Meditrina

My boss shared this with me. She knows all about what I go through with R. I was going to put it in my journal, but I thought there might be more ladies who could appreciate it.

He didn't like the casserole
And he didn't like my cake.
He said my biscuits were too hard...
Not like his mother used to make.
I didn't perk the coffee right
He didn't like the stew,
I didn't mend his socks
The way his mother used to do.
I pondered for an answer
I was looking for a clue

Then I turned around and smacked the shit out of him...
Like his mother should have done.

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"Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles." ~Alex Karras

ngdawg

Works for me

snowy

Yep. I hear that.

I've been applying behavior modification through classical conditioning to my significant other in order to improve his habits. It has been working quite well.

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If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Grasshopper Green

It used to piss my mother off to no end when my dad would bitch about something not being as good as his mom's. I'm lucky....hubby never does that to me.

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Formerly Medusa

little_tippler

lol yes lot's of men are mummy's boys.

I just had to say...

Does it not bother you at all that you sound like you're talking about a science experiment?

I know, all of us girls do it at one time or another...poor boys, if they knew the half of it!

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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

Fernando Pessoa, 1918

abaya

To be honest, this thread suggests that all men are slobs who want their wives to be their mothers... which is a pretty vast generalization to be making (and disturbing, if true). I mean, yes, if your man/husband is acting this way, then yeah, you should smack the shit out of him... definitely. But apparently I'm the one who needs to have the shit smacked out of me, because...ktspktsp does pretty much all the cooking, and he makes coffee for both of us every morning (and it takes me the whole day to wash up the dishes from all that... ). I am also the one with all the holes in my socks, though I would never expect him to mend them, lol. I just never mend them myself, because I just don't do stuff like that. He buys himself new socks when the old ones wear out.

So, if smacking the shit means creating an equally-divided chore chart and forcing ourselves to stick to it, then I guess we've both had the shit smacked out of us.

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran

snowy

You'll have to forgive me--I'm taking a psych class.

It's more behavior modification through cognitive-behavioral approaches and positive reinforcement--which really means a chore chart with rewards.

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Meditrina

I am sorry. I didn't mean to imply that all men are slobs who want their wives to be like their mothers. I know mine has that tendency and I would like to smack the shit out of him. I am sorry if I offended you or your husband. That was not my intent.

I wish this could work with mine. But he is like my son, and rewards/punishments don't work.

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abaya

Oh no, you didn't offend me, Gaia! But I can't get all pissy about threads generalizing women in the larger forum, without getting similarly pissy about the Ladies Lounge generalizing men's behavior, right?

And hon, if I were you, I WOULD smack the shit out of your husband... at least, given what you've told us. I don't believe in violence in a marriage, of course. But if he's going to act like a child, then I suppose he's begging to be treated as a child... so something needs to reign him in. Sounds like the only thing that might work with him is something extreme... you going on strike, for example. Or, less passive-agressively, both of you going to marital counseling... have you guys tried that?

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran