Sawfmonkey

Ok, so last weekend I offered this guy acquaintance sex. And he said, "yes, I would have sex with you. But I have a girlfriend." Now that was kinda disappointing, but last night I was talking to him online and he's questioning being with her. Not because she's not cool, but because he wants to experience other people. I found out I was the cause of all of his doubt. Now, do I continue to try to seduce him? He doesn't seem to object to it...but if I'm not going to get any, what the hell is the point (besides its fun to drive a guy wild)?

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PDOUBLEOP

If you constantly work on him, he's either going to break and give it up or he's gonna stop hanging around you just so he doesn't.

Is it worth possibly losing a friend?

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Averett

No. Don't be That Girl.

(same advice I'd give to a guy... Don't be That Guy...)

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ruggerp11

meh do what you want, do what makes you happy. Just be honest with him and say that it goes no further than what it is now, unless he is single. Leave it at that and let him make his own decision.




O, and where are my random girl 'friends' offering me casual sex.... Dammit where are they?

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Sawfmonkey

I told him that he needs to make the decison himself...so yeah, I guess I'll follow that line. If he frees up then I'll snag him for some fun...

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Polyphobic

Keep in mind that if he does do this to his current girl, he is more likely to do this to you down the road.

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telekinetic

+1 for don't be that girl. Don't destroy someones relationship just to get some...you'll have a relationship someday, and what goes around comes around. I'm kind of in the same position as you, except I'm a guy, and I'm consciously deciding to NOT do anything with her because I don't want to mess up her relationship, even though she's made it obvious i could probably talk her into anything I wanted.

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SixEdxMia

Home wrecker. : X

girls should have some form of.. respect for this type of situation.
It's sad that some don't.

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Sugar&Spice

I'd say step back and put yourself in his gf's shoes. How would you feel if your guy was being seduced by some girl? You'd be pissed I can bet. If he is willing to do this to her, what would be stopping him from sleeping with you and any other girl who propositioned him? If he makes the decision to break it off with his girl then have at him.

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JStrider

suggest a 3some... you get your fun... he gets to try another girl... and his girlfriend gets some fun too....

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i8one2

You gave him a simple offer, leave it at that, and move on. Its already starting to get complicated. Is that want you want? complications.

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fallenangel

I followed the same logic, however you have to be careful because it could potentially backfire, and he may just want to keep 'experiencing' other people...

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docbungle

Leave that guy alone. Have some thought for whoever he's with. Don't start the Jerry Springer stuff.

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primal

It's up to him to be honest with his girlfriend. You already let him know that sex with you is an option if it wants it. I recommend that you mildly flirt with him and wait to see what he does. If some time passes and he doesn't respond either way then you should confront him to see what he wants to do. I don't recommend the seducing because guys have a hard time resisting and I don't think you want him to do something impulsively that he might regret. Or do you?

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Tuffy_McGee

Sawfmonkey, don't push the issue any further with him.
Instead, call me! hehe I'm a funny one, eh?

guthmund

It took me a moment to figure out what "acquaintance sex" was....I probably put a good 10 minutes in trying to define that and how to offer....

Then after reading it about a dozen times I realized it's "guy acquaintance" that's lumped together not the other....eh silly me!

No, casual sex is one thing, but this guy seems to be looking for a way out so he can get his oats sowed. I wouldn't want to be responsible for a break up because I needed a release.

If you're just looking for a fling, I'm sure there are plenty of others to offer "acquaintance sex" to.

It's not like, as a guy, I've ever turned down a woman coming on to me. I'm sure I'm not the lone rower in this boat, eh?

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Peetster

He's not married to her.
They probably aren't even living together.
Who's home is being wrecked here?

Xsas

Call him gay if he won't have sex with you.

Shades

Wow, just wow.

The rest is edited out because it was dumb.

Sawfmonkey

Wow...such animosity. Hahaha. Ok, does no one read the posts before they start typing?

First of all, when I asked him to have sex I didn't know he had a girlfriend. So don't get all up on me about that. Secondly, I'm leaving him alone as I said earlier...its his damn decision what he wants with his girlfriend.

And lets see...oh yes, final point. I do not follow the same crowd as many of you probably do. Probably not you at all SHADES! No worries though. I'm not a whore, nor do I want to be. But I can tell you that sex with someone without the complications of a relationship is all I'm looking for and there is nothing wrong with that.

Read the rest of the messages people...jeez.

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Shades

My mistake.

I would still not bother with him, for two reasons.

1) unless you are less than 4.5 feet tall and over 300 pounds, you can walk into any club tonight and go home with someone who will do pretty much whatever you say, guaranteed.

2) This guy sounds like a mess. One girl chats him up, and it suddenly occurs to him that , "Hey, I could be banging other chicks!"? And then, for all you know, his soon to be ex-girlfriend, who actually knows a computer from a hole in the ground, finds out about you, pushes her Real-O-Meter into the red, and goes psycho on you. Or just calls your phone a lot and leaves mean messages. It seems likely that she would feel upset at the breakup and would blame it on you. Why put up with the extra drama?

imkeen

Hey, you know what Sawfmonkey, its your life, its his life. You make the decisions for yours, he can make the decisions for his. You made a simple offer, its up to him to determine if he'll take you up on the offer. I really don't see what these people have against you. You couldn't break up the relationship, it would be him making the decision that might break up the relationship.

It amazes me that people think that, for instance, I can *make* you do anything. Short of having a gun to someone's head, all the decisions are made by the person.

You may end up confirming some things for him and his girlfriend. maybe a catalyst for the inevitable. If he's willing to take you up on the offer, he was going to down the road anyway.

People who go psycho on others usually end up with restraining orders and other troubles with the law.

Maybe I'm oversimplifying it, but this is how I really feel about this type of stuff.

ruggerp11

AMEN! Everyone should have such a naturalistic and open view of sex.

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Averett

Well damn Sawfmonkey, why the hell did you ask for advice here then?

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