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Bodyhammer86 · 06-08-2010, 10:40 PM

I suffered from this earlier in my life and still do to a certain extent.

My sister is four years ahead of me age-wise and we don't have a single thing in common at all. Completely different personalities, different tastes in music, different interests, and hell, we don't even look anything alike. To add insult to injury, we absolutely hated each other growing up because she picked on me all the damn time. We get along somewhat better now, but we're not close really and she still occasionally tries to get into a pissing match with me over something trivial every now and then.

What made me jealous of her in certain aspects was that growing up, she was the talkative and outgoing type (we have no idea where this came from since neither of my parents are like this at all) with tons of friends, always having someone staying overnight, and hanging out with people all the time. I, on the other hand, was geeky, introverted, socially awkward, bullied alot, and had very few friends as a result. Since we didn't get along at all, I really resented her for doing so well socially, while I was mercilessly bullied and had only a few friends at the most. Also, she was involved in many extracurricular activities while I only participated in high school football, which I wasn't good at and only stuck with because my dad wouldn't let me quit, but that's beside the point. Sometimes, my parents would bitch at me for not getting involved with sports, clubs, etc. that I had no interest in. This detail also made me feel like I was living in my sister's shadow.

Careerwise, she graduated from college in 2005 and currently works as an elementary school teacher for a tiny school district pulling in about $30k a year and owning her own house while I graduated in 2008 and am currently struggling to find a job in the criminal justice system while slaving away at Wal Mart for about 40 cents above minimum wage and living at home with my parents in the meantime. Granted, her salary isn't fantastic, but it's in her career field and it's a hell of a lot better than what I make at Wal-Mart, who treat their lower level employees like crap and give them a paycheck and work schedule to match (but that's for a different thread). Sometimes, my sister and my parents crack a smartass comment about this, which doesn't help things, considering I'm working my ass off trying to get a full time job and leave this town for good.

Honestly, I don't have any advice for you, but what I can say is that you most certainly are not alone in the jealousy department.

06-08-2010, 10:40 PM	#3 (permalink)
Bodyhammer86 Insane Location: Mattoon, Il	I suffered from this earlier in my life and still do to a certain extent. My sister is four years ahead of me age-wise and we don't have a single thing in common at all. Completely different personalities, different tastes in music, different interests, and hell, we don't even look anything alike. To add insult to injury, we absolutely hated each other growing up because she picked on me all the damn time. We get along somewhat better now, but we're not close really and she still occasionally tries to get into a pissing match with me over something trivial every now and then. What made me jealous of her in certain aspects was that growing up, she was the talkative and outgoing type (we have no idea where this came from since neither of my parents are like this at all) with tons of friends, always having someone staying overnight, and hanging out with people all the time. I, on the other hand, was geeky, introverted, socially awkward, bullied alot, and had very few friends as a result. Since we didn't get along at all, I really resented her for doing so well socially, while I was mercilessly bullied and had only a few friends at the most. Also, she was involved in many extracurricular activities while I only participated in high school football, which I wasn't good at and only stuck with because my dad wouldn't let me quit, but that's beside the point. Sometimes, my parents would bitch at me for not getting involved with sports, clubs, etc. that I had no interest in. This detail also made me feel like I was living in my sister's shadow. Careerwise, she graduated from college in 2005 and currently works as an elementary school teacher for a tiny school district pulling in about $30k a year and owning her own house while I graduated in 2008 and am currently struggling to find a job in the criminal justice system while slaving away at Wal Mart for about 40 cents above minimum wage and living at home with my parents in the meantime. Granted, her salary isn't fantastic, but it's in her career field and it's a hell of a lot better than what I make at Wal-Mart, who treat their lower level employees like crap and give them a paycheck and work schedule to match (but that's for a different thread). Sometimes, my sister and my parents crack a smartass comment about this, which doesn't help things, considering I'm working my ass off trying to get a full time job and leave this town for good. Honestly, I don't have any advice for you, but what I can say is that you most certainly are not alone in the jealousy department. __________________ Pantera, Shadows Fall, Fear Factory, Opeth, Porcupine Tree, Dimmu Borgir, Watch Them Die, Motorhead, Beyond the Embrace, Himsa, Black Label Society, Machine Head, In Flames, Soilwork, Dark Tranquility, Children of Bodom, Norther, Nightrage, At the Gates, God Forbid, Killswitch Engage, Lamb of God, All That Remains, Anthrax, Mudvayne, Arch Enemy, and Old Man's Child \m/ Last edited by Bodyhammer86; 06-08-2010 at 10:42 PM..