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Old 05-08-2005, 07:43 PM   #1 (permalink)
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my gf and I did it for the first time this weekend. She said it hurt a little but she was fine after a minute or two, she had like a lot of orgams, but I couldn't cum inside of her. I think part of it was that since it was her first time (and mine) I had to be really careful not to go in too deep--so i was really focused on that. Also, the condom made it so I could barely feel anything. Any advice? After a couple of times will i have to worry so much about going in too deep?
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Old 05-08-2005, 07:56 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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after the 1st time, i was going really hard with my gf.. she enjoys it!!! just be careful.. and for the condom thing, what brand was it? i had some that worked and some that just killed the buzz.
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Old 05-08-2005, 08:19 PM   #3 (permalink)
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The thinner the condom, the better it's going to feel most of the time. Kimono brand has some of the thinner latex condoms that you can buy in most sex shops. If you have lots of money, I'd suggest polyurethane condoms, which are best at transfering heat and are also quite thin. They're also good for people with latex allergies, or for those who want to use an oil based lube (oil doesn't destroy polyurithane the same way it does latex)

Edit: Why exactly were you worried about going "too deep?" Does she not like her cervix being touched at all? If she doesn't mind, then go ahead and go deeper, but talk to her about it. Apparently women have more nerves clustered within the first inch or so of their vagina than further in, so not going too deep may be nicer for her anyway!

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Old 05-08-2005, 09:05 PM   #4 (permalink)
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condoms just arent much fun, and there's no way around it. Try to use positions that make more friction when you use a condom to compensate for the loss of sensation.
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Old 05-09-2005, 12:19 AM   #5 (permalink)
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When i started having sex i hated the things. Then again, I was using the government issue condom at the time, which is more inclinated towards safety than pleasure. This helped in the sense that it re-sensitized my quite de-sensitized penis - apparently frequent masturbation can do that

Since i started using FeatherLights and other "better" condoms, sex has become a lot more pleasurable for both me and my SO. Also, try some positions that provide more friction for both of you.
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Old 05-09-2005, 09:03 AM   #6 (permalink)
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I'd definitely suggest either Kimono microthins or the pleasure plus (the one with the baggy tip) for the ultimate in condom pleasure. Also, a bit of lube never hurts (and can help get things movin when you have to stick a piece of rubber in the works).
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Old 05-09-2005, 10:19 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Also, the condom made it so I could barely feel anything.
Yeah, they'll do that. Assuming the two of you are both STD free and you're not swingers, I'd look into trying to get your girlfriend on some sort of birth control. They've got all sorts of patches, pills, shots, implants, and what not these days. You two should be able to find something that will work for you.
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Old 05-09-2005, 10:45 AM   #8 (permalink)
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polyurethane condoms are so much better than latex, I couldnt believe the difference.
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Old 05-09-2005, 10:55 AM   #9 (permalink)
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polyurethane condoms are so much better than latex, I couldnt believe the difference.
Agreed. They will cost you, but sex is worth it.
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Old 05-09-2005, 02:06 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Condoms are a little restricting to sensations, see the second half of this post. When I first started having sex, it was months before I actually ejaculated while inside my gf - for some reason I just couldn't. I wouldn't worry about it, it could be a comfort issue, just got to get comfy with your surroudings. Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you, you are not abnormal.

As for condoms, checkout some thinner condoms geared twoards pleasure. I suggest trying a variety of them and then finding the one that fits you best and that you like the most. You probably have little variety at the local drug store and theyre probably sold in big packs as well. Check out this site: http://store.condomsdelivered.com. They allow you to order single condoms from their selection of 100s of condoms. Also if you order 10 bucks or more worth shipping is free. (No I am not affiliated, just a happy customer).

I also suggest trying fitted condoms sold at condomainia.com, They are custom fit to your penis at a decent price, They made a big diffrence in bed with me they fit perfect, better sensation, and not annoying to wear.
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Old 05-09-2005, 03:48 PM   #11 (permalink)
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From a woman's point of view
STUDDED
STUUUUUUDDDDEDDDDD!
Although just for those "special" times.

For now just be gentle, as you two become more comfortable with this *newfound* activity the worries about going "too deep" will diminish.
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Old 05-10-2005, 06:59 AM   #12 (permalink)
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I had no problems with LifeStyles ultra sensitive, durex her pleasure, durex ultimate feeling, and durex shared sensation. I didn't like Inspiral and the free Kimono condoms given out at the university I went to -- thickness kills the feeling.
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Old 05-10-2005, 12:48 PM   #13 (permalink)
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going too deep? unless your porn star big or shes not aroused enough that shoudnt be an issue. also if shes more turned on (lots or foreplay) it will feel better for both of you. now as to condoms... http://www.condom.com/ultrathin.html may i reccomend the sampler so you can decide what brand works best for you?
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Old 05-10-2005, 12:51 PM   #14 (permalink)
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polyurethane condoms are so much better than latex, I couldnt believe the difference.
thats the kind we use, most of the time I can barely tell he's got it on because of the way they feel and the fact that they generate heat VERY well. I've never used any other than the ones Trojan makes, thats the ones Dave got when we hooked up and I told him I was allergic to latex.

WELL WELL WELL worth the price.
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Old 05-10-2005, 10:14 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Hmmm! This is good to know. Latex allergies suck and it's good to know about polyurethane. Heat is always a good thing.

Give it a bit of time and you'll both find your groove. It'll become more comfortable and you guys won't be as worried about going too deep. Cheers!
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Old 05-11-2005, 05:20 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Sex is like wine. Wait, no, it's like riding a bicycle.. or maybe it's playing a musical instrument.. or cheese?

Hell, the point is, the more you do it the better it gets. Congrats, be safe and have fun.
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Old 05-12-2005, 07:08 PM   #17 (permalink)
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my gf and I did it for the first time this weekend. She said it hurt a little but she was fine after a minute or two, she had like a lot of orgams, but I couldn't cum inside of her. I think part of it was that since it was her first time (and mine) I had to be really careful not to go in too deep--so i was really focused on that. Also, the condom made it so I could barely feel anything. Any advice? After a couple of times will i have to worry so much about going in too deep?
Liquid - was your girlfriend the one asking you not to go to deep? Lot's of respect for taking your time and keeping it comfortable for her.

Grab some lube, be somewhere you know you will be alone for an hour or more and take your time with her. She may be embarrased about trying different positions just yet but keep this in mind: if your having sex in missionary (the standard) position, once you are comfortably inside of her and on top of her, you can slowly move your body up so that your hips are about 1 inch higher than hers.

You should feel the angle that you are in her at change a little and give you more pressure on top of your penis, and in turn give her more pressure in the right spot as well. Everyone wins! Once you get comfortable with how things work for you - those little adjustments up, down or wherever can make you a stud!!

Don't worry about your orgasm or even hers right now - she will remember you taking your time and making her comfortable and when they are comfortable that'swhen it's best for you. Have fun - stay safe
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