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Old 01-28-2004, 03:37 PM   #1 (permalink)
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To give or not to give?

My gf broke up with me a few days before Christmas. We exchanged gifts anyway as our intentions were to remain friends. I had mentioned to her that my mom had bought her a sweater, should I still give it to her?

We haven't seen each other since the break. We have chatted a few times on MSN when we happen to be online. Besides the christmas present, there's still some of her clothing and personal effects that I haven't given back to her yet.
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Old 01-28-2004, 03:46 PM   #2 (permalink)
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PSH fuck that; try to take that thing back to the store and get something back for it.
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Old 01-28-2004, 03:57 PM   #3 (permalink)
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return the sweater - give the rest back if she wants it
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Old 01-28-2004, 04:58 PM   #4 (permalink)
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ummm i'd give it to her, if she was really still my friend and my mom go the sweater especially for her, its common courtesy

maybe im just being too nice
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Old 01-28-2004, 05:06 PM   #5 (permalink)
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ummm i'd give it to her, if she was really still my friend and my mom go the sweater especially for her, its common courtesy

maybe im just being too nice
I must say that i'd probably do the same, at least that way it is nolonger with you anymore and hopefully if you're still looking to remain friends it'll be seen as a goodwill gesture!
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Old 01-28-2004, 05:34 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I'd give her the sweater. That wouldn't be very friendly of you to return the gift because you broke up, especially after you agreed to remain friends.
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Old 01-28-2004, 05:51 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Thanks for your opinions everybody. I'm hoping to see her soon so that I can get these things out of here.
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Old 01-28-2004, 07:08 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Since you already mentioned the sweater your mom bought her, you should give it to her if you are going to remain friends. She knows about the sweater now and it will just raise questions if you don't give it to her.
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Old 01-28-2004, 07:15 PM   #9 (permalink)
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I really wanted to give a Christmas gift to my ex-girlfriend after we broke up, but as it became more obvious that we weren't going to be friends I gave up on that. Don't give her the sweater if it seems like she isn't that interested in being friends or taking anything from you. Sometimes it is awkward for the gift-receiver because they feel guilty. Take into account her feelings within reason.
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Old 01-28-2004, 10:05 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I would say return it, if you give it to her after breaking up it may come off as you trying to buy her back. and that would make things complicated.
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Old 01-28-2004, 10:29 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Just give it to her. What's wrong with giving a friend a gift.
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Old 01-28-2004, 10:30 PM   #12 (permalink)
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didn't your mom get it for her? does your mom not want to give it to her now that you aren't together? other than that I don't see why you shouldn't give it to her, especially if you mentioned it to her already.
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Old 01-28-2004, 11:16 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I think it depends on what sort of terms you guys broke up on...

If it was messy and theres hard feelings, then I would say no. But if you're still on good terms, or it was semi mutual or whatever, then I think its a nice thing to do.
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Old 01-28-2004, 11:27 PM   #14 (permalink)
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i'd say yes on giving the sweater
she'll see it as a nice gesture
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Old 01-29-2004, 08:13 AM   #15 (permalink)
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Give her the sweater.
In the words of the '60's song: "It does you good to do some good"
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Old 01-29-2004, 02:59 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Give her the sweater and everything else back and I'm sure she will appreciate it.
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Old 01-29-2004, 03:54 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Give.

Give her a foot in the ass.

Repay her for dumping you by being kind in return? For what reason?
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