Intensity of orgasm: sex vs. masturbation for males
 

I am a virgin, and I am curious as to whether an orgasm caused by sexual intercourse is more intense or longer lasting than an orgasm reached through masturbation. I understand that the time before and after an orgasm may feel better when you are having sex, but I am curious about the actual physical perception of the orgasm. Please advise.

From my experience, it's about the same but with the emotional feeling of knowing someone else is helping you achieve the orgasm.

Always better when you can share it with someone special.

I have noticed from masterbation my "euporia" disipates rather quickly. I cum less and have quite a mess to clean up. When I am with my wife I find that even after 2 years I find that the sensation lasts longer, I can shoot a hole in the wall with the result and then have a cuddle session which makes a pyshcological bond which helps it even more.

To me, an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. In terms of intensity, I’ve found that there’s no difference between one that’s delivered myself or via someone else. It’s the length of time it takes to cum that determines how intense it is. In general, the longer, the more intense it is.

Sex > Solo

I think intensity wise they're the same and that depends on length of buildup before cumming.

I always have alot better orgasm's from sex than masturbating, I'm alot more turned on with a girl than what my hand could ever get me.

It's all mostly in the head--sharing and caring is better than taking care of business.

Nobody can consistantly please me like I can. Masturbation is more like a control line for me, it's always about the same, pretty good.

Sex on the other hand is a roller coaster. Sometimes it's terrible, sometimes you are unable to put together a coherent sentence afterwards, it really depends on your partner. If you are interacting with someone who is not really into it, it can be a real drag. On the other hand, nothing is more sexy than a partner who wants it, and during those times masturbation doesn't even come close.

personally, i always have the best orgasms from a blowjob (im talking arched back and everything, when they are terrific at it) followed by sex and then yankin it. although the last two are fairly close for me as i dont have much non rubber experience so it makes for much less of a intense build up as opposed to concentrating with your hand for 45 mins.

I found that I cum the most when I get a bj or a handjob, or if I pull out and give her the moneyshot. Sensation, volume, distance, aftershocks, everything is bigger. When I'm inside her its not as intense but it feels different. I dunno, more intimate for lack of a way to really describe it. It's not the same feeling. And it depends on what kind of mood I'm in as to which one I want. We don't use condoms though, they do kill alot of the sensation.

Jerkin feels good and relieves the "pressure" but doesn't compare at all

In all honesty, they are similar but different. Unless it was a quickie (sex), it totally feels so much better, but for strenght/lenght, etc, they are the same. The feelings are double when you are sharing it with someone special. But... solo sex is good at the time, just not like sex with a partner though.

totally agree with everyone so far it is alot different(maybe not better in all cases) then solo

but bottom line you just need to go out and test all these therory's out

I would to add some thing to Kubz18's bottom line.

... all these theory's out when you are ready.

I have to say that there are some ways of having sex that, for me at least, are, or have been, truly mind blowing. Anal sex comes to mind. Various other variations that I might someday divulge also spring to mind. The head of my Johnson tends to get quite sensitivie so sometimes being on the receiving end of oral sex can be a bit ... well, sensitive.

Masturbation can be pretty great when done well too. With masturbation, you can control more variables than with sex with another (person).

Now, I must say that the one time I was involved in a threesome was absolutely fantastic :crazy: , but that is more a comment on the entire experience than on the orgasms themselves.

honestly, if its intercourse with a condom, its worse than masturbation

otherwise, if its intercourse, oral, or even a handjob, it is usually much better

My orgasms have always been more intense through masturbation, frankly, because I know all of my happy places. Orgasms with sex can last longer but be rather a fight to get there.

exactly what he said!

for me the intensity of orgasm depends on the build up to it. With sex or masterbation if there is little anticipation, my orgasm is less, if there is more anticipation then the intensity of the climax increases correspondingly.

Does anyone worry that the same pressure build up that effects orgasm intensity could also damage your penis?
Maybe I'm just being paranoid.

It's not physical pressure, so no.

Hmm, I'd agree with the general proposition that sex is better than masturbation, simply beacuse there's a random element. You don't know what the other person is going to so, and that uncertainty is exciting.

The better question is whether oral/anal/"traditional" sex is best. I know those who argue that anal is best, and there are some that prefer a good ol' BJ.

I had sex for the first time last week and the only time an orgasm has been this intense was my first time solo. Right when I came, my entire body went numb, my arms felt like they were going to fall out from under me. It was way more fucking intense than jerkin it.

my orgasms r easier reached thru masturbation...id say its more a feeling of total euphoria when someone wants yuo to reach ecstasy and gets you there!!! as opposed to DIY which for me is a chore as much as doing the washing up sometimes..a necessity to mean i survive the day lol

its better with sex. after masturbation its like, "man...this is boring after so many years..."

yah exactly, usually after masturbation, i just end up crying by myself, but at least with sex i have someone else to put my head on. ::sigh::

sex > oral > handjob w/ lube > your hand > condom

Even aside from the emotional content the physical sensation from a real sex orgasm is a lot greater than one from masturbation, but then you have to remember that you will have been physically exerting yourself a lot more (I would hope) during the real thing, increased heart rate etc. The other thing for me is that even with masturbation a phone sex or cybersex orgasm (as long as it's a quality exchange) can be far more physically pleasurable than a lone wank.