wannabenakid247

I was just reading a thread in tilted sexuality about a man unsure if his girlfriend had really had an orgasm or not. He said that she had never masturbated before. I have met a few women who have said that they have never masturbated. Do you think that there are women who dont masturbate or do you think they are just embarrassed about it and don't admit it. What are your thoughts?

Eclipse26

It's hard for me to believe that there is someone out there who has never masturbated. I suppose it's possible, but I dunno. I would guess that the women you speak of are simply too embarrassed to admit it. Even if it's only been once, I bet they have.

I'm a strong proponent of masturbation. I think it's natural and healthy and also something I'm not willing to go without.

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SiN

quite often, as i have for hmm, over half my life so far, and i will continue to do so.

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SabrinaFair

I have a detatchable shower head...
I take 30 minute showers...it takes me ten to get clean.
You do the math. ;-)

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torn lace

i think in the past there had been a stigma attached to women who masturbate, or women who orgasm for that matter (damnfreud!) and thus women may have been ashamed of their sexuality and pleasure, and won't admit to it, or don't in fact masturbate at all because they don't know how their bodies work.

i really enjoy masturbating, and have been regularly masturbating for about seven years. at first i thought i was doing something terrible, but now i have accepted it as something that i enjoy, that is beautiful and natural, and I no longer feel shameful. unfortunately i'm currently living in a dorm, and have found it quite difficult to get private alone time with myself! but when i do, it's that much more intense.

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sexymama

First, did you know that vibrators were orginally invented in the Victorian Era to help keep woman from going crazy? Doctors would use them on woman to relieve stress.

I've been masturbating since I was younger than six. Of course, it has improved greatly with age and experience and the discovery that I can actually insert my fingers, not just apply preassure. There was a time period I felt guilty for it; but that couple of minutes passed very quickly.

I do believe that with the undercurrent in society that "christianity" means sex only for reproduction does keep woman from exploring the possibilities. SO sad, imho.

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gabshu

I rarely masturbate, it makes me sad. Like when I have a boyfriend it's fine cuz we have sex and play in the shower. But my moskie's gone to germany for 6 months and whenever I try to masturbate I get sad and start to miss him.

It;s lame but I almost feel like masturbating just takes too much time, I also have a detachable shower head, but masturbating by myself is not fun at all.

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sillygirl

Sooo, I'm gonna jump in here and be the only one so far who is honestly saying, "I have never masturbated". It is not that I am 'too embarrassed to admit it', it's that I never have. Not once. Never been interested in masturbation. I am not ashamed of my sexuality and pleasure, if I had masturbated I'd admit it, and I do in fact know how my body works. I'd rather have real sex with a real man.

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diddagirl

hehehe... I do it all the time. Never really did until i started a long distance relationship..... and thats when the phone sex started. LOTS of fun

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wannabenakid247

Phew glad i'm not the only one

shannon

thing is i'd rather have sex with a man too, but sometimes that's just not possible. and so when i'm home alone and bored or lonely or happy or sad.....you get the picture. i tried it once and didn't really know what i was doing when i was really young, and so i didn't really pick it up then because i didn't see the point. but the day i learned to make myself orgasm, that ladies and gents was a fine day. been masturbating ever since.

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Shyla Loral

I use to masturbate quite a lot when I was alone or when I was in an unhappy relationship. Now that I have meff, I almost never masturbate--no chance, we have too much sex! But I do enjoy it, and vibrators are wonderlicious. :P

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lisal

i still like to pleasure myself even with a wonderfull husband that i have

vveronica

How can you not?

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sillygirl

No desire to. It's not that hard. And there is no such lack of sexual desire, just no desire to masturbate. And I've been getting way more than plenty of sex in the last few months.... but I don't see me wanting to masturbate even now that I won't be having sex anymore.

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gabshu

Yup, I feel the same way you do, although I HAVE masturbated before, nothing like being with a guy.

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anti fishstick

yup i do pretty much daily.

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little limey

Right now, "quite often" is the winner with 65.6% of the votes!

I do it usually before I go to bed or when I get bored or depressed. I don't do it when I'm on my period unless I don't have a tampon in with no pad and no panty liner. I'm sensative so I slways have to do it through my panties and a pad, or soemthing else in the way, just defeats the purpose.

em1014

I would still be in the "I have never masturbated" catagory but my bf has slowly opened me up to a whole new wonderful world. Part of the reason I didn't masturbate was embarassment, part was I had no desire (I didn't know what I was missing until I tried it) and the biggest part was I just thought it was wrong for girls (even though it was never a taboo subject in my house). When growing up I always heard about the boys "beating it" and it seemed normal to me but I never heard about other girls. It wasn't even an it's wrong for all girls kinda thing... just not for me. It actually took quite a while once my bf talked me into masturbating for me to have an orgasm, but that was probably just me getting comfortable with the whole process.

dana

I started having sex when I was 13 years old. That was almost 15 years ago. So I never had to masturbate untill I got married two years ago. After my husband and I were married, he quit going down on me. Sex to him is getting his rocks off as fast as possible and then going to sleep. I usually wait until he is asleep to play with myself. I often dream about doing it with his younger brother, he is so good looking.

sillygirl

That seems kinda dangerous.....

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sillygirl

No, everyone does NOT masturbate.... and are you supposed to be posting in the LL??

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cheerios

I made it to age 18 or 19 before I ever tried... I honestly just wasn't interested in it. I rarely do now, either... usually as stress relief of some kind. just not my thing. mostly 'cuz I suck at it. I can't get my mindset relaxed, so i can't cum. :/

mydragonfido

It helps me get through stressful periods or times my husband works alot!

Averett

Just once? Probably for the last time

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Poyzun_Ivy

Mutual masturbation has always been a favorite of mine... I'm one of those lucky lucky lucky (NOT) women who can't get off from sex... in order for me to be able to cum, I have to masturbate. No real chance of it otherwise.

It was only maybe a year and a half ago that I finally met a guy whom I was comfortable enough with to start doing it... I started having sex when I was 13 (no, I'm not proud) and didn't have an orgasm before/during/shortly-after-sex until I was 20 years old. It sucked.

So I met Mike and he actually encouraged it, which I guess ended up getting the ball rolling. I broke up with him a little over a year ago when I ended up with thejoker and basically got to train him in what *I* needed... it worked well.

-+ Ivy +-

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onodrim

Yep, I have to agree there. Of course, I do in even when things are great too! Unfortunately dorm life makes it hard to do it as often as I'd like to. Living in an apartment next year should improve things in that area greatly.

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Cherry

Masturbation is like my own private little vacation.

I love it, and do it quite often.

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raeanna74

As religious and strict (no sex outside of marriage) my mother was she surprised me as a teen when she explained to me that masterbation was a good healthy thing. I know she enjoyed it herself and I was taught that it's something good that I can do for myself and my partner.

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susartele

Since my upbringing was strict and Catholic, masturbation never occurred to me. After marriage we had sex often enough and I came often enough (not every time but lots) that it wasn't an issue.
Near the end of my marriage I started having a hard time reaching orgasm. It was taking for-@#$$#@*& -ever when we would have sex. I thought it was about my lack of interest in my husband.
When I met Art we had lots and lots of sex but coming was draining to us both because it just took me so long. It was sometimes embarrassing how long it took but Art was a terrific and patient lover. I finally said I thought a vibrator would be just the thing and it certainly has been...........multiple, multiple and multiple.......for me it's the way to go. Sex can take a long time or short time it doesn't matter. It's all good.

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Steffi

I think that there are a lot that have tried it, but are just too embarrassed to say that they have. I don't think it's a big deal if you have or not. People don't make a big deal out of men doing it, so I don't think that people should make a big deal out of women trying.

Angel

Well, let's see, I have a vibrating dildo with 3 attachable sleeves for various sensations, a hand held vibrator, a tiny little "on the go" vibrator....the list goes on, you get the point.
Yes, I masturbate. By myself, with my sweetie, when ever I feel like it. And my b/f gets extremely hot when I do it in front of him.
A few times I have tried to time it where I am in the process when he walks in the door so he can "catch" me....but I always seem to reach orgasm first! Maybe some day!

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sexymama

This is very personal -- but also feels totally awsome -- so I will risk "teaching" you my secret.

I lay on my stomach, with my hands pressed against my pelvic bone. I have g-spot orgasims, so I insert a finger or two in my vagina, carassing my g-spot while rubbing my hands very hard on my pelvic bone. (Or maybe that is while rotating my pelvis on my hands.) Of course, reaching into the vagina naturally causes my clit to be massaged at the same time. I use both hands and lie almost flat. The orgasim is very intense and totally awsome -- I hope it works for you and/or others. Enjoy!

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