Is my long term partner Bisexual?
 

Hi guys,

Me and my girlfriend have been staying apart for a few weeks, i have been phoning her and texting her everyday.

Anyway one night i was texting her on her phone and i asked her if she likes watching porn with me. She said yes, which she does anyway. I then asked her if she likes to watch lesbian porn which i like the most. anyway she answered back saying she likes it and i asked why ans she said she's bisexual :confused: and that it turns her on.. but after a while she said she was only joking..

I have suspected she is for a while now but im not sure, but i can say when we watch lesbian porn she gets very wet i mean wetter than ever..

What you think?

Why does it matter if she's bisexual?

I prefer les porn considerably to anything else if i'm going to watch it. What does it matter, just because a chick likes watching chick porn doesn't mean she doesn't like you! lol, don't get too stressed about it! :)

1) doesn't mean she's bi.. female eroticism is much more pronounced than male
2) many girls say they're bi just to be cool.. or at least they did that when they were in high school
3) what does it matter?

Exactly- I agree completely.

I had a girlfriend once who said she was bisexual and it did scare me, not because I'm homophobic, but because I got worried that I couldn't satisfy her. I spoke to another bisexual friend of mine (seems all the rage these days) and she helped me, made me realize that being bisexual doesn't mean she needs two genders to satisfy her, it means that if she wants satisfaction (sexually, emotionally, etc.) she feels she has the choice of two genders.

So I stopped worrying that my dick couldn't satisfy her, and started feeling better that I was the one out of many that she chose. I also expressed my worries to her and she convinced me that being bisexual didn't mean that she was going to 'run off' with a woman, or that she thought 'eating isn't cheating'. It meant nothing more than if she were straight - she had the potential to date many different people, but she chose me (and I chose her).

Anyway, after my lengthy story, my point is that being bisexual doesn't mean she's automatically going to do a threesome, cheat on you with a woman, prefer women to you, or anything like that. Just as your potential dating group is women, hers is people.

Hmm... and since she said she was, but then said she was kidding, I'd say she might be. I don't think you should try and 'help her through this' or convince her to come out or anything, just enjoy your girlfriend for who she is and if lesbian porn gets her going, then that's great!

I love to look at girls with girls in porn, they are so pretty and it's a wonderful turn-on! But when it comes to being intimate & in love, I want my man. This could be a nice way to just 'explore together' and enjoy diversity. So often we ladies act like we enjoy the bi thing best, but in reality we do prefer our man. She's just testing her boundaries and this is a healthy, fun & open way to interact. Why does everyone want to draw "lines" and make "rules"?

Thank you, Hunnychile.

Lots of girls get off, really get off, to lesbo porn. It's not a sign that they are lesbian or even bisexual. You can't assume that. The most you can assume is that they have a great fantasy life. Nothing more.

I suspect your gf is just messing with your head. Or maybe she is herself confused by her own hot reaction to lesbian porn.

Try talking to her about it.

The female body is just more attractive than the male body, soft curves and soft skin while the mail body is typically hard and hairy. I would venture to say in hetrosexual females more than half would prefer to see a naked woman than a man, this is my own survey and I don't have data to back it but atleast this is how the trend seems to go. Also lesbian sex tends to be more intimate and tender, typically what women are interested in seeing, not some guy pounding the shit of a girl with his dick.

I would say your girlfriend falls into the tender intimate kind of girl paradigm, does this make her bi? Probably not.

No No No, i donthave nothing against it and i dont worry about it.. just that if she is i would love to to express it more.. i like the idea of having a partner who gets aroused by women i think its a real turn on.. but at the end of it all i think some of you are right.. shes proberly just aroused by the same sex.. would that be classed as curious? i'm not putting peoplke in diferent catagories but i feel i dont know maybe thats the only way i can get my head round it.. i dont mean to do it. when i was a student at college i used to tell girls who wanted to get off with me hat i was gay.. and that made them more eager they wanted it.. maybe thats the same idea i dont know. with me i think sexuality is like walking into a dark room... nobody knows whats through the other side..

I think its pretty common for women to be turned on by les porn. Doesn't make her bi, but if she is, go for the sammich!!

Are you hoping she is, so you can get a piece of her girlfriend?

Trust me on this: it's all for the good.

Checking out girls with your S.O. is a good time. :thumbsup:

I wholeheartedly agree :)

She's with you and not some girl, right?

Stop worrying.

Ratbastid, I couldn't have put that any better...

Nothing to worry about; like somebody said, she's with you, isn't she?

Most of the women I've been with -- not that many, but still -- have either had sex with another woman at one time in their lives, or have mentioned that they were attracted to other women at one time or another. That didn't affect their relationship to me.

Have I ever known anyone whose girlfriend left him for another woman? Yes, but just one. But she wasn't bisexual, she was a straight-out lesbian who'd come out of a small-town background and only figured out who she was in university while she was engaged to my friend. Dude tells me later, "Well, yeah, she never really seemed to enjoy the sex that much..." So it's not like there weren't some signs. But I'm inferring that your girlfriend's enjoying sex with you just fine. If she adds a little fantasy in her mind to spice things up... well, a lot of people do that.

Yeah!! Or maybe she's got a hot friend and she'd let you watch. :thumbsup:

LOL, thanks guys. not worried nor do i worry about anything i was jus curious and no she aint got a girl. and i dont hope she does. the most she has done is get her pubic parts waxed from her lesbian friend but this was a college.. so nothing will arrise she proberly just likes watching it too please me lol

Yes, everyone who watches porn is a swinger, and everyone would love to see their SO getting it on with another person. Monogamy is a thing of the 20th century.

(shovels the heaps of sarcasm out of his way and wanders off to another thread.)

My girlfriend loves lesbian porn (esp. charmane star lol) because she loves looking and hearing the females moan with each stroke of the tounge. whatever floats ur boat and makes it easier for you to cum is always a plus.

I remember reading a scientific study that was done a year or two ago on sexual arousal when watching porn and the differences between men and women in the matter. As it turns out, men were selective about the porn they watched (would only become aroused by porn that fit their tastes) wereas women became aroused by any sort of porn (man on man, man on woman, woman on woman), no matter what their sexual preference.

I'll post the link if I can find it again.

If she's your girlfriend and you are curious about how she feels, why don't you just ask her?