squigly

Sporatically over the past year and a bit, I've found myself posting here from time to time when something worth while crosses my life. Some people find the posts amusing, others, find it hard to believe.

This quarter's story is as follows.

Was out of town on business for almost two weeks. I'm in a happily commited relationship. The hotel was situated near some 'ladies of the night'. After driving around a few times, I figured, eh, live once. Never tried. Let's give it a shot. Circled for a bit, found a bank machine, went back around and within a few moments had myself a new friend.

"hi baby. want some company? $100. got the cash?"
- "yeah sure, hop in. where to? my hotel? "
"um, no. there's a spot around the corner. we'll stay in the car."
- "oh. i see. " -- now right away i'm thinking wtf. but sure whatever

Drive around for a little bit, miss her "spot" so have to circle the block again. She proceeds to point out her "man" who's the very very big well built black man with a lot of jewellery and chains, driving an SUV which could easily drive over my car, and looks quite menacing and angry...find the spot, park the car. she asks for the money. asks if it's my first time. i give her the money, miscounting and only giving 80 rather then 100 (apparently the education level these days isn't as high as it used to be) and say "yes, this is my first time..."

"ok honey, drop your pants and get yourself hard. here's a condom, put it on."
- "um, what? who's paying who here? "

so about fifteen minutes elapses with me under some serious pressure having this woman asking me why i can't get it hard while at the same time every few moments saying "oh shit. is that a cop? ... oh no, it isn't...heh. silly me"

finally she decides to take charge. we start getting a little movement and i'm starting to relax.

"hey honey. you have the smallest dick i've ever seen in my life."

well, obviously at this point in my life i'm wondering who i've wronged to be sitting in a car having paid for this. heh.

another two minutes elapses, she turns to me and says "well, times up. i have to go...."
- "well, do i get some sort of refund?"
"oh i'm sorry, no refunds..."

she got out of the car and walked away....so initially i felt bad. i realized i should never have been there in the first place. serves me right. a few interesting thoughts came out of this little experience.

directly afterwards i was very very angry. i'm sure something could have kicked in from a rage point of view where i would have done something stupid. i could have. felt very very angry. suppose, that's what makes me different from homicidal maniacs. went things snapped, i still had a concious.

ahh well, there's my little story. tis a true one unless you know me, in which i'll need to deny everything because well, it wasn't me, can't proove it, was never there, etc ; )

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Vincentt

Interesting story, I would have been worried about many things in that kind of situation.
Cops, robbed, STDs, I would not pick a girl up off the street..

flat5

You may have been lucky you did not lose your temper.
It may have been a setup. You might have received a beating from the pimp.

Blackthorn

Nice story and thanks for being brave enough to share it.

Next time buy the magazine and go back to your room with Rosy Palm ... the girlfriend you know is always ready. You should feel lucky you didn't get popped for solicitation which is really one of the better bad things that could have happened to you.

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Psycho Dad

Sort of the lesser of two or three dozen evils?

I've never understood being willing to pay for a pro. For a hundred bucks, I think most of know a woman that will give it up on the first date.

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Sugar&Spice

$100 bucks?? I was watching Cops last night and they were busting women for prostitution and guys for soliciting sex. These women were asking $30 for sex and $10 extra for oral. Some of the younger ones were asking $60. You are very lucky you didn't get arrested. I don't know how well your partner in your committed relationship would have liked to receive that phone call.

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la petite moi

Ugh, and guys wonder why women are so distrusting. :rollseyes:

And for some reason, I don't believe you when you say you're in a 'happily committed relationship.'

K-Wise

If your happily commited partner finds out...was it worth it? Probably not...be faithful buddy.

Asta!!

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denim

Seems to me you've been rolled.

squigly

some interesting comments. especially the ones with morale undertones. folks, life is about living. if you're ever curious about something and you never try it, how will you ever know?

i'm sure that question alone would open up a pandora's box here. you've all done something stupid i'm sure in your past. probably because you were curious. you know what, it's not that bad. you are living life...trying things.

i got what was coming to me, so no big deal. i'm all the wiser now. shit happens, and 100$ wasn't that bad. could have been much worse : )

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ICER

I agree, You only live once. as the saying goes "Try things, get dirty, make mistakes" it's how you learn things in life.

And just for the record. I know more then one lady of the night. even paid for a couple. But none of them where that bad. But that may be because I knew them before hand.

But there are some valid points there. STDs, mugging, arrested, and loseing your partner. But danger is the spice of life. and if something bad does come for it. I would have to refer to another old saying "If you wanna dance, your going to have to pay the piper" But at least you danced.

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la petite moi

I'm just saying, if you're in a happily committed relationship, you wouldnt even WANT to cheat, because there are NO pros to doing it.

squigly

your assumption about mine, and your interpretation of a commited relationship obviously isn't what mine is. take note of the year and how people can be open ... relationships can exist on many different levels so long as there is full disclosure and understanding between the two parties. no worries : )

this wasn't cheating. it was a social study. i can say that it's a shit thing to do based on my experience. not based on what a bunch of people have suggested to me in an online forum : )

do you live life based on what's suggested on here, or by what you've experienced. that's all...

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K-Wise

It was a social study eh? haha yer right I remember when I went over that part in my social studies classes in middle school.

Asta!!

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*Nikki*

I hope the results of your social study satisfy you, because you have to live with them.

squigly

i found the results amusing at best. when's the last time you were with a guy and told him his dick was small? was it amusing? ; )

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*Nikki*

I would never tell a man that to his face. Besides I could care less about the size of a penis, I prefer a large brain.

Fremen

*quickly measures brain*
Abby Normal.
Is that a size?

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la petite moi

No, I just know that based on what MANY people have had happen to them when going out with whores, I think it's obvious it's a pretty shitty thing to do. And yeah, in these times, relationships are open, but that doesn't mean its right. We also have like a 50% divorce rate now.

Rodney

You learned something. In my personal opinion, sex you have to pay for isn't worth anything. Put another way, it's a shame some peoples' lives are so screwed up that they have to make a living selling their bodies on the street; but the question is, why would anyone want to have sex with somebody who's so screwed up and probably by now has an extremely low opinion of men in general? You put her in control, and you saw what happened.

As for the cheat/no cheat thing; that's your business. I admire openness, in relationships and otherwise. But in the spirit of openness, do not fail to share your experience with your partner and explain your motivation.

bal8664

I don't see how anyone in a committed relationship could hide something like this from their SO. I might be able to hide it for about 15 seconds before I broke down.

squigly

how many times have you paid for it? in the end i paid for a few insults and a good story...

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Psycho Dad

Hell. Those can both be had for free.

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Suave

Except for the one he was paying. SHWING!

Rodney

Your rhetorical device of choice seems to be, "If you haven't done it, how can you be a judge of it?" Well, I know what works for me. And being with someone who is emotionally absent is a real turnoff. You don't have to pay to know that. After a while, you ask yourself, "What the hell am I doing here?"

And of course, there still remains the issue about being totally open with your significant other about this. If you're not, it's not an "open relationship." You sound like you're very much on your own, not part of a couple.

MichaelFarker

I'm shocked that so many people are hating on squigly for sharing how bad his experience with a prostitute was. Which just reminds me how great this place is; flames are pretty rare. Usually people here take the time to understand where someone is coming from. If anything, we then try to help them get where they're going.

Prostitutes don't appeal to me though. This story is an example of the problems. I believe you become like the people you have sex with. Prostitutes have to be hard-hearted, slow to connect emotionally with others. Besides, I only really enjoy sex when I have strong feelings for someone. At least respect and trust.

ratbastid

He actually never said he was hiding it. That's an assumption that we all made--myself included, until I noticed it while reading your post.

FL8ME

Again, props for the honesty and I'm going to buid on something said earlier. If you're on business in a strange place where you want to get your jollies there are a lot of better ways to do it. I can tell from the original post you probably won't be partaking in this sort of thing again. Just go down to the hotel bar and meet somebody else on a solo vacation or business trip. Spend half that on the bar tab and a rubber and you have the makings of a much more successful and enjoyable fling

Daoust

Hmmm. I guess you were doing it for a study, (or so you say) but if you wanted to fool around in a much safer atmosphere you probably could have gone to a club or something and picked up someone. Sure, it's a little more effort, but it's cheaper, and probably 100% safer. I would never do what you did. You're pretty ballsy, I'll give you that. But I wouldn't want any of the consequences that could or did arise out of that situation.

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Charlatan

I'll never completely understand why so many people have such issues with prostitution.

I don't see anything wrong with someone paying for sex... There are plenty of independently minded women out there that offer sex for sale.

It certainly pays a lot better than some of the work available.

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Suave

Not to mention the cliche about all men basically paying for sex, with the food and gifts, and so on...

Fred181

I understand that people have varying ideas of sex and intamacy, but given what I am used to seeing on this board I am suprised at how many people are ripping on squigly for what he did. Was it possibly dangerous? Yes. Is it something I would have the nerves to do? No. I appreciate Squigly posting about his experience for our knowledge though.

Furthermore, I am suprised to hear people speaking of his morality... I think there are quite a few residents here that have open or "non-traditional" relationships. to rip on him for "moral" reasons seems pretty odd to me given how open and respectful I thought people on this board were.

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nowthen

la petite moi, i see from your profile that you are about 18 yrs old... how can you possibly feel you have a broad enough experience bank to flame this guy? im sorry if i singled you out, there are other offenders as well, i just felt your comments where a little too strong given the very limited experience pool on which you are basing them...

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Psycho Dad

I don't really see where anyone is actually flaming. The original poster made some comments that people are discussing. And that discussion is likely far more informative than people just replying with "Whoa Dude! Was the hooker hot?". Just because someone does not agree with someone, that doesn't mean it is a flame.

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Sign Related

Word. Go for the more up scale ones in certain strip clubs rather than the ones on a street.

*Nikki*

I know that this is not directed at me, but, I know la petite to be very intelligent for her age. She is an outstanding member and very well spoken at that. She is not flaming him, she is pointing out his odvious mistake.

And also I think you don't know enough about any of her experiences to come to the conclusion that YOU have.

Never assume anything.

K-Wise

Apparently he feels the need to hide it from someone

Asta!!

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Nisses

Nikki: To you it's an obvious mistake, to him it was trying something out. Which didn't end well, but he learned something new.

If others like Rodney say: well, I know what works for me... Props to you. How about letting others decide for themselves what works for them?

I do agree it wasn't the safest thing to try tho...

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flamingdog

A certain amount of intuition allows you to weigh these kinds of experiences and judge whether they are things you would enjoy without having to try them. In my opinion. I've got no desire to pay for sex. At all. And I didn't have to blow 100 of my hard-earned (and it is hard-earned) pounds on some disconnected bundle of bone and sinew - who is thinking about her next roll even as she 'services' me - to find that out. Without emotion, without passion, it might as well be your right hand. Otherwise it's a muscle and a hole.

Irishsean

Anyone who picks up a random prostitute on the street and gets screwed deserves it. While this is a great story for someone else, ie. "You wouldn't believe what I read about someone just doing...", I don't see how its a great story for you.I'd be embarassed if I paid for a prostitute, couldn't get it up, and she told me my dick was small.

But hey, thats just me.

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