Ladies: actual penis vs. dildo or vibrator?
 

I've often wondered exactly why it is that girls continue to have sex with guys, even though they can find dildos our there that are thicker, longer, and vibrate more than a real cock.

So could anyone compare the experiences? I mean, what is it about a real penis that excites you? Is it the fact that there's a human being attached to it and that feelings exist? Do you get better orgasms from vibrators or dildos?

Thanks!

A real penis is attached to a human being. :) Really...the penis is just one part of sex, but an oh-so-good part of sex. I've been with guys who weren't the largest in the world but still were great lovers--it's all in the motion of the ocean, and you don't get the same motion with a dildo or a vibe that you do with a real, live penis. Mmm, penis.

bah wrong post cause obviously i wouldnt know :)

:wtf: How much does your cock vibrate?

how much my cock vibrates depends on if i have my high powered band in my couch turned on or not (ref from another thread)

i would assume it's the love making to a man that does it.... dildos are inanimate objects



are you a virgin?

What about those love dolls? Like the ones on realdoll.com? Would the male doll work for you?

Probably not, no. The point is the interaction.

*sigh* yeah, and that's a fact which probably contributes to my ignorance on the topic.

I doubt it. It was an honest question and this was as good of a place as any to ask it.

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It seems like it's more of a sensory thing than anything else to me. Just think of it this way...from my point sure jerking off to the kinkiest porn with the hottest women is great or maybe even using a pocket pussy to a porn like that would be awesome, but to hear the lady moan, hear her heart quicken, smell her scent feel her warmth, feel her legs tighten around you, feel her pull you closer, taste her...all of those things I would much rather have than the hottest porn in the world and I'm sure it's the same for the ladies...sure a nice big thick hard vibrator is great but it just can't full fill all of the rest of the senses and parts of sexual intimacy that they would get with a real man.

wow, that was amazingly put fpgt91

yeah fpgt91 says it.

I don't use toys at all because they dampen the sensations. I think my nerves get desensitized. So I had a choice between using toys and not liking sex with men, or not using toys at all and being really sensitive to real touch, and I would much much rather be with a real man (who is stronger than me anyway). Also, I figure that I don't want to waste perfectly good horny on a toy when I have a real partner to be with, so anytime I am horny I just bug Kel.

fpgt91 put it well.

but there is also the aspect that it really doesn't feel the same. some of the new toys are pretty realistic but they still don't have the same soft-but-hard feel to them. they are either too soft or too hard, the "give" just isn't right...something. and while vibrations are nice for some women, some of us don't care much for them. i like vibration on my clit but i find strong vibrations inside me irritating--it doesn't hurt, but larger vibrators bounce right off the bone and it just feels...odd, and not in a way i find pleasurable.

i also like the way it feels when our pelvises grind together, you can't get that kind of pressure from a toy. well, maybe from a doll but i've never used one so i don't know. plus, i love the weight of a man on me during sex (or against me depending on the position).

toys are great in addition to a partner or as a substitute when you don't have a partner--but they simply don't compare to the real thing.

there are things i like about both.. i love my toys.. all of them.. there is something erotic about pleasing yourself with a nice little vibe and there is something nasty about stretching myself out with a big rubber dong... on the other hand i would much rather choose an encounter with a man/woman.... the feelings.. the touches.. the sounds the tatses... mmmmmmmm.... damn now im all worked up thinking about all this

The emotional connexion nwlinkvxd and I have is the best feeling in the world. That's why we women continue to have relationships with men, despite vibrators or dildos that may feel better to some. Then again, a pair of warm arms sure makes me happy! :)

I think everyone has pretty much said it well except I have one thing to add. I get really excited by the thought that not only is the thing I am fucking a part of a real person who's there with me interacting and all that, but also that thing itself feels pleasure. Did that make sense? That means it's far more exciting to have someone's penis inside me than their fingers, for example. The fingers don't have orgasms or make their owner gasp with pleasure.

Besides, vibrators and dildos don't feel as good to me anyway.

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Alicia
You simply cannot compare. Sex is not only penis, it is much more all feelings and personality. I vote for real penis, but, attached to real person, I like and I love. However, dildos can be nice, especially when you are alone in the morning and... ;)

typical for a guy. to so many sex is the part they stick in us. Frankly toys are great but I cant wrap my legs around them, or feel it hand grasping my hips or carressing my cheek, his body grinding into mine as his hard long erection swells with each long deep thrust. Feeling the warm breath on my neck or a whisper in my ear. But for me where it is all beter is the feeling of that big guy over me holding me as i feel his erection exploding inside me. the warm pulses flooding in me,,, filling me..... yeah sure plastic works..

It seems like you're having trouble seperating the physical feeling of penetration with the social connection of "making love."

I don't see how you anyone could overlook that.

bumpidy

I have had lotsa butch-cock (females with strap on dildoes) and male cocks. I love em both. Both have their merits. But only one is warm and giving, pliable and real...

Toys can't take out the trash or mow the lawn obviously.

Oh God, real cock all the way. When I feel my boyfriend's cock twitching inside of me...that kind of velvety feel of the skin, they way if you really listen to your body and his you can feel it pulsating inside of you...

Real cock all the way.

Penis. Nice thread bump.
Never found a vibrator or dildo that worked for me. I don't even bother any more. Not when I have S's willing pretty much any time I'd like it. And when it's not available, I'd rather wait :)

I will admit dildos and vibrators are great for experimenting on your own and learning your body. A dildo isn't going to have hurt feelings if one way or angle works better than another. It was also a good way to work on really engaging my kegel muscles because I am doing all of the manipulation and work.

When I translate that into a real sex session, I was a lot more confident about what I enjoy, and had no problem moving my body to communicate that. It makes the sex a lot more fun and enjoyable.

So short answer.. dildo is great for an education experience that can make having the real thing that much better.

To add a twist, how good are dildos as enhancers!
Means The girl, the boy and a dildo/vibrator...

Actual penis, dildo or vibrator are all important in life!
I'm a Bisexual girl and I enjoy my many sex toys.
I got dozens of dildos.

As a non-lady, I don't have an opinion, but I do think this thread is hot, and I'm glad it got a bump. :-)

Hmmm... Great points all above. And theres also the fact that you cant kiss a dildo (well you can, but it wont kiss you back) Andddd its not fun AT ALL to give head to a dildo...its the warmth, the throbbing when you KNOW you are getting him so off...and of course, dildos dont come. * Never used one. Dont need it, I have fun all on my own. Now a vib ? thats a different story.:)

I was very confused with some of the usernames until I realized this got bumped :lol:


Anyway, I much prefer the real thing. I don't know if it's different for other women, but my orgasms are very different with a vibrator than with an actual person. It feels good with a vibrator and all, but I've NEVER hit that "oh shit there are fireworks in my head and my legs are shaking and my entire body feels like a flame" level of intensity that I feel with someone else. Probably because it's not just about the penetration for me... it's about the skin, the breath, the sweat, the mouths... the whole body, really.

Vibrators and other toys get the job done. They're reliable and predictable, kind of like a Hampton Inn hotel. But a real penis can be so much more fun because of the way it (and its owner) respond.:)

Lindy