Just as hightheif said, I think it's more ingrained in us than it is a conscious descion we make - in the same sense that tanned people usually seem more attractive simply because tanned skin gives the impression of health and vibrancy.
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So do you think if I met someone who was great in all respects, but then I realised he was just a little shorter than me (say a few cms), should that be important? I'm not sure I could date a guy who's shorter than me - or even my height.
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And there certainly isn't anything wrong with having your preferences just as long as you realize that you aren't very likely to find someone that meets them all. Know your preferences, maintain your standards and keep an open mind.
I've found that even though I've never had a lover I'd consider to be the total package (physically and otherwise)but, the ones I've loved the most were the ones that forced me to question what I believed and realize that I have the potential to love and accept much more than I ever thought I could. Were it not for them I wouldn't know or notice many of the things I currently consider to be major turn-ons.
edit: I'm 6'2" and my 5'5" g/f is one of the most assertive people I've ever met and a large part of what turns me on about her is not having to feel like as the man I must always bear the responsibility of having to be in control. I suppose as somewhat of a reverse effect of what I imagine you may feel - having someone who's so small in stature take control, especially in the bedroom, is a major turn-on.