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Being beautiful is not based on physical appearance that would be statements like you look attractive or you look pretty, beauty is much deeper than that and is a statement about who the person is and what they mean to you as well as what they look like. It's an oxymoron to say you love someone but don't find them beautiful, finding the beauty in someone is a pre-requisite to loving them.

drewpy

I truly beieve my wife is the most woman I have ever met (or even seen). I am in constant awe that one as beautiful - chose me. I will frequently comment on her phyiscal and spiritual beauty. I don't make such a comment for a specific result - it just describes how I feel.

Truth is I usually get a frown and a suspicious glance that says, "oh sure, you just want to get laid ..." This, I believe, is the unfortunate by product of marriage and other distractions. Cest la vie. Whether she believes it or not, she's hot!

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flamingdog

It's true, real beauty is within. If you are in love, you can't help but see the beauty of your SO, and looks are ultimately neither here nor there.

I end up saying 'you're beautiful' most days, in one form or another, because my SO's beauty goes from her skin to the core.

Other words can go in place of beautiful, if you feel you need to work up to the big B. Amazing, wonderful, breathtaking, magnificent, awe-inspiring, stunning... they all have a nice effect. Say it when it occurs to you. And believe it when you say it, because if you're in love, then it's true.

lurkette

ratbastid tells me all the time that I'm beautiful. I used to not believe him, but now I just smile broadly and say "Thank you! And you're sexy!". Sometimes I still think he's a bit of a nutter - like when he tells me I'm beautiful when I've just woken up and I forgot to take off my eye makeup the night before and have racoon eyes and rooster hair and sheet lines on my face, but you know what? I think he's pretty gorgeous when he just wakes up to, so there must be something there that goes beyond whether you'd take a good passport photo at that moment. And the other morning I caught sight of myself in the mirror with rooster hair and racoon eyes and know what? I looked pretty damn good!

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hoosier52

You're absolutely right and she is beautiful because I do love her. It just got me to thinking a little about the word "beauty" and how it can mean different things to people; like how my wife and I perceive the word "cute". Besides, a beautiful person isn't necessarily physically beautiful. And, a man's wife may be beautiful to him but not to other men.

hognose

Hmmm.....I think the key is ongoing positive comments but limiting the over use of certain words/phrases/situations. Not sure if I am conveying this properly but I think it is important to reserve certain "things" so as to retain their special/significant qualities. Common usage becomes just that...common. I tell my wife I love her...wow..I don't know how many times each day....but catching her in the right moment and telling her how beautiful she is can have a really strong impact. For some it is commenting on beauty, for others it may be smackin her ass, whatever it is, we should all pay attention and know what little thing it is we can do or say that tells our SO how special they are to us. I am sure those special words, comments, touches, vary for each of us. But....the key is to use them and know when your partner will appreciate it. Just my lengthy .02

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duck0987

God I know that feeling, bring home flowers just to say I love you. The first thing out of her mouth is how nice they are and a thank you, the second thing is "What did you do?"

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That's funny, I had just finished reading that forum before finding this one

No SO here, and I've never used the B word myself, but does pretty count? I told this one girl I was hitting on last summer that she's very pretty when she laughs. She blushed

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projectself

you know, every now and then my boyfriend will look at me like the first day we met (ive probably only seen it a handful of times in the past year.. but thats beside the point).. and it just makes my heart melt. it really does mean a lot when my boyfriend just looks into my eyes and tells me exactly what he is thinking. i do wish it would happen more often... more often than not im left curious and wondering his thoughts toward me. many nights, ill dress up just for him, and not even get so much as a second glance before we walk out the door. i never really thought twice about it, but now that you bring it up, i'd appreciate it a bit more. wow.. some of you just sound so in love.

Giant Hamburger

Hail ShaniFaye!

I forgot about this project. I went home that night and did what you said.
This is how it went down...

GH: "You are beautiful."
Mrs. GH: "What?"
GH: "I said, you are beautiful."
Mrs. GH: "I know what YOU want."
GH: "Yeah, well you are still beautiful."
Mrs. GH: "Thank you" whilst looking at me suspiciously.

PDOUBLEOP

My wife responded with "whatever" and went back to doing laundry.

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