For the Guys: Assignment for the weekend - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

ShaniFaye · 01-14-2005, 04:53 AM

(yes I brought this ide over from the ladies lounge so if you wanna see the roots its here http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=80947 but remember not to post in it!!!)

I dont think some guys (not all, some of you are the type that are WELL aware what this can mean to a girl) really understand what it can do for a woman when they are called beautiful. Its different from being called sexy, attractive, hot, etc. I know for me when Dave says it it makes me all tingly and I stand a little taller (kinda hard to do since Im only 5'2 but you know what I mean lol)

So at some point this weekend, out of the blue, (those of you that dont already do it) tell your SO she's beautiful and see what happens!!!

IowaEric · 01-14-2005, 05:07 AM

I do it daily so its probably lost some of its effect, but seriously, there are at least 2 to 3 times every day where I see my SO in these little "moments" where she is, absolutely beautiful. I'm totally in love.

st33lr4t · 01-14-2005, 05:37 AM

i call my woman beautiful a handful of times during the day. i like to use it as kind of a nickname....like if we are going out..."ok beautiful, are you ready to go?" she likes it...which makes me happy.

brianna · 01-14-2005, 05:47 AM

Not to discourage anyone from complimenting anyone else (SO or not) but i would prefer an honest unsolicited compliment over a blanket "you're beautiful" given (potentially at least) with a lack of sincerity.

With that in mind i'd like to encourage everyone (not just guys) to be more aware of the people around you and more freely voice the compliments that naturally occur to you.

Daoust · 01-14-2005, 05:48 AM

I rarely bring out the 'beautiful' guns as much as I probably should, but last night as I was going to bed, I was looking at a picture of my wife and I on our wedding day, and I went to her and said 'do you know what? You were a beautiful bride.' I later clarified that I still think she's beautiful, but in particular, on our wedding day, she was radiant.

As for what happens? I went to bed and she watched the rest of ER.

DewMan · 01-14-2005, 10:20 AM

Whenever I do that, she gets suspicious.

caz · 01-14-2005, 10:23 AM

Actually I make a habit of using beautiful or gorgeous... You have to be careful who your saying it to. Using it to frequently or to the wrong person can give people the creepy vibe

stonegrody · 01-14-2005, 10:43 AM

I told my gf she was beautiful last night. It put a big smile on her face. I have no problem doing it again this weekend as I'm sure she still will be.

Jim Kata · 01-14-2005, 11:01 AM

Only say it when you mean it...

doncalypso · 01-14-2005, 11:51 AM

All I can say is that experience has taught me to keep my thoughts to myself when it comes to relationships. More often than not, women act like they want to know what their man thinks and feels, but they can't handle what's really going on in our heads.

ShaniFaye · 01-14-2005, 11:55 AM

That may be true about a lot of women, but not all of us......especially me

the_marq · 01-14-2005, 12:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by doncalypso

All I can say is that experience has taught me to keep my thoughts to myself when it comes to relationships.

So secrecy is the key to a strong relationship?

Well if that works for you...good luck man. Seems counterintuitive to me.

Charlatan · 01-14-2005, 12:26 PM

I say it to my wife quite frequently... she thinks I say it because she is my wife... she just doesn't seem to get the fact that I think she's beautiful.

I just ignore her insecurities and keep telling her... of course sometimes I have to pull out the big guns and show her the erection she's given me but that just makes her roll her eyes...

Bacchanal · 01-14-2005, 12:40 PM

I have no SO, but I call women "beautiful" and "gorgeous" all the time. Not all women, but ones that attract me, and I know it wont offend.

degrawj · 01-14-2005, 02:08 PM

i ALWAYS called my SO's beautiful. beause i know it's important, and i think it's important too, and they were beautiful! but alas, i don't have an SO anymore. :-(

omid · 01-14-2005, 02:54 PM

sometimes i just have to stare in awe at my girlfriend and how beautiful she is and i say it too ("you're beautiful").

i have yet to get the response i want. usually she shrugs it off and BARELY blushes (lol) or doesn't say anything. she's pretty self-conscious so i guess that's hurt her esteem. dunno. i say it about every day too.

ShaniFaye · 01-14-2005, 03:03 PM

well if it doesnt make your women just wanna jump all over you then I must be a freak, cause thats what it does to me

herostar · 01-14-2005, 03:27 PM

I'm in!

I'll report back after I do it...

doncalypso · 01-14-2005, 05:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by the_marq

So secrecy is the key to a strong relationship?

Well if that works for you...good luck man. Seems counterintuitive to me.

Of course secrecy is not conducive to a strong relationship. However, it has been my experience that some things are better left unsaid because most women seem unable to cope with the truth when they pose certain questions pertaining to a man's thoughts as well as his past.

slimshaydee · 01-14-2005, 06:17 PM

I just rang my gf and I said
"guess what"
and she said "what"
and I said "you're beautiful"
and she said "aww thats cute"

it does work.

xxSquirtxx · 01-14-2005, 07:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Charlatan

I say it to my wife quite frequently... she thinks I say it because she is my wife... she just doesn't seem to get the fact that I think she's beautiful.

I just ignore her insecurities and keep telling her... of course sometimes I have to pull out the big guns and show her the erection she's given me but that just makes her roll her eyes...

That's it -- the two of you are pod people and have replaced my husband and me. LOL

Suave · 01-14-2005, 08:03 PM

I don't have an SO, but I may try it on a stranger and I'll let you know how it goes.

scott_p_1 · 01-14-2005, 08:30 PM

I've always had difficulty saying something like "Wow, you're beautiful"... I tried saying it to a girl the other day, and it just wouldn't come out. I could say just about anything else to the girl, but not the "you're beautiful" line. I'll probably try to give it a try again tommorow. And damn, she is beautiful

hoosier52 · 01-14-2005, 09:40 PM

I've told my wife on several occassions that I think she's cute and I meant it in a very positive way. She wasn't duly impressed by that, and said she would rather be thought beautiful. In my male mind there are 2 kinds of attractive women; those that are what I call classic beauties like Charlize Theron and those that are "cute" attractive like say Drew Barrymore. I don't put one above the other, they're just different kinds of attractive and equal in my opinion.

Are there other men here that classify attractiveness in a similar manner?

xxSquirtxx · 01-14-2005, 10:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hoosier52

I've told my wife on several occassions that I think she's cute and I meant it in a very positive way. She wasn't duly impressed by that, and said she would rather be thought beautiful. In my male mind there are 2 kinds of attractive women; those that are what I call classic beauties like Charlize Theron and those that are "cute" attractive like say Drew Barrymore. I don't put one above the other, they're just different kinds of attractive and equal in my opinion.

Are there other men here that classify attractiveness in a similar manner?

As a female, I'd agree with that.

Suave · 01-14-2005, 11:42 PM

Yeah, I think of girls different ways like that, although different types do have higher abilities to sexually attract me normally. Plus, cute can have really wide-ranging meaning. I mean, a rat can be cute, but I don't think your wife wants to be compared to a rat (who knows? She might though).

Mr_Tickles · 01-16-2005, 06:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Charlatan

I just ignore her insecurities and keep telling her... of course sometimes I have to pull out the big guns and show her the erection she's given me but that just makes her roll her eyes...

aint that the truth

DJ Happy · 01-16-2005, 07:57 AM

I just called and told her (we're not in the same country right now) and she said that's sweet. Then she said that a modelling agency had told her the same thing an hour ago.

maleficent · 01-16-2005, 09:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by slimshaydee

I just rang my gf and I said
"guess what"
and she said "what"
and I said "you're beautiful"
and she said "aww thats cute"

That's sweet -- I'm cynical - someone ever said that to me - -I wouldn't say that's cute, I'd say What'd you do?

derektor · 01-16-2005, 11:33 AM

there's a sort of ranking system for me... i haven't really thought about it too much but certain adjectives mean more than others when i talk about someone's attractiveness. (forget about me talking about the lack there of...)

- attractive
- pretty
- cute

come to think of it, i hardly ever compliment on people's looks. it's more specific for me in the way they have their hair or shoes.

when i compliment guys though... i usually say he is hot or sexy just for the fun of it.

Mr_Tickles · 01-16-2005, 12:49 PM

just tried it... her reaction...

"I don't think i'm beutiful, but i wouldn't class myself as a minger either."

But generally, she perked up when i said it.

Cool - gotta try this more often

K-Wise · 01-16-2005, 05:16 PM

I don't have a SO otherwise I would. I use that word a lot..and I mean it. I have noticed that it does make girls feel on cloud nine for at least a few minutes though. Another thing I've noticed REALLY makes them feel special is if you give them something unexpected...doesn't even have to be something big. Knew this gorgeous sophmore when I was in HS a couple a years ago and one day she just randomly said "I have got to get the lyrics to "Here Is Gone" by the Goo Goo Dolls!" so I thought hmm I can get those for her so that night I looked em up online and printed em out for her and gave em to her the next day. Put a really big smile on her face I was surprised I mean it's just lyrics on paper. I think that made her feel really good..probably for the rest of the school day. I guess it was more the gesture than the gift itself eh? I'd recommend trying that out too(random unexpected gift) with the Beautiful..then she'll feel twice as good

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Asta!!

fallenangel · 01-16-2005, 05:41 PM

Compliments of ANY kind go a long way!

Shani this was a fabulous thread idea, i've been slacking on my posting lately so i missed it

ANY compliments, whether they be based on her looks, if she smells great that day, or if you admire the way she heats up your leftovers... let her know that something she does/says or how she acts is attractive to you.

My mood goes from shit to walking on a rainbow at things like this. *blushes.

CityOfAngels · 01-16-2005, 05:54 PM

Thing is whenever I get the guts to call someone beautiful (unless it's my SO), I usually end up stuttering or something and turning it into a funny moment rather than a romantic one. I'll be like, "Hey what's up bootiful!" Or, "You're sub ootiful." Argh I'm such a geek.

tecoyah · 01-16-2005, 06:04 PM

Beauty is found in the eyes of love
often reflected in act , and touch
are the words, those two
Radiant Beauty becomes your name
forcing my hand , trembling breath
language has no words for you
degraded by Lovely
insulted by Gorgeous
Beauty fails only as description

I have no word for you, so I give you my Kiss

K-Wise · 01-16-2005, 06:11 PM

^ I'm stealing that

Asta!!
<font size=1>j/k..no but really</font>

*Nikki* · 01-16-2005, 08:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by brianna

Not to discourage anyone from complimenting anyone else (SO or not) but i would prefer an honest unsolicited compliment over a blanket "you're beautiful" given (potentially at least) with a lack of sincerity.

With that in mind i'd like to encourage everyone (not just guys) to be more aware of the people around you and more freely voice the compliments that naturally occur to you.

I agree with this 100%

ShaniFaye · 01-17-2005, 04:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by brianna

Not to discourage anyone from complimenting anyone else (SO or not) but i would prefer an honest unsolicited compliment over a blanket "you're beautiful" given (potentially at least) with a lack of sincerity.

With that in mind i'd like to encourage everyone (not just guys) to be more aware of the people around you and more freely voice the compliments that naturally occur to you.

well a lot of you around here are aware I try to do that all the time. This particular idea had to do with your SO only...which I would hope any compliment would be given to the most important person in your life with 100% sincerity.

I guess maybe Im just one of the few that actually REALLY enjoy being told that.

Its like yesterday when I woke up and Dave was staring at me and he told me I am my most beautiful first thing in the morning. Especially when I think I look like road kill when I wake up.

Jim Kata · 01-17-2005, 05:44 AM

I can't believe that some people have to be told to say it to their SO. I can't help saying it at least once or twice a week. You know, like when you are supposed to be listening to something they are talking about, but you just can't stop staring at her face and sort of tuning everything out but her beauty...maybe its just me.

little_tippler · 01-17-2005, 06:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hoosier52

I've told my wife on several occassions that I think she's cute and I meant it in a very positive way. She wasn't duly impressed by that, and said she would rather be thought beautiful. In my male mind there are 2 kinds of attractive women; those that are what I call classic beauties like Charlize Theron and those that are "cute" attractive like say Drew Barrymore. I don't put one above the other, they're just different kinds of attractive and equal in my opinion.

Are there other men here that classify attractiveness in a similar manner?

Sounds so clinical...just go ahead and call her beautiful. Plus, I've always thought that when you love someone, you can't help but consider them beautiful in certain situations some of the time, if not all the time?

01-14-2005, 04:53 AM	#1 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	For the Guys: Assignment for the weekend (yes I brought this ide over from the ladies lounge so if you wanna see the roots its here http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=80947 but remember not to post in it!!!) I dont think some guys (not all, some of you are the type that are WELL aware what this can mean to a girl) really understand what it can do for a woman when they are called beautiful. Its different from being called sexy, attractive, hot, etc. I know for me when Dave says it it makes me all tingly and I stand a little taller (kinda hard to do since Im only 5'2 but you know what I mean lol) So at some point this weekend, out of the blue, (those of you that dont already do it) tell your SO she's beautiful and see what happens!!! __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

01-14-2005, 05:48 AM	#5 (permalink)
Daoust "I'm sorry. What was the question?" Location: Paradise Regained	I rarely bring out the 'beautiful' guns as much as I probably should, but last night as I was going to bed, I was looking at a picture of my wife and I on our wedding day, and I went to her and said 'do you know what? You were a beautiful bride.' I later clarified that I still think she's beautiful, but in particular, on our wedding day, she was radiant. As for what happens? I went to bed and she watched the rest of ER. __________________ I have faith in a few things - divinity and grace But even when I'm on my knees I know the devil preys

01-14-2005, 10:43 AM	#8 (permalink)
stonegrody Brooding. Location: CA-USA	I told my gf she was beautiful last night. It put a big smile on her face. I have no problem doing it again this weekend as I'm sure she still will be. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality. Embrace this moment. Remember. We are eternal. All this pain is an illusion. Tool - Parabola

01-14-2005, 11:51 AM	#10 (permalink)
doncalypso TFP Mad Scientist Location: Philadelphia, PA	All I can say is that experience has taught me to keep my thoughts to myself when it comes to relationships. More often than not, women act like they want to know what their man thinks and feels, but they can't handle what's really going on in our heads. __________________ Doncalypso... the one and only Haitian Sensation

01-14-2005, 11:55 AM	#11 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	That may be true about a lot of women, but not all of us......especially me __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

01-14-2005, 05:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
IowaEric Tilted Location: You'd never guess..	I do it daily so its probably lost some of its effect, but seriously, there are at least 2 to 3 times every day where I see my SO in these little "moments" where she is, absolutely beautiful. I'm totally in love.

01-14-2005, 05:37 AM	#3 (permalink)
st33lr4t Psycho Location: Dallas, Tx	i call my woman beautiful a handful of times during the day. i like to use it as kind of a nickname....like if we are going out..."ok beautiful, are you ready to go?" she likes it...which makes me happy.

01-14-2005, 05:47 AM	#4 (permalink)
brianna Addict Location: nyc	Not to discourage anyone from complimenting anyone else (SO or not) but i would prefer an honest unsolicited compliment over a blanket "you're beautiful" given (potentially at least) with a lack of sincerity. With that in mind i'd like to encourage everyone (not just guys) to be more aware of the people around you and more freely voice the compliments that naturally occur to you.

01-14-2005, 10:20 AM	#6 (permalink)
DewMan Upright Location: Salt Lake City	Whenever I do that, she gets suspicious.

01-14-2005, 10:23 AM	#7 (permalink)
caz Tilted Location: Illinois	Actually I make a habit of using beautiful or gorgeous... You have to be careful who your saying it to. Using it to frequently or to the wrong person can give people the creepy vibe

01-14-2005, 11:01 AM	#9 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	Only say it when you mean it...

01-14-2005, 12:26 PM	#13 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	I say it to my wife quite frequently... she thinks I say it because she is my wife... she just doesn't seem to get the fact that I think she's beautiful. I just ignore her insecurities and keep telling her... of course sometimes I have to pull out the big guns and show her the erection she's given me but that just makes her roll her eyes... __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

01-14-2005, 12:40 PM	#14 (permalink)
Bacchanal Laid back Location: Jayhawkland	I have no SO, but I call women "beautiful" and "gorgeous" all the time. Not all women, but ones that attract me, and I know it wont offend.

01-14-2005, 02:08 PM	#15 (permalink)
degrawj I'm still waiting... Location: West Linn, OR	i ALWAYS called my SO's beautiful. beause i know it's important, and i think it's important too, and they were beautiful! but alas, i don't have an SO anymore. :-(

01-14-2005, 02:54 PM	#16 (permalink)
omid Crazy Location: Aliso Viejo, California	sometimes i just have to stare in awe at my girlfriend and how beautiful she is and i say it too ("you're beautiful"). i have yet to get the response i want. usually she shrugs it off and BARELY blushes (lol) or doesn't say anything. she's pretty self-conscious so i guess that's hurt her esteem. dunno. i say it about every day too. __________________ Kick butt buzz-cut dickheads who didn't like what I said. The good times are killing me. Jaws clenching tight we talked all night, oh but what the hell did we say? The good times are killing me.

01-14-2005, 03:03 PM	#17 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	well if it doesnt make your women just wanna jump all over you then I must be a freak, cause thats what it does to me __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

01-14-2005, 03:27 PM	#18 (permalink)
herostar Psycho Location: South Dakota	I'm in! I'll report back after I do it... __________________ Got time to chill?

01-14-2005, 06:17 PM	#20 (permalink)
slimshaydee If you've read this, PM me and say so Location: Sitting on my ass, and you?	I just rang my gf and I said "guess what" and she said "what" and I said "you're beautiful" and she said "aww thats cute" it does work.

01-14-2005, 08:03 PM	#22 (permalink)
Suave Twitterpated Location: My own little world (also Canada)	I don't have an SO, but I may try it on a stranger and I'll let you know how it goes. __________________ "Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions." - Albert Einstein "Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something." - Plato

01-14-2005, 08:30 PM	#23 (permalink)
scott_p_1 Crazy	I've always had difficulty saying something like "Wow, you're beautiful"... I tried saying it to a girl the other day, and it just wouldn't come out. I could say just about anything else to the girl, but not the "you're beautiful" line. I'll probably try to give it a try again tommorow. And damn, she is beautiful __________________ <Insert witty and profound statements here> Last edited by scott_p_1; 01-14-2005 at 08:31 PM.. Reason: wrong smilie, lol

01-14-2005, 09:40 PM	#24 (permalink)
hoosier52 Upright Location: Indiana	I've told my wife on several occassions that I think she's cute and I meant it in a very positive way. She wasn't duly impressed by that, and said she would rather be thought beautiful. In my male mind there are 2 kinds of attractive women; those that are what I call classic beauties like Charlize Theron and those that are "cute" attractive like say Drew Barrymore. I don't put one above the other, they're just different kinds of attractive and equal in my opinion. Are there other men here that classify attractiveness in a similar manner?

01-14-2005, 11:42 PM	#26 (permalink)
Suave Twitterpated Location: My own little world (also Canada)	Yeah, I think of girls different ways like that, although different types do have higher abilities to sexually attract me normally. Plus, cute can have really wide-ranging meaning. I mean, a rat can be cute, but I don't think your wife wants to be compared to a rat (who knows? She might though). __________________ "Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions." - Albert Einstein "Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something." - Plato

01-16-2005, 07:57 AM	#28 (permalink)
DJ Happy Psycho	I just called and told her (we're not in the same country right now) and she said that's sweet. Then she said that a modelling agency had told her the same thing an hour ago.

01-16-2005, 11:33 AM	#30 (permalink)
derektor Tilted Location: Seattle, WA	there's a sort of ranking system for me... i haven't really thought about it too much but certain adjectives mean more than others when i talk about someone's attractiveness. (forget about me talking about the lack there of...) - attractive - pretty - cute come to think of it, i hardly ever compliment on people's looks. it's more specific for me in the way they have their hair or shoes. when i compliment guys though... i usually say he is hot or sexy just for the fun of it.

01-16-2005, 12:49 PM	#31 (permalink)
Mr_Tickles Upright	just tried it... her reaction... "I don't think i'm beutiful, but i wouldn't class myself as a minger either." But generally, she perked up when i said it. Cool - gotta try this more often

01-16-2005, 05:16 PM	#32 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	I don't have a SO otherwise I would. I use that word a lot..and I mean it. I have noticed that it does make girls feel on cloud nine for at least a few minutes though. Another thing I've noticed REALLY makes them feel special is if you give them something unexpected...doesn't even have to be something big. Knew this gorgeous sophmore when I was in HS a couple a years ago and one day she just randomly said "I have got to get the lyrics to "Here Is Gone" by the Goo Goo Dolls!" so I thought hmm I can get those for her so that night I looked em up online and printed em out for her and gave em to her the next day. Put a really big smile on her face I was surprised I mean it's just lyrics on paper. I think that made her feel really good..probably for the rest of the school day. I guess it was more the gesture than the gift itself eh? I'd recommend trying that out too(random unexpected gift) with the Beautiful..then she'll feel twice as good . Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

01-16-2005, 05:41 PM	#33 (permalink)
fallenangel soaring Location: near the water	Compliments of ANY kind go a long way! Shani this was a fabulous thread idea, i've been slacking on my posting lately so i missed it ANY compliments, whether they be based on her looks, if she smells great that day, or if you admire the way she heats up your leftovers... let her know that something she does/says or how she acts is attractive to you. My mood goes from shit to walking on a rainbow at things like this. *blushes. __________________ all I wanna do is - give the best of me to you

01-16-2005, 06:04 PM	#35 (permalink)
tecoyah Illusionary	Beauty is found in the eyes of love often reflected in act , and touch are the words, those two Radiant Beauty becomes your name forcing my hand , trembling breath language has no words for you degraded by Lovely insulted by Gorgeous Beauty fails only as description I have no word for you, so I give you my Kiss __________________ Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

01-16-2005, 06:11 PM	#36 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	^ I'm stealing that Asta!! <font size=1>j/k..no but really</font> __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

01-17-2005, 05:44 AM	#39 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	I can't believe that some people have to be told to say it to their SO. I can't help saying it at least once or twice a week. You know, like when you are supposed to be listening to something they are talking about, but you just can't stop staring at her face and sort of tuning everything out but her beauty...maybe its just me.