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Tool123 · 12-04-2003, 04:10 PM

Ok so me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 3 weeks now and last weekend she gave me a handjob and now she is regreting that because she did it for the wrong reasons...she wants to wait alittle longer (3 weeks) until we start doing that stuff on a regular occasion...what should i do? or say?

monstermash · 12-04-2003, 04:19 PM

don't pressure her. how old are you guys? pretty young, i assume. let her know you still have respect for her. when she's more comfortable talking about it, make sure you tell her she was very good at it

mikepeca18 · 12-04-2003, 04:24 PM

I would ask her if there was something wrong with her mouth.

strcrssd · 12-04-2003, 04:28 PM

Just go with it...Take it at the speed which both of you are comfortable.

Girls are more sensative about these things, probably because of the "slut" social stigma.

Evil Milkman · 12-04-2003, 04:33 PM

Take your time, and you'll both know when it's time to advance the relationship physically. I know it might be hard at times, but it's worth it end the end if you can naturally let the relationship become a little more comfortable. Take care, and good luck!

SecretMethod70 · 12-04-2003, 04:43 PM

Let's try to put this in perspective. I don't know how old you are - but I'm guessing pretty young. Humans typically live to around 75 years of age. She wants to wait 3 more weeks you say before getting more physical with you?

I say respect her wishes and wait and just enjoy getting to know her. No need to rush things

Averett · 12-04-2003, 05:02 PM

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Originally posted by mikepeca18
I would ask her if there was something wrong with her mouth.

Wow, how very nice of you.

Give her time and talk to her about it. What did she regret? What are the wrong reasons she was talking about?

Like SecretMethod said, you've got plenty of time, no need to rush.

ratbastid · 12-04-2003, 05:05 PM

What should you do? You should wait three weeks and be grateful you've got a woman who knows what she wants and needs, and isn't afraid to tell you.

lurkette · 12-04-2003, 05:23 PM

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Originally posted by ratbastid
What should you do? You should wait three weeks and be grateful you've got a woman who knows what she wants and needs, and isn't afraid to tell you.

Fuckin' amen to that! Our first several years together would have gone so much more smoothly if I'd had the wherewithal to know what I wanted and said so.

Respect her wishes, go at her pace, be patient.

skysooner · 12-04-2003, 08:39 PM

If you push the issue, she's gone. She did something intimate and then had second thoughts that maybe she was a slut for doing it so quickly. Let her know it is okay and that you appreciate and respect her. She may or may not make you wait the 3 weeks. Girls have strange rules like that, but these rules are also easily bent if they like you and you treat them right.

absorbentishe · 12-04-2003, 08:49 PM

Dude, even after 3 weeks and she still doesn't want to "do" anything, don't push it. It will happen when she's good and ready. So in the mean time, just take care of it yourself, and let cards fall.

OFKU0 · 12-04-2003, 09:07 PM

Tell her you can wait for her to play with your gear but ask how soon can you play with hers.Maybe she just needs the right stroking to get into a groove.

dragon2fire · 12-04-2003, 09:07 PM

as a rule of thumb if you are only looking for the relationship to be physcial it wont last

be paeint go at her speed and let her know what you want form the realationship and ask her what she is looking for

analog · 12-04-2003, 09:19 PM

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Originally posted by ratbastid
What should you do? You should wait three weeks and be grateful you've got a woman who knows what she wants and needs, and isn't afraid to tell you.

HELL YES. Trust me, you are way ahead of the game if you have a girl that openly communicative. Other guys have to deal with a girl who will be mopey and cry for a week saying "nothing is wrong", and then fall apart one day.

And what the fuck is so wrong with waiting for 3 weeks? Are you such a player deluxe you can't be bothered with waiting for it? If you can't wait to be physical for such a short period of time, it's not a relationship, it's fuck buddies.

m0ntyblack · 12-04-2003, 09:46 PM

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I would ask her if there was something wrong with her mouth.

hahahaha

Anyway, I'd agree with the take it slow vote, but if you need to, here's my patented little trick for speeding things up: Learn to kiss well. In my experience, there's nothing that gets a woman going quite as well as a good kiss. I've had an avowed virgin who "wouldn't go all the way until marriage" literally asking me to deflower her within 2 dates, just by the wonders of my lips. (And, just FYI, I told her no...that's another thing, when SHE brings it up, act coy...drives them wild).

As to developing a good kiss.....that's a secret I won't pass out.

MB

OFKU0 · 12-04-2003, 10:52 PM

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Originally posted by m0ntyblack

Anyway, I'd agree with the take it slow vote, but if you need to, here's my patented little trick for speeding things up: Learn to kiss well. In my experience, there's nothing that gets a woman going quite as well as a good kiss.

In my experience, there is nothing that gets a women going quite as well as a guy who can lick pussy til a chick orgasms so hard she doesn't know what day it is. That's my trick for speeding things up. Diver down.

m0ntyblack · 12-05-2003, 10:08 AM

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there is nothing that gets a women going quite as well as a guy who can lick pussy til a chick orgasms so hard she doesn't know what day it is

While a good session of eating pussy will do amazing things for a chick, there ARE some chicks that actually prefer a good deep dickin'. Also, if you aren't to the point of being that intimate (and I'm assuming this guy isn't, having just gotten a handjob), there is NOTHING better than a good kiss.

MB

la petite moi · 12-05-2003, 10:43 AM

Just don't pressure her. Continue to encourage her to be more open and trusting, as that is probably what is haunting her. Don't worry.

Jedbeck · 12-05-2003, 11:09 AM

If you continue to be kind and treat her the way she deserves to be treated the reward could be oh so much better than you have experienced thus far.

Dilbert1234567 · 12-05-2003, 05:22 PM

go as slow as she wants, no need to force or put any pressure on any one. the last thing you need is a rape charge.

uv7piy · 12-05-2003, 06:02 PM

3 weeks? I have to wait that long sometimes and I've been married for 10 years.

31Friction · 12-05-2003, 06:57 PM

you should... wait.

12-05-2003, 08:29 PM

If you respect her, you will respect how she feels and not pressure her. Keep it cool.

OFKU0 · 12-05-2003, 08:36 PM

I'll bet she is telling you she wants to wait because she doesn't want to be your girlfriend and she doesn't want to hurt you only because she is seeing more guys she'd rather be hanging with.

Sorry but someone had to say it. Girls know what they want at any age.

NoCure · 12-05-2003, 08:48 PM

Yeah, just wait a bit longer. Your penis will be happy that you did

Pragma · 12-05-2003, 09:25 PM

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Originally posted by OFKU0
I'll bet she is telling you she wants to wait because she doesn't want to be your girlfriend and she doesn't want to hurt you only because she is seeing more guys she'd rather be hanging with.

Sorry but someone had to say it. Girls know what they want at any age.

I'd guess you're wrong on it. Girls, especially those who have never had sexual contact with a guy before, are often times very nervous about this sort of thing and oftentimes need time to just take a breath and think this over.

Still, we'll see what happens.

herostar · 12-06-2003, 12:02 AM

just wait it out... you can always jerk off for a couple more weeks...

monkeysugar · 12-06-2003, 12:36 AM

A few general guidelines if you're interested in a relationship: Be patient, respect her choices, don't pressure her. Above all, do not go tell your friends about the physical aspects of your relationship. For one thing, it WILL get back to her. NOT GOOD. And for another, your friends probably don't want to think or hear about anything involving your dick.

Pragma · 12-06-2003, 11:06 AM

Very good point, monkeysugar. Do not not tell anyone you know in real life about this. It will only make her decide that she doesn't ever want to do it for you again.

SAM821 · 12-06-2003, 11:31 AM

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Originally posted by mikepeca18
I would ask her if there was something wrong with her mouth.

thats was HILARIOUS!

but seriously... like everyone else is saying, just wait it out.... there is no need to rush... Its actually better sometimes when you wait, cause when you FINALLY go all the way its going to be 10 times better cause of how BAD you want it...

have fun, and tease her a little, that way she gets more in the mood and make her feel comfortable so that she is confident that what she is doing is fine...

good luck and have fun

12-04-2003, 04:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
Tool123 Upright	My girlfriend REGRETING what we did last night Ok so me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 3 weeks now and last weekend she gave me a handjob and now she is regreting that because she did it for the wrong reasons...she wants to wait alittle longer (3 weeks) until we start doing that stuff on a regular occasion...what should i do? or say?

12-04-2003, 04:28 PM	#4 (permalink)
strcrssd Insane Location: Rio Grande Valley, Texas	Just go with it...Take it at the speed which both of you are comfortable. Girls are more sensative about these things, probably because of the "slut" social stigma. __________________ "I can't understand why people are frightened of new ideas. I'm frightened of the old ones." -- John Cage (1912 - 1992)

12-04-2003, 04:43 PM	#6 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	Let's try to put this in perspective. I don't know how old you are - but I'm guessing pretty young. Humans typically live to around 75 years of age. She wants to wait 3 more weeks you say before getting more physical with you? I say respect her wishes and wait and just enjoy getting to know her. No need to rush things __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling

12-04-2003, 09:07 PM	#12 (permalink)
OFKU0 Junk	Tell her you can wait for her to play with your gear but ask how soon can you play with hers.Maybe she just needs the right stroking to get into a groove. __________________ " In Canada, you can tell the most blatant lie in a calm voice, and people will believe you over someone who's a little passionate about the truth." David Warren, Western Standard.

12-05-2003, 05:22 PM	#20 (permalink)
Dilbert1234567 Devils Cabana Boy Location: Central Coast CA	go as slow as she wants, no need to force or put any pressure on any one. the last thing you need is a rape charge. __________________ Donate Blood! "Love is not finding the perfect person, but learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." -Sam Keen

12-04-2003, 04:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
monstermash Upright	don't pressure her. how old are you guys? pretty young, i assume. let her know you still have respect for her. when she's more comfortable talking about it, make sure you tell her she was very good at it

12-04-2003, 04:24 PM	#3 (permalink)
mikepeca18 Upright Location: Buffalo, NY	I would ask her if there was something wrong with her mouth.

12-04-2003, 04:33 PM	#5 (permalink)
Evil Milkman Addict Location: Illinois	Take your time, and you'll both know when it's time to advance the relationship physically. I know it might be hard at times, but it's worth it end the end if you can naturally let the relationship become a little more comfortable. Take care, and good luck!

12-04-2003, 05:05 PM	#8 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	What should you do? You should wait three weeks and be grateful you've got a woman who knows what she wants and needs, and isn't afraid to tell you.

12-04-2003, 08:39 PM	#10 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	If you push the issue, she's gone. She did something intimate and then had second thoughts that maybe she was a slut for doing it so quickly. Let her know it is okay and that you appreciate and respect her. She may or may not make you wait the 3 weeks. Girls have strange rules like that, but these rules are also easily bent if they like you and you treat them right.

12-04-2003, 08:49 PM	#11 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	Dude, even after 3 weeks and she still doesn't want to "do" anything, don't push it. It will happen when she's good and ready. So in the mean time, just take care of it yourself, and let cards fall.

12-04-2003, 09:07 PM	#13 (permalink)
dragon2fire Junkie	as a rule of thumb if you are only looking for the relationship to be physcial it wont last be paeint go at her speed and let her know what you want form the realationship and ask her what she is looking for

12-05-2003, 10:43 AM	#18 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Just don't pressure her. Continue to encourage her to be more open and trusting, as that is probably what is haunting her. Don't worry.

12-05-2003, 11:09 AM	#19 (permalink)
Jedbeck Crazy Location: Ohio, USA	If you continue to be kind and treat her the way she deserves to be treated the reward could be oh so much better than you have experienced thus far.

12-05-2003, 06:02 PM	#21 (permalink)
uv7piy Banned Location: Near NYC	3 weeks? I have to wait that long sometimes and I've been married for 10 years.

12-05-2003, 06:57 PM	#22 (permalink)
31Friction Addict Location: STL, MO	you should... wait. __________________ "Saints need sinners." Alan Watts

12-05-2003, 08:29 PM	#23 (permalink)
:::OshnSoul::: Guest	If you respect her, you will respect how she feels and not pressure her. Keep it cool.

12-05-2003, 08:36 PM	#24 (permalink)
OFKU0 Junk	I'll bet she is telling you she wants to wait because she doesn't want to be your girlfriend and she doesn't want to hurt you only because she is seeing more guys she'd rather be hanging with. Sorry but someone had to say it. Girls know what they want at any age. __________________ " In Canada, you can tell the most blatant lie in a calm voice, and people will believe you over someone who's a little passionate about the truth." David Warren, Western Standard.

12-05-2003, 08:48 PM	#25 (permalink)
NoCure Crazy Location: Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio	Yeah, just wait a bit longer. Your penis will be happy that you did __________________ ...So I punched her in the cunt

12-06-2003, 12:02 AM	#27 (permalink)
herostar Psycho Location: South Dakota	just wait it out... you can always jerk off for a couple more weeks... __________________ Got time to chill?

12-06-2003, 12:36 AM	#28 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	A few general guidelines if you're interested in a relationship: Be patient, respect her choices, don't pressure her. Above all, do not go tell your friends about the physical aspects of your relationship. For one thing, it WILL get back to her. NOT GOOD. And for another, your friends probably don't want to think or hear about anything involving your dick. __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good.

12-06-2003, 11:06 AM	#29 (permalink)
Pragma I am Winter Born Location: Alexandria, VA	Very good point, monkeysugar. Do not not tell anyone you know in real life about this. It will only make her decide that she doesn't ever want to do it for you again. __________________ Eat antimatter, Posleen-boy!