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Originally posted by ratbastid
My personal take is, girls without fathers turn to the boys around them to fill the "man" void in their lives. They're looking for a father figure in the male critters they're surrounded with. But the relationship they get with boys around them isn't <i>exactly</i> parent-child....
Ah, dimestore psychology! I love it so!
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I would agree. My father was not completely absent. In fact my parents never even separated let alone divorced. He is still alive to day even. BUT he was a workaholic. He was always gone doing this job or that and wasn't often available for the time I felt I needed. He was never there emotionally for me. In fact I think I was the more emotionally stable one in my family. My Dad was always depressed (to the point of suicidal), My mom was constantly controlling, and my younger brother was so full of anger that he was arrested several times for assault and battery charges. I don't know which of those things were the deal maker/breaker for me but I did find that when I was a pre-teen I craved guy attention to the point of doing almost anything to gain it. I had sexually fantasies in late elementary school and masterbated even then. As an adult I feel that because of my father's parental absence I have sought male "leadership" anywhere even in the wrong places and wrong ways.