Dating boss's daughter?
 

Ok, I am curious if anyone has ever attempted or done this... If you have tell your story...

I just recently found out that my boss' 18 yr daughter likes me, well... aside from the fact that she's hot, I need to realize that my job is at stake here (I work at an engineering firm) and its something i dont want to lose...

what to do... what to do...

nonononononononHELLNO!

Work and pleasure do not mix.

As long as you do a good job for him, and you treat his daughter well, I'd say a promotion isn't too far off! :D

And when you break up your career is ruined.


Always think of the worst case seniaro... Is she worth that?

yea... well as a side note.... I have known the family for about 11 years or since i was 9.... (due to the fact that my mom has been working there during that time), so i am well liked...

BUT yea, the fact of breaking up and losing my job stays in the back of my mind...

averett - I dont know if she's worth it... no one is really worth it unless you marry them and live happily ever after....

to be continued....

any personal experiences?

Isn't it every guy's fantasy to be with his bosses daughter?

Yeah, it's cool and all... but no. Lotsa repecussions. Unless she's older, then maybe.

Trouble, dude. Didn't even have to read more than the thread title to know that. RUN!!! Unless you're head over heels in love already and willing to ruin your career for love, don't get yourself into this mess.

Don't dip your pen in company ink.

I've always wanted to say that. :thumbsup:

Unless no one sees you. ;)

Nope, never done this before and never would. I wouldn't even date a girl I worked with, thats just a really bad idea. Plus if you dated the boss's daughter and you and her broke up on bad terms then your ass is fired...fuck that.

This topic kinda remids me of the scene in the movie Old School, where the guy screws his boss' daughter and isn't aware at the time that she's his daughter and also in high school. Man, what a great movie!

Anyway, my suggestion is that if you value your job at all, you're taking a huge risk if things don't work out with the two of you. Be prepared to be looking elsewhere for a job if things don't work out.

True love outweights everything else in life.


Do not ever believe in this quote.

HELLO! Shallow Hal... yea, how old are you? I say go for it. The only thing he could do is make your life hell, not fire you...movies are SO overrated

My dad was my Brother-in-law's boss for a while...

Man was THAT weird.

stay away


unless you are looking for a new job

Stay away...if something is meant to happen (you mentioned marriage, not me), then something will

don't shit where you eat.

even more important, she's 18. 18 year old hot boss' daughter... this has all the makings of a twisted stalker movie.

i doinked a boss' daughter, but i was a teenager and she was a teenager and it wasn't exactly the kind of job that i minded losing if things went sour.

if this is your career, and your boss has influence in your field, you don't just risk your job with him. you risk him fucking you over for other gigs.

also, if you have an engineering degree that means you're old enough to know that daddies don't like grownups letching after their daughters. they especially don't like it when those grownups are on their payroll.

In high school I had three infamous dates. Either showing cajones like a lion or brains like a cabbage.

I took my head football coach's daughter to a school dance (very small high school), well she got so shit faced before the dance that we only lasted the first 20 minutes or so and I spent the evening in the car with her Hurling every 15 minutes. When I took her home I walked her to the door and hauled butt.

I took my preacher's daughter (who was also my best friend's sister) to another school dance. Pretty much the same story only she had the sense to wait until after the dance to get faced... I held on to her belt and leaned her out the window while she puked all the way home. Again getting into the house with no problem.

Brilliant luck twice.

Third time was really close, I hooked up with a girl at a party, we went out on a back country road to sit in the car and "talk". Well while I was sitting there I saw a cop car coming, her head was out of sight at this time... (do the math)... The cop pulls along side to my window, but not close enough to see who the girl was.

Good old boy that this cop was, and knowing what was up... he says. Lightning can't you find someplace else to do that (not caring that I'm getting some, just wanting me to find a more private place)...

"Yes sir", I says... the girl still going to town keeping low so as not to be seen...
You see the cop was her father!

He never knew...
I dropped her off several blocks from her house so he couldn't see my car and put two and two together. I'd have been so dead.

Big balls or no brains?....
You decide

No brains :p

Well maybe the brains were there... just in the wrong part of my anatomy. lol

Uh... big balls with a combination of no brains... most dangerous combination. :p

Anyways, back to the original post... if you want to date her, go for it. You're about 20, right? You've known the family for 11 years, right? It's really up to you to decide how her daddy would handle it if the two of you broke up. Better yet, how would he handle it if the two of you dated?

well... interesting comments... sounds like i am opening up the coffin for myself...

On a different note, let me give you a little more background, I am working at this firm while going to school (getting my engineering degree, a few more semesters to go). My mom, who is a manager, has worked with the company for over 11 years, needless to say, She has worked with the Boss and is also trusted... Now, I have been around the company since i was like 9 or 10, I used to hang around often (days off of school, or sick, etc) so i was well known by the Dad (boss). I also attended a few festivities of the Boss's Kids, like birthday parties, and bat mitzvah's...etc

So basically I am WELL known by the mother and father (boss). Now, I dont plan on jumping into anything serious IF i decide to go along with it, AND i would DEFINITLY ask the dad's (boss) permission prior to begining ANYTHING... Again, its something that i would "try" to begin as friends, and slowly move into something else... But... I understand where all the negative answers are coming from... but hey, thats the price you gotta pay sometimes... You gotta live on the edge a little too...

Besides, Im not a bad guy, and I know that the parents like me... I think the only thing that would be a problem is our age difference... I definitly AM NOT gonna do anything behind there backs though.... so i shall see where this all leads...

you guys made some funny comments though.... I like the Shallow Hal one... (it worked out finally right? AND he got to keep his job!!!) hahaha.....

I have to say, this is a situation you should stay away from. Don't even open Pandora's box. If this all goes to hell, you can recover from the fallout, but your mom will be stuck at ground zero. You're basically interning there, but your mom has a career.
There will be other girls.

You're joking right? Not only would his life become hell if things took a wrong turn.. but then the boss would fire him on the slightest error. You really don't need much to be fired when you think about it, but normally they just let it slide before it becomes a real problem. They don't have to do that though. Also.. do you want to work somewhere KNOWING you'll never get a promotion.. but instead demoted to the lowest rank? Not to mention, after all this, you can't use the job as a reference as the boss will be sure to give you most negative review. Think about that again man.. "going for it" isn't cut and dry...

you might as well date your best friend's sister!

Ever seen Armageddon? Look what happens in that film and there's your answer. But make sure you remember that you wont be saving the world or anything.

BAD NEWS!!!! BAD! BAD! BAD! No matter how good things are, unless you end up have the perfect marriage, nothing good can come of this! It took me 2 times before I learned my lesson!

Run the other direction!!!!!!!

tread lightly ................................very lightly when you least expect it............................WHAM drama

Right on. No matter how mature and old this gal is she's still going to be "daddy's little girl." Regardless of how well you fit into the family it will change when you start dating the boss's daughter. Instead of being that nice kid who came to all the kid's parties, you're going to be that slimeball jerk who's trying to boff my little girl. :)

Maybe you see it differently, but I'd avoid this chick like a leper with the plague.

If you really want to date her, and she wishes to date you, I'd say talk to her father first.. he's the one you need trust in. It also depends on the man he is. My old man wouldn't fire someone for breaking up with my sister? Why because he needs workers, and if you're a good one I doubt he'll wish to replace you. It's your chess game, where are you putting your pieces?

wow... im speechless... these are some great replies (even though 90% of them against)... yea, luckily i have another two weeks to make my decision on what to do... all i know right now, is it will be a VERY....s.....l......o.....w.... process...

i will agree that its a potentially dangerous situation... but then again, it might be something great... i dont know that yet... i am the only one that can really tell.. which is something i will need to see for myself...

this is becomming tougher than i thought..

keep the replies coming!

No way man... That's bound to be nothing but trouble.

Go for it, it could open new doors for you.

As long as you treat her like a princess, you will have no problems, right?

Life is about taking risks!

Just remember, if you dont go out with her, you might become distanced from her, and your relation with her family will diminish. If not, then you're still stuck where you are.

If you go out with her, and since you already have a good relationship with the family(which usually means she's been talking about you to them) then there is no reason why they wouldnt welcome you into their family. Then you have great potential for advancement, provided you do a good job of course.

While I've been agreeing lately with a lot of things that Cobra says, do not, DO NOT use this as an opportunity for advancement. Don't. Ever. Do. That.

Of course not. :)

I should have worded that better, sorry.
I just meant that the opportunity for advancement was an added bonus. :lol:

My cousin is an engineer, dated the daughter of his boss at his engineering firm. Daughter breaks up with him to date/marry another guy. My cousin was phased out of the company over a period of a month by reducing his work hours until he didn't have any more. Moral of story: Want you job? Stay away from boss's daughter.

Even after the extra info, i'd still say no. I really believe it has a lot of potential for blowing up in your face, and creating a mess for something so important as a job.

But then, i don't think i can count the times when i've asked for advice from friends, and they said don't do it, but i did it anyway... people are like that :P

Well, whatever your decision, all the best to you, dude :)

It's a job, you're only 21, you have you're whole life ahead of you. Have fun with the 18 year old princess. :)

Not a good idea if you have any career aspirations there. If it is just another job, go for it.