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Originally posted by cheerios
so can you have a non-collared relationship then? is that like "seeing people" as opposed to having a steady boyfriend?
and, how does being submissive fit into an equal relationship, galaxygirl? (I hope that doesn't sound like rude, it's not meant to be, but I don't get it..?)
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Jadz answer some of this already, but I have been thinking alot about the question you asked, Cheerios. It may be hard to understand from the outside, but I find that in a good D/s relationship (and all of mine have not been good) I have been a more equal partner than in many of my non- D/s relationships. Everything i8 and I do is discussed and negotiated. We talked for weeks about likes, dislikes, fears, desires before we ever engaged in any bondage or other D/s activities.
And it's the same in all other aspects of our relationship. I know that I can always say no to anything and I will be respected (unlike in my marriage, where no meant 20 minutes of wrestling before I got pissed off and slept on the couch.) We share the clean up duties - actually I think he probably does more, but then he is the neat freak.
I am not always submissive and so the challenge of submitting to His will even when I'm not feeling submissive is part of the attraction of D/s for me.
Thanks for making me think, Cheerios!