjoy it...a lot...we had a nice session with me flogging the hell out of him while he's restrained (chained up from the ceiling) and lots of teasing where I get him "ready" with my fingers...lubing him up and what not....then he's ready to be fucked!! whats really cool is I get off using it on him (clitoral orgasm), so I do him til he cums (gspot O for him that way)...then I take it off and we fuck until I have a gspot O and he cums normally...

interesting lol...this time we had the camcorder running....Im afraid to watch the tape though...Im thinking I looked pretty silly.

Its damn hard to walk with one of those things on

cowgirl02 first of all make sure your finger is lubed REALLY well, its going to feel weird at first if a guy isnt used to it. You have to go really slowly...start out only instering up to your first knuckle (right under your fingernail) while you're giving him a blowjob, that area needs time to adjust to something being in there...you will feel it loosen up and know when its ok to push in a little bit more...some guys like just feeling the finger "wiggle" around, some guys like to feel it sliding out a little and back in, and some guys just dont like it at all.

I have found that a good time to insert a little farther is when you're licking/sucking their balls....

Dont just ever shove it up in there make sure to give them time to get used to it!!!

bad jane · 01-05-2005, 05:51 PM

i would try it if it was something my partner wanted, but it's not a huge fantasy that i'd push for. don't see something like this in my near future though--current bf considers his ass off limits.

Sweetpea · 01-08-2005, 01:18 AM

I certainly would try it i think. . . seems kinky and interesting. But hubby is not into it . . . he has let me try a finger, but that was all . . . he likes giving anal to me (which i love) . .. so maybe i will just have to insist on returning the favor?

pinkie · 01-08-2005, 01:54 PM

Have done it, will do it again...

cowgirl02 · 01-08-2005, 06:25 PM

I wish my SO would let me do that to him! I think that it would be a very fun experience. He says NO WAY!!!

Did you girls have to talk your SO into it or were they alright with it right away?

ling ling · 01-08-2005, 06:44 PM

Definitely not my thing! I consider myself usually open-minded, but it just seems strange to me personally, though it's cool if it works for other people. Guys I've been with tended to call it the No Zone. As in, no touching, no blowing air upon, etc. And that's fine with me.

icksters · 01-10-2005, 11:45 PM

My SO and I have spoken about this before, and in my opinion, this is not my cup of tea nor is it his, he made that clear. I just feel that I would be too dominating, I like to take charge sometimes, but to me this makes him seem so submissive, I couldn't see him being that submissive compared to me. Also if you put the shoe on the other foot, I wouldn't want him in that area and he has told me that he does not get enjoyment out of playing in that territory. Just my .02

jaded · 01-11-2005, 01:39 AM

I wouldn\'t do it, and I wouldn\'t want a man who wants me to do this to him. I certainly hope my man doesn\'t want this, for otherwise, he\'s not my man.

AliciaKostic · 01-12-2005, 11:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Leah's Passion

This is the one I just bought:

(it's not me, it's a mannequin)

I am a retailer of sex toys, so I can get 'em at wholesale prices. I think this one retails at about $60. I chose it because it's pretty. Without the dildo, it looks like lingerie. And the straps across the bottom of your butt help it stay in place.

I just started in this business, so I don't have the means to take orders over the internet (sorry).

Men have prostates. It's God's way of making homophobes feel insecure

My s/o and I are going to try it out. But we both know he will like it because not only have we played with various buzzing, phallic shaped things before, but he has had full on anal sex with a man.

It should be arriving by mail in 5-10 business days... I'll let you know how it goes

It looks great! Where di you buy it? I would love to have one like that, even I tride it only once.
Alicia

AliciaKostic · 01-12-2005, 11:46 PM

It is little old thread, but... I would like to ad my feeling about...
It ahppen few weeks ago, my friend (she's bi, or better said "lesbian who has nothing against man") was talking about strap-on. As I never seen one in nature, I ask her if I can see it. Ok, it's how it started... even I am not bi at all, when I see it "in place" I was too curious not to try. So, she fucked me and I did her too... I can't say it was bad, but... simply, I cannot feel "on my own" with another girl. On the other hand, to be so "boyish" was really new experience what I like (even, I must say that before I didn't know how hard work is what boys are doing to us). Somehow, idea to do it with my boyfriend came as something logical. But, how to tel him? How to ask him? Still I like it, and as time is passing I like it more and more, but...
Alicia

ShaniFaye · 01-13-2005, 04:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by icksters

My SO and I have spoken about this before, and in my opinion, this is not my cup of tea nor is it his, he made that clear. I just feel that I would be too dominating, I like to take charge sometimes, but to me this makes him seem so submissive, I couldn't see him being that submissive compared to me. Also if you put the shoe on the other foot, I wouldn't want him in that area and he has told me that he does not get enjoyment out of playing in that territory. Just my .02

(of course I HAVE to say the following...)

whats wrong with having dominant/submissive sex? Its not like its something you do ALL the time...even being in the lifestyle Dave and I do have "vanilla" sex. Some(not all) of the most arousing/amazing sex we've ever had was where I was dominating him.....it adds an element to it that just cant be explained sometimes. What you do in the bedroom doesnt have to reflect everyday life...

pinkie · 01-13-2005, 07:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jaded

I wouldn\'t do it, and I wouldn\'t want a man who wants me to do this to him. I certainly hope my man doesn\'t want this, for otherwise, he\'s not my man.

Why? Have you ever done it yourself? I'm curious to know why it's such a "NO WAY" to you. What if he asked you to do it? Would you leave him if it was a turn on, or fantasy of his?

AliciaKostic · 01-16-2005, 03:55 AM

I just have buy a strap-on, so... maybe soon...

sillygirl · 01-16-2005, 09:44 PM

While I'm not interested in it, I mentioned anal sex to my hunny, and his response was "I don't wanna touch poop with my weiner"... I think that means no...

Acetylene · 01-18-2005, 03:05 PM

I want to, but I don't know if I want to be as gentle as would likely be necessary, so I probably won't try it because I don't want to risk injuring my SO.

Supple Cow · 01-18-2005, 04:55 PM

I second Acetylene. I'm not sleeping with anybody right now, but I don't think I'd want a strap-on to do anything very gently. It's probably more than worth a try, but I'd bet using it on another woman would be a lot more fun.

ally · 01-26-2005, 07:21 PM

I wouldnt have a problem with someone using it on me...
But I'm just not interested in doing that to him.

View Poll Results: Would you pleasure your man with a strap-on dildo?
No, I have no interest in that	35	38.46%
I have done it, but would not be open to doing it again	3	3.30%
I have not tried it, but I would be willing to	34	37.36%
I have done it and would do it again	19	20.88%
Voters: 91. You may not vote on this poll

11-06-2004, 09:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
Leah's Passion Upright Location: USA	What about pleasuring your man with a strap on? I used to have a pic of me wearing a strap on dildo on my yahoo profile. I don't chat that often, but when I did with that pic, I would get man after man PMing me to ask if I would do, might do, thought about doing a man with that thing. The reality is that I never did anyone with it, ever. I bought it so a friend of mine could pop out of a cake wearing it for a mutual friend's birthday (long story). A few women would PM me, but it seemed as if EVERY MAN was interested. My s/o and I have had discussions about this. He thinks that very few men would be open to being on the receiving end of it, but most women would be willing to do it to their man if he wanted it. So, I am posting two polls. One for the women, one for the men. Thanks for participating Last edited by Leah's Passion; 11-06-2004 at 09:30 PM.. Reason: added hyperlink

11-06-2004, 10:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
onodrim Cosmically Curious Location: Chicago, IL	It's something I would be willing to try, just to get a different perspective on things, see how it feels to be the one more in control. I'm very submissive by nature though, so I don't know that I'd want to do it all the time, but I'd certainly be willing to try it once. __________________ "The world is so exquisite with so much love and moral depth, that there is no reason to deceive ourselves with pretty stories for which there’s little good evidence. Far better it seems to me, in our vulnerability, is to look death in the eye and to be grateful every day for the brief but magnificent opportunity that life provides" -Carl Sagan

11-06-2004, 11:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
StickODynomite Insane Location: Arizona :\|	I would try almost anything, but the idea just doesn't appeal to me. Anal just sorta grosses me out a bit, and I KNOW my guy wouldn't let me NEAR him with that thing. __________________ "The human mind is like a parachute, it works best when open."

11-07-2004, 12:41 AM	#5 (permalink)
Sugar&Spice Psycho	I don't think I'd be interested in trying that out. As it is, he hardly lets me get near his butt with my hand. __________________ -Speak your mind even if your voice shakes

11-07-2004, 12:22 AM	#4 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	I like trying new things out, but the only time I get near his butthole is when I'm being annoying and poking it.

11-07-2004, 05:28 AM	#6 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	I dont think it would come as any surprise that this is something that happens in my relationship Its great, gives me a very powerful "controlling" feeling __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

11-07-2004, 05:47 AM	#7 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	I'd love to try it and usually Loverboy's up for just about anything so hopefully I'll get to try it sometime __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

11-07-2004, 10:25 AM	#8 (permalink)
jillian Crazy Location: indiana	i would love to do it.. but unfortunatly for me i dont have a strap on... i have fingered a cpl guys and i have used a toy on 1 but never full on strap-on sex... i think it would be fun

11-07-2004, 03:16 PM	#9 (permalink)
qtpye4u84 Flavor+noodles Location: oregon	I would try it. I don't have a willing boyfriend to try it on. His butt is off limits. Maybe if I ever get a new boyfriend/girlfriend, he/she will let me. __________________ The QTpie

11-07-2004, 03:40 PM	#10 (permalink)
Leah's Passion Upright Location: USA	This is the one I just bought: (it's not me, it's a mannequin) I am a retailer of sex toys, so I can get 'em at wholesale prices. I think this one retails at about $60. I chose it because it's pretty. Without the dildo, it looks like lingerie. And the straps across the bottom of your butt help it stay in place. I just started in this business, so I don't have the means to take orders over the internet (sorry). Men have prostates. It's God's way of making homophobes feel insecure My s/o and I are going to try it out. But we both know he will like it because not only have we played with various buzzing, phallic shaped things before, but he has had full on anal sex with a man. It should be arriving by mail in 5-10 business days... I'll let you know how it goes Last edited by Leah's Passion; 11-07-2004 at 03:47 PM..

11-07-2004, 09:34 PM	#11 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	Wow. I have to get that. I am lucky that my man will do/try anything I am up for.

11-08-2004, 07:56 AM	#12 (permalink)
fallenangel soaring Location: near the water	I haven't tried it but definately am looking in to various prices for a strap on. That's been a huge fantasy for me lately, either using it on a guy or a girl. I just think it would be a lot of fun and something new to try! __________________ all I wanna do is - give the best of me to you

01-04-2005, 10:14 PM	#14 (permalink)
zombie_sympathi Upright Location: AR	i would try it if my SO wanted to, but i'm pretty sure he doesn't, and i wouldn't pressure him to. it's not a big deal. i find it ironic that many of the guys in the other thread who are completely opposed to the idea are very into the thought of giving anal sex to a woman. are the tables turning?

01-04-2005, 10:41 PM	#15 (permalink)
cowgirl02 Tilted Location: Dallas, Texas	i wish that my s/o would let me try that. We have done the fingering in the butt stuff but he made me stop he said that it felt to "weird" maybe i just was doing it wrong!! Any advice on how to do the whole finger in the butt thing to make it pleasurable for him?

01-08-2005, 01:54 PM	#19 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	Have done it, will do it again...

01-05-2005, 04:18 AM	#16 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	I posted this last nite...and realized I'd posted it in the "guys" version of this thread...so Im moving it for our special new years trip we took my strap on.....yes Dave does enjoy it...a lot...we had a nice session with me flogging the hell out of him while he's restrained (chained up from the ceiling) and lots of teasing where I get him "ready" with my fingers...lubing him up and what not....then he's ready to be fucked!! whats really cool is I get off using it on him (clitoral orgasm), so I do him til he cums (gspot O for him that way)...then I take it off and we fuck until I have a gspot O and he cums normally... interesting lol...this time we had the camcorder running....Im afraid to watch the tape though...Im thinking I looked pretty silly. Its damn hard to walk with one of those things on cowgirl02 first of all make sure your finger is lubed REALLY well, its going to feel weird at first if a guy isnt used to it. You have to go really slowly...start out only instering up to your first knuckle (right under your fingernail) while you're giving him a blowjob, that area needs time to adjust to something being in there...you will feel it loosen up and know when its ok to push in a little bit more...some guys like just feeling the finger "wiggle" around, some guys like to feel it sliding out a little and back in, and some guys just dont like it at all. I have found that a good time to insert a little farther is when you're licking/sucking their balls.... Dont just ever shove it up in there make sure to give them time to get used to it!!! __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

01-05-2005, 05:51 PM	#17 (permalink)
bad jane Insane	i would try it if it was something my partner wanted, but it's not a huge fantasy that i'd push for. don't see something like this in my near future though--current bf considers his ass off limits.

01-08-2005, 01:18 AM	#18 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	I certainly would try it i think. . . seems kinky and interesting. But hubby is not into it . . . he has let me try a finger, but that was all . . . he likes giving anal to me (which i love) . .. so maybe i will just have to insist on returning the favor? __________________ Having a Pet Will Change Your Life! Looking for a great pet?! Click Here! "I am the Type of Person Who Can Get Away With A lot, Simply Because I Don't Ask Permission for the Privilege of Being Myself"

01-08-2005, 06:25 PM	#20 (permalink)
cowgirl02 Tilted Location: Dallas, Texas	I wish my SO would let me do that to him! I think that it would be a very fun experience. He says NO WAY!!! Did you girls have to talk your SO into it or were they alright with it right away?

01-08-2005, 06:44 PM	#21 (permalink)
ling ling Upright	Definitely not my thing! I consider myself usually open-minded, but it just seems strange to me personally, though it's cool if it works for other people. Guys I've been with tended to call it the No Zone. As in, no touching, no blowing air upon, etc. And that's fine with me. __________________ For your sake I hope heaven and hell are really there but I wouldn't hold my breath Modest Mouse

01-10-2005, 11:45 PM	#22 (permalink)
icksters Tilted Location: New York	My SO and I have spoken about this before, and in my opinion, this is not my cup of tea nor is it his, he made that clear. I just feel that I would be too dominating, I like to take charge sometimes, but to me this makes him seem so submissive, I couldn't see him being that submissive compared to me. Also if you put the shoe on the other foot, I wouldn't want him in that area and he has told me that he does not get enjoyment out of playing in that territory. Just my .02

01-11-2005, 01:39 AM	#23 (permalink)
jaded Crazy	I wouldn\'t do it, and I wouldn\'t want a man who wants me to do this to him. I certainly hope my man doesn\'t want this, for otherwise, he\'s not my man.

01-12-2005, 11:46 PM	#25 (permalink)
AliciaKostic Upright Location: Permanently in Stanford, ca, but in the moment in Campus at UCLA	It is little old thread, but... I would like to ad my feeling about... It ahppen few weeks ago, my friend (she's bi, or better said "lesbian who has nothing against man") was talking about strap-on. As I never seen one in nature, I ask her if I can see it. Ok, it's how it started... even I am not bi at all, when I see it "in place" I was too curious not to try. So, she fucked me and I did her too... I can't say it was bad, but... simply, I cannot feel "on my own" with another girl. On the other hand, to be so "boyish" was really new experience what I like (even, I must say that before I didn't know how hard work is what boys are doing to us). Somehow, idea to do it with my boyfriend came as something logical. But, how to tel him? How to ask him? Still I like it, and as time is passing I like it more and more, but... Alicia

01-16-2005, 03:55 AM	#28 (permalink)
AliciaKostic Upright Location: Permanently in Stanford, ca, but in the moment in Campus at UCLA	I just have buy a strap-on, so... maybe soon... Last edited by AliciaKostic; 01-16-2005 at 04:00 AM..

01-16-2005, 09:44 PM	#29 (permalink)
sillygirl Newlywed Location: at home	While I'm not interested in it, I mentioned anal sex to my hunny, and his response was "I don't wanna touch poop with my weiner"... I think that means no... __________________ Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly-Rose Franken ....absence makes me miss him more...

01-18-2005, 03:05 PM	#30 (permalink)
Acetylene Addict Location: under a rock	I want to, but I don't know if I want to be as gentle as would likely be necessary, so I probably won't try it because I don't want to risk injuring my SO. __________________ There's no justice. There's just us.

01-18-2005, 04:55 PM	#31 (permalink)
Supple Cow Americow, the Beautiful Location: Washington, D.C.	I second Acetylene. I'm not sleeping with anybody right now, but I don't think I'd want a strap-on to do anything very gently. It's probably more than worth a try, but I'd bet using it on another woman would be a lot more fun. __________________ "I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." (Michael Jordan)

01-26-2005, 07:21 PM	#32 (permalink)
ally Insane Location: Boone,NC	I wouldnt have a problem with someone using it on me... But I'm just not interested in doing that to him.