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Ok, so the time has finally come. I have been selected to be the best man for my friend's wedding. And how the ritual goes I guess is, the Best Man plans the Bachlor party. The problem is, I don't know shit about it. This is the first wedding I will be attending in this lifespan of mine. Yo, this is a cry help! haha.

Any good recommended internet sites out there that could help me out or hell, any ideas?

A little info that might help...Live in Houston, Texas. Thought about hitting Mexico, but if I want to live, that would be a very bad idea. =P

And also, if I posted this in the wrong section...my bad, thought it was sex related. =)
And my search feature doesn't work. /cry

Ok koo, thx in advance. =)

nanofever

Might I suggest a "donkey show" if you choose Mexico, I'm not sure what it involves, but I have heard positive feedback about them

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Originally Posted by Norseman on another forum:
"Yeah, the problem with the world is the stupid people are all cocksure of themselves and the intellectuals are full of doubt."

h45e

Why not have a long road trip, seeing how many strip joints you can visit from one side of the country to the other??

feelgood

I've been the best man and I know exactly what you're feeling dude.

Now, it's important to include the following in your plan...

Drinking
Partying (Of course, what would a party be without any drinking?)
Looking back at the good ole times

And most importantly...strippers and lots of em. Don't just stay at one place, go place to place.

I would recommend you renting a van and pile the guys back so that way, only one of you guys are the DD. Just make sure you don't drink too much *Remembering passing out in the back and waking up with a horrible smell* You'll have to pay for everything too

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majik_6

Try askmen.com

I just got asked to be bestman at my best friend's wedding about an hour ago, so I actually just jumped online tonight before heading to bed just to try and find some ideas on that, as well as any other responsibilities I may have!

Good luck, and if you find any good ideas, post 'em for the rest of us that are in that situation (I'll try to do the same)

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By the way, the bachelor party isn't your only responsibility: http://www.askmen.com/dating/datinga...ting_tips.html

Kinda daunting, eh?

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nanofever

Askmen.com is one of the worst sites in the history of the internet, like goatcx only with words instead of anus...

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I'm leaving for the University of California: Santa Barbara in 5 hours, give me your best college advice - things I need, good ideas, bad ideas, nooky, ect.

Originally Posted by Norseman on another forum:
"Yeah, the problem with the world is the stupid people are all cocksure of themselves and the intellectuals are full of doubt."

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majik_6

Eh, I often disagree with the points they make, and find that most of their articles are overly trend following (i.e. "What tattoos are stylish and coooool"), but it was the first thing to pop into my head when I started thinking of sites to check.

Since then, I've found a few other sites (I just did a search on altavista.com), but they mostly deal with the more tasteful responsibilities, and only mention the bachelor party in passing.

So far, the main things I've found are:

-make sure there's enough booze
-provide transportation
-make sure all guy oaths of secrecy are understood
-embarass/entertain the groom, but don't give him cold feet
-stay WAY on top of things (you're the bartender, the party co-ordinater, the life of the party, and the babysitter)
-make a guest list, and at least run it by the groom
-if his family is to be included (which they probably should be), make for some G rated events early in the night (such as dinner or cocktails)
-make sure the groom-to-be doesn't have to pay for things that night
-watch everybody (but ESPECIALLY the groom) and make sure nothing TOO stupid happens, especially if it's the night before (as opposed to a week before) his wedding...he doesn't need to be totally hung over with his eyebrows shaved off at the alter

And of course, remember to have fun in the midst of all the responsibility!

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sub zero

I actually live in Houston also and here is my two cents...

When my brother got married a couple of years we did like a weekend kinda thing...we had two bachelor parties. One was the family orientatted one with lots of people, food and drinks.
The second one is the one that matters. Of course go the traditional route and hit up a strip club. I might suggest either Treasures or one of the other nice clubs. Since it will be alot of people there will be more money flowing and with more money flowing more possiblity of getting attention from the dancers.
Some people might say hirign a stripper for a private show..but from experience, the club atmosphere always helps liven up the mood and you never get the anticipation of waiting for a stripper to show up.

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feelgood

Do you even have to ask?

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Fire

also, if you can do not hit a strip club on a busy night- GO ON A DEAD NIGHT- I recently performed a wedding for a friend, and we did the bachelor party on the thursday proir to the wedding- nice recovery time, but not too far in advance- we got the groom drunk and then went to a nearby club- and were the only ones there- obviously this maximized the ammount of boobs shoved in the man's face- and minimized the cost to the grooms party, who was paying for the lap dances and manditory drinks- tradition was served, and the night was memorable for all.....

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cas305

Just a thought but all the good Bachelor parties I have been to involve private strippers. If you have any escort agencies around you is just a matter of luck if you get a good one. But Lesbian shows are always a big hit! You definitely just want to make it close friens and no family and no recording devices allowed! We have had some parties so good that we are planning Blachelor party anniversary parties.

uv7piy

I haven' t been to a bachelor party in years, but the best one's were the ones were:

Top) Road trip -- once to Vegas from NY, once to Indy 500 for the weekend, once for golf/tittie bar weekend in Myrtle Beach

Second) Private stripper -- can be great or a disaster. Remember the movie "Very Bad Things". I've seen both. For the disaster, noone was looking after the groom and he ends up getting wasted and getting a BJ from the stripper in front of his future father-in-law.

Third) Tittie bar. Safe, sterile, not very memorable (which could be a good thing).

gibingus

i've done the best man trip so many times that i now decline the honor. i'm also married myself now, and by the time it came to my wedding, we opted to skip the whole attendants thing completely and i didn't even want a bachelor party for myself. we all just went drinking and caught up with all the old friends who came to town.

but that party pooping aside, here's what i learned in throwing many bachelor send offs. btw, majik_6's list should be considered law. obide by it.

everything depends on how many people you're having, and how much all of them are willing to pony up. you also need to have an idea of if the groom to be is up for going all the way. good hookers are expensive and can blow your whole budget, nasty hookers are nasty and risky, and hookups can go really ugly.

I reccomend against the private stripper route if you are a first time host. You pretty much end up with a sausage fest with a bunch of cross-eyed dudes and one chick who is closely guarded by her handler. The odds and ratio can make things uncomfortable or dull. I had pretty good luck setting up a girl on girl show once, though. Two dancers then can deal with the room better. There were about ten guys involved on that one.

If you have some minors involved, though, a cheap stripper and keg at someone's pad is the traditional route, albeit kind of sad. I had better luck getting a band and a bunch of kegs and buying a bunch of mardi gras beads and really putting the word out for a huge turnout. chicks flashed, so there were plenty of tits involved.

For your first time, it's better to hit a club, and there is a lot of talent in Houston, as mentioned above. We once got some dancers to come back to the bachelor pad with when we closed a strip joint down, which led to a pretty wild night, but that was at a smaller strip joint with hometown talent. Call around and let the management know you are coming, they might offer you a package and you might find out in a very round about way how friendly the girls are.

You should always schedule some above board activities, if only so guys have legitimate cover stories. we once played paintball all day, that kind of thing. i've always had good luck with sporting events. get a club or luxury box and rage at the game and then take off in a limo for a circus of the bars that ends up at a strip joint. you can then pick up chicks along the way who are up for partying. I cannot stress this enough, pick up chicks who are not strippers and provide pick up opportunities... the groom is going off the market, so it's fun to let him go shopping one last time. he doesn't have to buy anything off the rack, but chicks love to flirt with guys who are getting married.

gambling is also fun. you can get a package deal for a vegas weekend in a matter of seconds that will only cost the attendees a few hundred bucks each for kick ass hotel suite and airfare and food and booze is cheap. and the town has some of the best strip clubs in the country (along with houston and atlanta). i went this route with a group of four really tight buddies and we had an awesome time.

You're also right around the corner from New Orleans, that's a no brainer. Hit the gambling boats on the way over and get a kick ass room in the heart of the french quarter. You're guaranteed a good time no matter what happens after that.

one more thing, don't bring your plastic. drunken charging is dangerous. and no cameras. if anyone brings them, break them. leave only footprints, take only memories. and don't forget the cigars.

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maxhooters

the first rule of a bachelor party. NO CAMARAS!!!!!!!!! the only thing you can do is remember the party. no camaras m = no pictures = no problems in the future.

Second. to go along with that. if the father in law is there get hima dance with the stripper. then he cant say anything about it.

a hall, a house or a party bus to a strip bar it is all good. just have fun and make sure the bachelor does not remember it so feed him alot of drinks.

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MSD

I'm going to be the only one to say it, but try something non-traditional. Instead of a strip club, do stuff with the guys. Actually play paintball all day, bar-hop around the country, don't do stuff like getting a blowjob from a drunk stirpper that the future wife is going to kill you all for doing. Maybe mix it up a bit, play paintball with strippers, something creative.

People make a big deal about having to go to strip clubs, or hiring a bunch of stripeprs to come to the house and getting drunk. Try something original that you won't regret and will remember(sorry, no passing out.)

P.S. Don't rely on askmen.com for anything, they're a bunch of idiots who run a website featuring crappy sex advice and shit like that because they can't get any in real life.

tritium

Been to eight different weddings of eight different male friends of mine and NEVER been to a true bachelor party. Seems that they're either going out a style or women are become more dominant prior to marriage. The closest we came was a large gathering with large quantities of alcohol, but the bride and her friends were there too -- she'd forbade anything beyond that.

That was my Jose Cuervo night. I don't remember very much of it.

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tritium

That sound an awful lot like the Bambi Hunting thing in Las Vegas that started such a furor a few months back. It was fake too, but the organizer apparently received offers from both sexes.

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yournamehere

Amen.
I went to bachelor party that featured 2 "dancers". The whole time, the best man walked around with a video camera, and gave the tape to the groom as a wedding present. Two weeks later, the bride was sitting home alone one day, found the tape, and watched in amazement at her new husband and all his friends gang-banging the dancers.

They were separated the next day.
That's got to win some kind of prize for stupidity.

I would suggest a more low-key night.

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dami³

Strange seeing this question in sexuality but apparently a bachelor party is kind of sexual related in the States much more so than it is in Europe, well at least in Belgium, the country I'm from.

Allthough a personal stripper or going to a strip club is sometimes included here to - the real traditional way of doing it is simply to go to bars and getting the groom intoxicated with alcohol, then when he's drunk enough and is practicly begging to go home, you take away all his posessions like wallet and mobile phone, watch etc (you can even strip him, but that's a bit over the top - it happens, but it's not very common practice - I wouldn't advice it) and then just drop him somewhere in a desolated place in a location far enough away from where he lives (upto a 100 km) late at night say 4 am.

The rest of the crew just heads home or those who are still up to it go visit some more bars. The groom simply has got to find his way back alone - usually the bride is very pissed off because of that, but it's not like it's unexpected for her, it's tradition to do it and equally the tradition to piss of the soon to become "wife" - the more upset she gets, the more you can claim that you've held a good bachelor party - now that's what I call culture