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Maybe it would be a good idea to acknowledge the cost to your mother and negotiate a reasonable rent -- something you can afford and that she thinks is reasonable. I have found that the best way for me to get my needs met is to listen first -- paraphrasing what the other person is saying prior to making my point. (Mom, you are saying it is very expensive to have me living here. I can understand that. I also have a student loan to pay and the desire to save to move out on my own, so can we negotiate a rent that will work for both of us?) Then seriously consider saving money to move out on your own. It sounds like you are both ready for a break from each other. Good luck!
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