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Shani,
I have scanned through the horror stories above. I have been in 3 weddings and my own. Two of them were for my cousin's and both of those had ugly dresses, but you weren't asking about that.
I was responsible to pay for being in the wedding. I bought the dress, hose, and shoes. If I didn't want to I would have said no, but it was my cousin and my best friend so I spent the money because I love them.
For my wedding, I asked that my party (3 bridesmaids and a best man + 2 ushers + flower girl + ring bearer = 8 members), pay for their clothes. I don't count the junior bridesmaid because we paid for her since she is his daughter. I made the huge mistake of putting the dresses on my credit card with good faith that they would pay back. One didn't and I haven't heard from her since the wedding. Friendship is more important than money. Learned that the hard way.
I would say that if they all knew ahead of time of the cost and you did your best to make it as low cost as possible then you have no worries.
Honestly, in the end all that matters is that you are married to the man you love. I don't really remember much about the wedding party. I remember staring into the eyes of the man I love and saying my vows, giving a kiss, and running down the aisle to get to the yummy food. Everything will be fine!
As for gifts, I was probably an awful gift giver. I honestly can't remember what I gave. I think jewlery to wear with the dress, but it was casual enough to wear anytime. The guys, I think we gave them pens or something. Maybe wallets. See it wasn't all that important! Don't stress the small stuff, focus on the fact that you are marrying the man you love!
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