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I doubt your Ex and Doug are really having sex at this point even if you'd been led to believe that. I've done the "Doug" routine by mistake in the past and it's a fragile situation where being "used" is the price of admission and the bad boyfriend almost always steps back into the picture at some point.
You're deep into headgame territory now and the logical step would be to cut off contact with these people and carry on with life. Be adult and just nod in the hallway as you pass each other.
or....
In my honest opinion, you've got a great shot at some makeup sex with the ex. She wants you to fight for her at this point and come back begging forgiveness. Then she'll break up with you within a few weeks. It's a control thing and something she may need to do finalize the relationship. If possible, agree to become fuck-buddies or "a friend with benefits" as the saying goes. Not that you have to sleep with her, but this is the time to take advantage of relationship perks while you can.
I'll have sex with her if you can't do it.
In any event, you should work towards at least being on good terms with these former friends of yours. There's an old saying that "friends come and go, but enemies accumulate" and this applies to a work situation. Make her look good to people she works with if you can. Take Doug out for a beer and agree that the ex is out of bounds (once the sex is over). You were friends with these people in the past, so don't go overboard on hating them.
DO NOT date any of your ex's friends, co-workers or family members. I know it's tempting, but you're just digging a deeper hole. Go take a university class loaded with females and start meeting new people.
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