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Originally Posted by *Nikki*
There is no way in hell I would be ok with that. If I were ok with that, I would not be getting married. I guess that marriage means different things to people, but to me it means I am commiting myself to ONE person and he is doing the same for me.
I mean really I have been single long enough and had the oppertunity to roam and so has he.
Why introduce something that could possibly fuck up a seriously good relationship?
Why take a chance that perhaps the grass will be greener?
If you were willing to possibly forever screw your relationship AND possibly lose your husband, then go for it.
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I understand your reservations, and I'm pretty clear that most people share them. But at least for ratbastid and me, sharing each other has brought us closer together in a lot of ways and actually strengthened our marriage. We're still absolutely committed to each other, but at least for me, I don't need exclusivity to know that we love each other and are committed to staying together for the rest of our lives. It doesn't work for everyone, but I don't think it's likely to fuck up a serious relationship if you go in with your eyes open and some very clear ground rules, and MILITANT communication. From what I know of Quadro and Jess, I don't see how this would be a problem for them.