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AfterBurn · 12-02-2003, 07:23 PM

hi everybody, saw someone in my class on this website and decided to check it out

seems like a mature crowd so i have a situation that i would like to get some opinions on.

this one girl might have liked me a little while back and i'm not sure she still does, i really dont want to be straight up about it and say something along the lines of hey do you like me, i want to be subtle about things and find out if she likes me so i dont waste my time if she doesnt, how would i go about doing this?

thanks!

PS sorry about my grammar i mostly speak french not english

jay-g · 12-02-2003, 08:51 PM

I am not a expert but you could ask one of her friends. Also maybe, you could ask her if she wanted to go for lunch or dinner sometime.

Rlyss · 12-02-2003, 11:19 PM

Instead of asking if she likes you, or getting her friends to do it, why not just ask her yourself? You said you don't want to waste your time, so it's simple. Walk up to her, introduce yourself if you two don't know each other, start a small, casual conversation, and just ask if she'd like to have a drink or grab some lunch.

If she says no, then that's ok, you won't be wasting your time anymore! And if she says yes, then you can get to know her better and things might progress from there.

And yes, I know this is so much easier said than done, but the simple fact is that if you like someone, don't say 'I like you', don't ask 'Do you like me?'. Just ask her out for a meal or a drink.

Bloodslick · 12-03-2003, 07:46 AM

The previous posters have it right. Simply ask her out on an informal date, pour dejeuner ou diner, and see how things go. Ask her out again if they go well. C'est facile.

Bon chance!

vonstalhein · 12-03-2003, 08:03 AM

Yeah, you can normally tell if a girl is interested in at least getting to know you better by following their eyes....

feelgood · 12-03-2003, 08:07 AM

Women...you can't tell shit about em! Sorry ladies!

Anyhow, yeah do a straight up asking out for a small drink or cup of coffee. Go with Dorito2's suggestion.

Averett · 12-03-2003, 09:18 AM

Yup, just ask her out for a cafe au lait

or something. If she says yes, then that's a good start. Even then, maybe she just wants to be friends. But by the end of the coffee date, you can ask her for something a little more date-ish.

Good luck

vveronica · 12-03-2003, 09:43 AM

if your trying to be subtle,, just find a way to be at the same place at the same time like lunch or library or such and just start talking, you will know soon enough...

12-02-2003, 07:23 PM	#1 (permalink)
AfterBurn Psycho	Help? hi everybody, saw someone in my class on this website and decided to check it out seems like a mature crowd so i have a situation that i would like to get some opinions on. this one girl might have liked me a little while back and i'm not sure she still does, i really dont want to be straight up about it and say something along the lines of hey do you like me, i want to be subtle about things and find out if she likes me so i dont waste my time if she doesnt, how would i go about doing this? thanks! PS sorry about my grammar i mostly speak french not english __________________ smoking weed everyday keeps the doctor away Last edited by AfterBurn; 12-02-2003 at 08:06 PM..

12-03-2003, 08:03 AM	#5 (permalink)
vonstalhein Insane Location: Where You Live.	Yeah, you can normally tell if a girl is interested in at least getting to know you better by following their eyes.... __________________ No Win No Fee

12-03-2003, 08:07 AM	#6 (permalink)
feelgood Free Mars! Location: I dunno, there's white people around me saying "eh" all the time	Women...you can't tell shit about em! Sorry ladies! Anyhow, yeah do a straight up asking out for a small drink or cup of coffee. Go with Dorito2's suggestion. __________________ Looking out the window, that's an act of war. Staring at my shoes, that's an act of war. Committing an act of war? Oh you better believe that's an act of war

12-03-2003, 09:18 AM	#7 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Yup, just ask her out for a cafe au lait or something. If she says yes, then that's a good start. Even then, maybe she just wants to be friends. But by the end of the coffee date, you can ask her for something a little more date-ish. Good luck __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

12-03-2003, 09:43 AM	#8 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	if your trying to be subtle,, just find a way to be at the same place at the same time like lunch or library or such and just start talking, you will know soon enough... __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

12-02-2003, 08:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
jay-g Addict	I am not a expert but you could ask one of her friends. Also maybe, you could ask her if she wanted to go for lunch or dinner sometime.

12-02-2003, 11:19 PM	#3 (permalink)
Rlyss The Pusher Location: Edinburgh	Instead of asking if she likes you, or getting her friends to do it, why not just ask her yourself? You said you don't want to waste your time, so it's simple. Walk up to her, introduce yourself if you two don't know each other, start a small, casual conversation, and just ask if she'd like to have a drink or grab some lunch. If she says no, then that's ok, you won't be wasting your time anymore! And if she says yes, then you can get to know her better and things might progress from there. And yes, I know this is so much easier said than done, but the simple fact is that if you like someone, don't say 'I like you', don't ask 'Do you like me?'. Just ask her out for a meal or a drink.

12-03-2003, 07:46 AM	#4 (permalink)
Bloodslick Loser Location: a darkened back alley	The previous posters have it right. Simply ask her out on an informal date, pour dejeuner ou diner, and see how things go. Ask her out again if they go well. C'est facile. Bon chance!