Jay You Dee

Okay, to be quick and to the point - I did something tonight without thinking about the consequences, and now it's really starting to eat at me.

So tonight, I go over to my girlfriend's house to hang out with her because she's been working a lot and I haven't got to see her. Well, here lately (since September 7th, 2004) we've decided that not having sex is the best thing because we both have too much ambition in life to have it dampened a little by her getting pregnant (we plan on getting married somewhere down the road, once we get out of college down the road). Well, as usual we were playing around, and she started giving me head... then as she rolls over to get a drink of her coke (it feels better when her mouth is cold!), I jump on top of her.

She smiles and says,"What do you want Mr.?" I smiled and started sliding it in - which she was cool with, it was mainly my thing on no sex. After about a minute of this unprotected sex (first time for that, mind you), something hit me and I was like,"What are you doing? You idiot!" So I pulled out and after we talked about it, she understood.

Well, on the way out to my car, I started to get that same stupid feeling about it that I always used to get (I'm wierd ). Now, out of habit, I still make sure she takes her birth control pill everyday, but today was the last day of her package... so she will start her period on Thursday I believe.

My question: In that minute I was in there, is there any higher risk of her getting pregnant, than if it were a week or two ago, since she was on her last dose of her birth control? Most of the time I wouldn't worry about it, and just wait it out... but this fell kind of on that fine line so i'm really just confused as hell. Any insight on this matter would be very helpful... or if not, I guess I can always find out Thursday! =/

AngelicVampire

I would go and get the morning after pill, principle is better safe than sorry... you have 72 hours (normally though sooner = better)

maleficent

If she's on birth control, and taking them properly, then there's a 99.7 percent chance you have nothing to worry about, however to cover yourself for the last .3 percent, or that she hasn't taken the birth control pills properly, go to Planned Parenthood today and get emergency contraception. (Oh, and she has to go, you are welcome to go with her, but I strongly doubt that they'd give the pills to you for her)

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ratbastid

Odds are extremely good that you have nothing to worry about. There's no such thing as 100% sure, but millions of couples do what you did with exactly the amount of insurance you have, and don't have babies.

drakers

If you were only in there for a minute the chances that the precum that may have come out, is minimal for causing pregnancy. If she takes the pill regularly and you were having sex for like a minute, chances are that she is no where near pregnant. I wouldn't recommend the morning after pill, because you really didn't even have sex any length of time to have it matter. Trust me you know when there is something wrong, because you know when you cum. As long as you didn't you should be fine.

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filtherton

She's only pregnant if you have super-sperm and/or incredibly good/bad luck.

noodles

only thing you have to worry about is being an extreme tease, huh

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kutulu

You are fine. The whole point of BC is so that you can have sex without a condom

SiNai

Ha! No, I wouldn't worry about it. My ex and I had unprotected (no condom) sex every once and awhile, despite our best intentions, she was always on birth control and usually I used a condom too for the added protection. If you guys want sex, do it that way- condom and birth control. It'll probably happen sometime if you are already "getting married down the road". Worrying is no good. She messed up one month and put the patch on a day or two late and I went inside her one night, we were so nervous that she missed her period by a week that month, and she is usually very regular. It was March 6th that her period started- We always celebrated anniversaries and "Starting Days" from then forward

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Shizukana

Very very small chance of anything bad happening... if you were only in there for a minute, the only thing that had a chance of getting anywhere was precum. Now, that generally has a higher concentration of sperm than regular semen... but honestly, with her on the pill and you not actually ejaculating inside her, I'd say chances are 1/1000 lower that she gets pregnant.

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Cimarron29414

I concur that there is little chance and I wouldn't do ANYTHING.

However, you seem to be a very high-strung creature. I highly recommend you learn how to relax before you blow a gasket, man! If you put all these crazy ass rules on sex, she is going to find someone without so many issues. She clearly wants sex, and you teasing her. Take it for what it's worth.

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caz

I know that this situation is a matter of great importance and it is easy to get overloaded with thoughts of "what if" but I think that you have nothing to worry about. Relax a bit... chances are very slim

Jay You Dee

Thanks for the input guys. Always makes me feel better to read good things here As for the high strung thing and getting overworried - this never started until one day she got really worried about it about 6 months ago. I've basically had a complex ever since. Anyhow, thanks again! She's sitting upstairs, guess i'll go brighten up and take her out or something~

Jay You Dee

Hmm, okay now I'm baffled.

After all the worrying, I kept thinking,"Only gotta wait until Thursday to see if her period comes!" Well, yesterday (Wednesday) morning about 10am she comes over to my house and tells me she's started her period. I've known the girl for 2 years and she's always started her period like clockwork 3 days (stops pill on Monday, starts period on Thursday) after taking her last BC pill. I've noticed though, this month she took her pill of the mornings instead of really late at night like usual... So could the taking the pill 12 hours earlier in the day make her start her period a whole day early? Or by the grace of God was I allowed to find out a day early whether or not? Or is there some super-secret thing I can't find in Google that would lead me to believe she's pregnant?

I'm not really that worried now, just kinda lost

d*d

women aren't machines you know, It's good that you have an interest in her cycles but this is bordering obsessive

Jay You Dee

Eh, a little obsessive on the whole "What if she's pregnant?" thing, yes. But all the information about her period is basically volunteered. I guess that's one reason I love her so much, we can talk about anything and everything at all and there's really no lines to be crossed. I dunno, I just have a lot of time to sit and think every night, so little small things tend to get blown out of proportion in my mind very frequently.

kitsune

it's possible to get pregnant off of "pre-cum", the fluid that comes out during arousal but not before ejaculation, but that's only if the pre-cum contains sperm: and i beleive if the male hasn't had any sperm pass through in a while, then the pre-cum is most likely clean of any sperm. i guess it depends on how resilient your sperm is, or when the last time you ejaculated was. but i wouldn't go just from that, it's still really unsafe i think and pulling out isn't a good method of protection either way. i think you're probably safe though, but you probably know by now seeing as how this was posted last year!

alec

you didnt cum in her and she's on birth control, i dont think you have a thing to worry about. at least from my view points, considering the amount of girls ive cummed inside sans any birth control. but maybe thats because i am an adaqauate alpha male.