I wish .. my g/f gets all squirmy

*sigh*

Every time I see this thread, I want anal sex.

every time i see this msg, i wish my gf liked anal sex.

Every time I see this thread, I wish my girlfriend who loves anal wasn't across the Atlantic...

Three more weeks and I'm home for good :D

sigh...every time I read this thread I want to have anal with xxxSquirt even more...sigh

And every time I see this thread I crack up. It should read "Anal, baby!" "Anal baby," is something else again.

I know! Ever since you brought that up initially, I also laugh when I read the thread title. Commas make all the difference. :lol:

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I don't mean to fall too far off topic, but I have a related question:

What kind of preparation (besides having plenty of lube close at hand) is required before doing the actual anal deed?

Oh, i can answer that question! Lots of foreplay (not just anal foreplay)- make sure she's screamin hot for you. Lots of fingering around the anus, rubbing it gently, that sort of thing. COMMUNICATION during the ENTIRE "finger near anus" time is very important, because if she says something hurts or is uncomfortable you must STOP. You can hurt some stuff majorly back there! Now, when it comes to actually putting your penis inside her, take a dollop of lube, put it right on her anus (having her bend over doggystyle is what works best for me), rub it around the anus and a little bit inside. Take another dollop of lube (about... coffee bean sized, too much isn't good, too little isn't good) put it on your penis, and rub it allll over- head, shaft, everything. Then, press the head of your penis against her anus.

It's important that during this time you TALK a lot about what's going on- she needs to be relaxed- I *love* rubbing my clit and my tits at this time, it takes the edge off of the initial insertion. GO SLOW. Listen to what she's saying and what she's not saying- is she pressing her body against you, or pulling it away? Once you get the head of your penis inside you're pretty much past the most difficult part. From there, just go slow, letting her take the reins as far as how fast you should slide in and out- always making sure you listen to her feedback. And throwing in a couple of "Oh, baby, your ass feels so good I want to take you to a nice romantic dinner this weekend to thank you for this" doesn't hurt either!

There's also a slew of books on the subject of anal play- I really like the Good Vibrations website - check out their Sex Guide Books - there's lots of books on anal play as well as other fun stuff.

Also, I highly recommend The Guide To Getting It ON! by Paul Johannes. Best sexuallity book I've EVER read, covers everything, is fun and witty and has some *great* illustrations. :)

^ Thanks for the info Sage. Great links too :thumbsup:

I love anal sex. My wife is not into it. She just dosent like it but me on the other hand. I enjoy for her to finger me my ass If gert so good but she dosent like doing that either says its gross. Im just glad for toys

Ply her with alcohol.

No, I'm not kidding.

The alcohol will help her to relax, which is sooo important that first time. Subsequent times she can learn to control her own relaxation response, but that first time it's hard to have control over it.

I disagree- I think that the not relaxing comes from not having enough info about what to do while the act is going on. The more you're informed, the better you are at knowing what to expect. It used to hurt for me- not really hurt but sometimes it stang a little bit. Instead of tensing up, I realized that if Martel would just stop and let his penis rest inside me it would stop hurting after a few seconds.

Arm yourself with knowledge- it works wonders!

oh, and the booze thing is not recommended- you need to be in full control of your senses when you have anal sex because you can really seriously do some damage if you thrust too hard- and that can be hard to realize when you're drunk!

The idea isn't to get totally wasted. The idea is to have a glass of wine or two--enough to relax without effort. You're still in control of your senses, but the relaxation response is easier to achieve. Obviously, he wants to be sober or close to it.

Just take it easy--that's the biggest piece of advice to adhere to. Go slow and let her tell you what she is comfortable with.

I realize that is funny on your counterstrike board, but its not appreciated here.

Strange question, but do most of you cum inside when you are doing anal? Just wondering if it is a bad feeling for the girl, and when it comes out. We're thinking about doing the whole anal thing, but want to get all the info before we switch from fingers to me. Wife is a little nervous, but the more she knows, the more comfortable it is. She loves the finger up there when she is getting ready to orgasm, so we think she'll like it when I'm in there.

I vote for a little alcohol as a relaxant... seriously. The first time I semi-enjoyed anal sex (instead of just tolerating it) was when I was pretty tipsy. My bf had gotten me pretty relaxed with his fingers and tongue, but having the chemical relaxation in effect is what made me decide to go ahead and try it again. It worked!

As for pppg's question... well, I have only had my bf cum in my ass once, and it's not a bad feeling. In fact, I hardly felt it at all, since I believe the ass has less sensitivity than the vagina (nerve-wise). Usually I enjoy feeling him cum, but this time I hardly noticed.

I was worried afterwards, however, that when I stood up the semen might seep into my vaginal opening (they are pretty darn close together, after all), so I wasn't as comfortable with that aspect of it. I am on BC but we use condoms when he cums inside my vagina, so there is very little danger of getting pregnant in that instance. We just don't like taking chances with that stuff at this point.

Well, some people like it and some don't. It really depends on the individual as far as cumming during anal.

One thing that happens is that the cock gets really hard before orgasm... which can be slightly uncomfortable during anal for some people, which it is for me and because i tend to tense up ... I like it when my husband cums during anal... BUT i have him stop thrusting and just hold still while he's cumming and that feels very nice :)

sweetpea

I'm just curious about peoples reaction to this, but I really get off on giving analingus and most women I've been with like it too. I see a lot of "no way" on this thread for fingers/cocks, but how do you devotee's of anal feel about tongues?

There was some serious research I read a few years back (not fluff in Cosmo...) that looked into whether people that had been ejaculated into had better mood than people that had not (i.e were using barrier contraception).

The findings (from memory) indicated that women taken vaginally, and anyone taken anally had more positive feelings about their partner if questioned some hours later compared to anyone fucked using a condom, or withdrawal.

Oddly, satisfaction with the partner was NOT dependent on having had an orgasm.

As I remember it the research initially intended to show that intercourse to internal ejaculation (regardless of other forms of BC) caused the partners to chemically bond.

I have encountered women who confirm that the feeling of their partner ejaculating into them can make them orgasm themselves - and at least one gay guy I used to work with admitted (although it was unsolicited and caused conversation to die that day in the office) that he loved having his bf come up his ass and then spend the morning feeling it inside. A sure case of TMI.... :(

Not a problem to me, as long as it's clean.

like C-L-E-A-N....

CLEEEEEEAAAAN

geddit?

tongue... always a good thing :D one cannot deny that there are nerves there... ;)

and yes, i second the CLEAN part.... ;) I always shower, clean and do the whole bit before i let my husband anywhere near my ass ;)

sweetpea

I love it when he cums in my ass! But you must be careful about not being too forceful when you cum if she's not used to anal.

Ditto for me, too, Sweetpea. :)

YESSSSSSSSSS for me on that one. :crazy: I love the tongue FAR more than the cock when it comes to my ass. (Pun intended :lol: )

Of course it has to be super clean, but we always make sure of that before engaging in any analingus. Damn, it is hot. :crazy:

Oh... tounge... I think the greatest feeling in the whole world is getting oral sex EVERYWHERE.... when all the juice from me and his mouth just run all together down there... I think it's the closest thing to knowing what it's like to have a blow job that there is for a woman :)

Hmmm...

I must have been mis-informed...

I thought that any kind of anal needed condoms, otherwise there was a risk of infections... Can someone clear that up?

To establish my credentials, I am Quality Manager for a Sexual Health products company.

The answer is that yes, it is best to use a barrier for any anal play.

The best rule is "Never put anything into an ass and then into anything else"

If you delve deeper, you find that there are already significant levels of bad bacteria in your mouth and nose, so if you lick someone's ass and then their pussy they probably won't get problems - however to be sure you should wash before and after with a personal hygeine product that includes a bacteriostatic ingredient (like Triclosan). That prevents gut bacteria from establishing in the vagina.

Use of dams is a good way of preventing transmission of gut bacteria into the vagina, but they're not especially sexy.

If you and your partner are clean and STI free the risks from unprotected genital/anal sex or oral/anal sex are reduced. Nothing in life is risk free.

I gotta say, about 2 years ago I think it was, analingus came up in TFP chat and I was less than enthused by the idea. But, now, I feel entirely differently about it! :thumbsup: Lotsa fun and *very* hot ;)

See above. :thumbsup:

Man, this is a pretty good lasting thread.

I'm on to my next girlfriend and so far "No"

Ah well.

My thought that the ass play is taboo and therefore hot, and the fact that it is tighter than the vagina has always been countered by the fact that poo comes out of there, so I don't usually partake in it. :)

This is the best thread evar! I love reading about all the sweet sweet action!

Just bought my wife an E-glass plug that she absolutely loves! It's so hot that she puts it in and in minutes her pussy is just soaking! =D Hot hot hot!

And the tongue in the ass... that too is so very good!

I am glad this thread is up and running again!

Cheers!

What do you mean by "clean and do the whole bit"?

Also, what's the deal with enemas? Are they a requirement before anal intercourse or just a 'nice-to-have' kinda thing?

Um, never done the enema thing. I usually just make sure I've had a recent bowel movement and shower really well before any anal play goes down.

They're just nice to have. An enema cleans up the rectum pretty good, so if one doesn't like getting shit on one's penis then this is an effective method to avoid that. Just make sure that you use lukewarm water though. The use of hot or cold water will feel extremely unpleasant.

Tristan Taormino had something to say about enemas in this column:

Yes. But there are a few women who are actually able to cum without the help of clit stimulation.


Or if you’re feeling bold - start with the guy’s penis. I did so my first time and it was no problem.


Personally I don’t need preparation. Analingus, butt-plugs or fingers are all nice of course but it’s no problem for me to go straight to business - even without lube. Depends on the girl, really. It’s best to ask the girl in question what she prefers.


Loverboy always comes in my ass and I love it because I can feel his ejection when he does. The feeling is enough to make me cum, actually.