It's not so much as what is said, rather how it's said and the manner in which it is said... if the male is talking to you and he's not making eye contact, that's a little off-putting.
Making lewd or off color comments is also a negative, jokes, smiles, and eye contact are all good things.
not that I get asked, but back in the day, when i was asked - it almost always came across as a 'your place or mine' type of suggestion, spend a few moments talking to me-- i'll give signals as to whether or not I'm available and interested. If you come right up and ask -- and invest no time and just ask - then the answer will be no - because short cuts are being taken and arent interested in me as a person.
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