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Rlyss · 03-10-2004, 09:03 PM

I try and teach her all the time, but when it's her behind the wheel she just doesn't care. She's convinced her car doesn't have blind spots (when I demonstrate that her car does, by standing in them, she says it's different on the road). Her car does indeed have blind spots, I know since I've driven her car hundreds of times.

She only drives if she has to, if she hasn't got a choice. If there's any chance of someone else driving she'll refuses to drive, so any attempts at teaching her during times of low traffic are fruitless, since if she doesn't *have to, she just won't.

And then when she has to drive, she just doesn't care. She doesn't look, she doesn't give way, she just barges on ahead.

It especially amazes me since whenever I've been a passenger in her care, every single time (not exaggerating) something has happened, a near miss, a car honking at her, etc., yet she drives to and from uni, and to and from work every day and I just don't understand how she hasn't had an accident... yet.

After thinking about it I've come to the conclusion that nothing I do is going to change things about the way she drives. I've tried teaching her for almost two years, being helpful in the car when she's driving etc., and I've come to think that instead of helping her I'm just doing the work for her. Instead of me helping her she sees me as the person who checks the mirrors so she doesn't have to when she's driving.

I don't think there's much I can do. I enjoy driving so when it's her car I think I'll ask to drive it as much as I can, and when I have the opportunity to drive my car I'll do so. During those times when her car is the only option we have, I think I'll just continue to look out for our lives and hope some of it rubs off on her.

Thanks for the advice everyone. As for her learning by having accidents, she already reversed into a stone mailbox and destroyed her tail light but it hasn't made a difference. As awful as it sounds, I can only hope that minor things like that keep happening and she learns from them, instead of having a major accident and only perhaps surviving to learn from it.

03-10-2004, 09:03 PM	#6 (permalink)
Rlyss The Pusher Location: Edinburgh	I try and teach her all the time, but when it's her behind the wheel she just doesn't care. She's convinced her car doesn't have blind spots (when I demonstrate that her car does, by standing in them, she says it's different on the road). Her car does indeed have blind spots, I know since I've driven her car hundreds of times. She only drives if she has to, if she hasn't got a choice. If there's any chance of someone else driving she'll refuses to drive, so any attempts at teaching her during times of low traffic are fruitless, since if she doesn't *have to, she just won't. And then when she has to drive, she just doesn't care. She doesn't look, she doesn't give way, she just barges on ahead. It especially amazes me since whenever I've been a passenger in her care, every single time (not exaggerating) something has happened, a near miss, a car honking at her, etc., yet she drives to and from uni, and to and from work every day and I just don't understand how she hasn't had an accident... yet. After thinking about it I've come to the conclusion that nothing I do is going to change things about the way she drives. I've tried teaching her for almost two years, being helpful in the car when she's driving etc., and I've come to think that instead of helping her I'm just doing the work for her. Instead of me helping her she sees me as the person who checks the mirrors so she doesn't have to when she's driving. I don't think there's much I can do. I enjoy driving so when it's her car I think I'll ask to drive it as much as I can, and when I have the opportunity to drive my car I'll do so. During those times when her car is the only option we have, I think I'll just continue to look out for our lives and hope some of it rubs off on her. Thanks for the advice everyone. As for her learning by having accidents, she already reversed into a stone mailbox and destroyed her tail light but it hasn't made a difference. As awful as it sounds, I can only hope that minor things like that keep happening and she learns from them, instead of having a major accident and only perhaps surviving to learn from it.