07-11-2005, 11:18 AM | #1 (permalink) | |
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What drives men? love, sex or both?
http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magaz...X_OR_BOTH_.asp
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What do you think?
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07-11-2005, 12:23 PM | #3 (permalink) |
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Oh what a bunch of piddle paddle.. sex without love is "ok", love without sex is "ok".. why would you willingly deprive yourself of other when you can have both?
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07-12-2005, 01:00 PM | #7 (permalink) |
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Sex without love is just masturbating with really a good prop. (BTW, I'm totally pro-masturbation). But, I find to be fufilled- I gotta have both. I want love and sex.
um...And I want it now!
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07-12-2005, 04:55 PM | #8 (permalink) |
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Some people need love, some people need sex, some need both. Some see them as separate things, some can't pry them apart. Once again, some guy who feels guilty about being more focused on sex than love has made a sweeping, unscientific generalization that he assumes to be true for everyone because it is for himself.
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07-12-2005, 05:59 PM | #9 (permalink) | |
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07-13-2005, 03:26 AM | #10 (permalink) |
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Location: Canada
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I think that's a little more specific than it need be. In my necessarily limited experience, I'd say most everyone wants both. Maybe not right away, but yeah. I mean, I love my girl and the sex is great. In this relationship the love is more important than the sex, but the sex is still important. I've been in relationships where the opposite is true, too though. Or ones where there is no love, more like sex and companionship, but those never seem to last.
It's a very over-romanticized notion that 'love conquers all'. We still have urges regardless and therefore sex is pretty well always important.
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07-13-2005, 09:19 AM | #11 (permalink) |
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Speaking from a male perspective. I've had sex without love and physically it was great, but with no real emotional side other than lust it only fulfills the urge. Which is not necessarily a bad thing, but in the long term it ends up feeling empty. I've had love without sex, and you can love someone to death but without sex it ends up being passionless and frustrating as hell because your physical needs aren't being met. And in alot of ways it is worse than the other scenario because you start thinking about cheating or leaving and it tears you up.
However I doubt it's too much different for women, my wife has had similar experiences to mine and would agree with what I just said. You need both and when one is missing you definitely feel it. |
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