I think the bride has to always remember and consider the expenses to those involved in the wedding party.
That is why I only had one attendant. I told her she could pick out and buy her own dress and shoes, something she would most definately get some use out of in the future. I even told her she could pick the color. I trusted her and we have similar tastes. The best man was my husbands father and his only expense in all of this was his tux. My husbands family paid for nothing except the rehersal dinner which was VERY low key, at their house, and we had take out chicken from a resteraunt and some side dishes.
My maid of honor was treated to a FREE night at the Inn where the wedding was (the night of the wedding) and I also gave her a gift bag with many things in it I knew she would like. They were treated as well as my husband and I and got free food also for breakfast. They stayed in a room as nice if not nicer then the one we did.
I don't see why it is so hard for a bride to respect the bridal party members. If you know you can't afford to help them out with costs, then don't pick out shit you know they can't afford to buy! It's really that simple.
Can anyone tell I am still really pissed off?
