Ace_O_Spades

Wow its been a while since i posted here, last august to be more precise, I strongly doubt if anyone remembers but i made a thread about the threesome I had with my girlfriend and another girl.

anyway, I have returned with some more sexual worries.


I live apart from my girlfriend in different towns, and the urge to cheat on her is immense, especially after experimenting with what else is out there in the threesome.

is there anything besides cold showers that can help me avoid cheating on her? i really dont want to, but as it has been said many times, men only have enough blood to think with one head at any given time

sexymama

One word: masturbate

Another idea: phone and/or internet sex with her

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Ace_O_Spades

i dont think i need to worry about anything on the masturbation front

would it be worth it to invest in a webcam? does it need to be expensive to be worth it?

wilbjammin

If you have a strong urge to cheat on her, then maybe your relationship isn't worth saving?

When it goes beyond fantasy and into the realm of possibility, then I tend to worry that there is something missing emotionally. Maybe I don't understand because I've never been able to objectify sex personally...

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HFrankenstein

I agree with wilbjammin. If you have a strong desire to stray from your relationship, then something is probably missing from it. You can either try to fix the relationship, which may or may not be more work than you're willing to undertake, or just end it and move on to the greener pastures that you've been eying.

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numist

if you have the urge to cheat, you arent satisfied, thus you arent satisfied with your g/f, ergo the relationship isnt fulfilling you.

If such is the case, is it worth saving?

Good that you care about it though. Phone/internet sex and masturbation are your friend if your just lusting after people there, but if you feel you are missing something a little more basic... It may not be working out.

Slims

That's nonsense, guys are sexually driven.

When we meet someone special, we don't sleep with other people because it isn't important anymore, and we feel that the person we are with is worth our loyalty.

But good looking girls don't stop being good looking, just no longer an option.

I would suggest that you really think about whether you want to continue a relationship with your girl, or whether you would rather have the company of others. If you decide on the latter, you need to break up with her.

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diddagirl

Think about her... and how hurt she would be if u cheated, and think about how you would probably lose her if you did.

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Phoenix

The urge will always be there, it's in our genes. The best way to not cheat is to avoid any possible situation where you may be tempted. Don't go to parties without your gf, don't invite your hot neighbor for dinner at your place, etc.

I don't think your love for your gf correlates to your urge to screw another woman. Just stay away from women, as hard as that may be. Hang out at gay bars or something.

Ace_O_Spades

i think the urge is due to the long distance aspect

i never had any urges while i lived in the same city

hopefully it all goes away when she moves down next month

jay-g

tisonlyi

If the urge vascillates, dont worry.

I think pretty much everyone gets the periodic urge every now and again...

Confess your feelings to the missus, she's probably felt similar.

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analog

If you're having "stronge urges" to cheat on her, then maybe you should go have all the sex with all the girls you want, but first let your girlfriend go about her life.

I have a strong dislike for cheaters. There's just no reason. Break up and move on if you can't control it.

skysooner

It is not unusual to be thinking of other girls when your SO is away. That is the way guys are wired. I lived apart from my fiancee for 6 months prior to us getting marriage. We saw each other about twice a month on weekends. I was living in New Orleans and there was so much eye candy that it was hard to abstain. However, when we got together, I was reminded of why we were together. It made it easier to stay faithful. Now that we have been married awhile, of course it is even easier. The urges ease up a bit with age. Just remember that it is very easy to get sex. It is very hard to get a good relationship. If you have a relationship you value, don't do anything to jeopardize it. On the other hand, if there is something missing, then you owe it to yourself to explore other avenues. However, it sounds like your sex life was fulfilling before you lived in different towns. What is it that is missing then?

air45

the solution is cinchy!

this is to rub your member many times! i stroke my cock so many time a day, i lose the count! you can even do in the public restroom, if you remember NO SHOUT!

this way, the semen count is low and cut back on horny. try this my friend and you will enjoy! there are many naked breast on internet if you need idea about stroking your swollen member.

Charlatan

Ace... go to a massage parlour or call an escort.

I don't agree with those who say that just because your desire for sex is stoked and you feel like acting on it means your relationship is over.

I had a girlfriend that went home every summer and I stayed at the University town we lived in. I didn't go looking for women to have sex with but I wouldn't say no to it if the opportunity arose.

As long as I was clear in my mind that this act was just sex... it was just sex.

That girlfriend? I've been married (happily) to her for the past 10 years.

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Ace_O_Spades

i think im gonna go get a webcam

ive never been a cheater, its strange that the urges came on in the past month

i dont want to break her heart, so im going to try to make it work the best i can

gabshu

If she´s moving there next month, you should definetly control yourself. It´s just not worth it, if she gets there and you still want to cheat, then you should rethink your relationship.

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raeanna74

Good Luck. The advice above sounds good to me. I suggest that you hang in there if it's only going to be a month before you see her again. If you still have the urge you should definately express it to her and ask her if there's anything she sees in the relationship that needs talking over. The urge to cheat can sometimes be an indicator of a problem but it is very common in long distance relationships. My first thought when reading your post though was indulge in as much phone sex as you can and I loved jay-g's cam idea. Camming is great, and fairly satisfying (though I am speaking from a woman's point of view). Stay away from temptation as much as possible and hang in there. It will be worth it not to endure the guilt and possible break up if you really value your relationship with your girl. I wish you the best of luck and all the strength you can muster.

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Ace_O_Spades

well i've been away from her for about 8 months now, but the urge just kicked in this past month. i found out yesterday that she'd be moving down in about a month

i went and got the cam, logitec quick cam pro

im excited

hilbert25

And now you can post in exhibition....


Yeah, being away from my SO for all but 2 weekends in a month has been trying at times. Luckily being an engineer has made my life a complete sausage-fest. I won't ever have to worry about cheating on her, even if I wanted to. If it wasn't for her, I'd get less action than my 87 year old grandfather.

Ace_O_Spades

well i dont know how long it will take me to get access to that forum

but we'll see when i do

Ace_O_Spades

well, as a continuation of my other thread, I'm having another threesome again tonight, same girls as before from people who remember my original thread.

I'll let you know how the night goes, but all i know is i've got two semi drunk girls who want to get it on, and im lovin it

more tomorrow

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