cdwonderful

I think I have gone and done something I said I would never do.
FALL IN LOVE ON THE INTERNET.
Do I have the proverbial snowballs chance in hell?
Or am I just fooling myself?
I could really just some of that TFP braintrust right about now..........

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sierra2774

I think it is totally possible to fall in love on the internet, you are not crazy.

It is just really hard when you find out the person is 3000 miles away.

But Love has a way of making it through....Be strong!

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redravin40

Well I can only speak for myself but it worked for me.
There are still a lot of aspects that haven't been completely worked out but the important parts seem right.
We took it one day at a time and spent thousands of hours on the phone as well.
I think you have a good chance if you are both willing to take the steps necessary to make things work.
There will be many compromises but that seem to be an important part of love.

Memalvada

Look at this:
Worst Things To Say When First Meeting Your Cyber-lover in Real Life

Its not actually advice, but you can get a few laughs

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SiN

so very true

i found my bf on the inet about a year ago..he lived in Germany and i was in MN, USA. but, things grew, and last july he came to the US to spend a couple months with me. then he went back to Germany, we spent from mid-september to mid december apart. that was HARD. sucked huge. but then, i moved to Germany, we're here now living in an apartment, happily ever after.

Good Luck!

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noodle

It can happen, cdwonderful. I married the man I met online last October. We'll be together 6 years total next March.

Cynthetiq

so long as everyone is honest with each other.. it doesn't matter where you meet, singles bar, internet, cb radio, etc.

good luck!

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Scorpio

I agree with everyone else on this one. If your right for each other whats the differance in meeting online or in passing on the street. Love just happens it dosen't matter where or how. Follow your heart.

Halx

The most important thing to do now is to communicate the absolute, complete, whole truth to your partner. If you EVER should end up meeting eachother in real life, then you BETTER have discussed everything under the sun so you KNOW what to expect.

I've had friends who didn't and they ended up flat on their ass.

COMMUNICATE!!!

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Minx

Hell yes. I think the internet can be a great way of getting to know people but the key is to be totally honest to avoid disappointment if you ever meet. We are lucky to live in an age now where location does not decide your love interest. There are no land borders now when it comes to meeting others and while that can be scary it also allows us the freedom to know people we normally wouldn't. Who said your soul mate has to live in the same city....country.....continent!
I have a friend from England who met & fell in love with a girl in California on the net. They have been happily married for years with five kids. Love those success stories!

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cdwonderful

you people are just the best! Thanks for such quick responses and wonderful advice, and hal, that avatar is just scary.

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GoldenOuroboros

Exactly what I was thinking about Hals Avatar

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riskybiz

This is (hopefully) terrific news CDW. You have obviously formed a very strong connection with this person over the internet. Without knowing more details such as if and how much/often you have spoken over the phone, where she lives, how much detail of each others lives you have already shared it is difficult to assess your real chances.

Is it possible to fall in love over the internet? Absolutely!

Best of luck to the two of you.

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Shadowman

I've been there, and all I can say is, tread carefully. Good luck!

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oscar0308

another success story here. i met my wife on the internet over 2 yrs ago and our first anniversary is coming up sunday (help! any ideas on what to do? ) and our child was born a little over 3 weeks ago. she is the most perfect woman for me that i could ever have imagined.

i do understand your feelings though cd, i felt the same way when her and i 'met'. i was just in the beginning of a divorce and everyone, myself most of all, thought it was some wacky rebound thing. how the hell could i fall in love with someone whom i've never met.. never even physically laid eyes upon??!?! after talking (IM'ing) constantly over 3 months we had to see. i spent 3 days with her and it sealed the deal. we felt we had known each other for years and knew we had to be together. within 7 months she moved down here.. with her 2 kids.. and things have been incredible.

conversely, we have known many 'couples' whom have dedicated themselves to each other.. until it was too hard. we knew one woman who fell madly passionately in love about twice a year and had 3 kids by 3 different guys.. all that she's met on the internet. she was just leaving her kids with a guy friend to meet another man that she'd known 3 weeks when she decided that our questions were insulting. another woman we knew sold her house and all the possesions that she couldnt take with her only to the 'love of her life' disappear when he was supposed to send her the plane ticket to move to be with him.

i felt weird at first, but now i hear of such success stories more frequently and i feel kinda proud to have made it work and to be happy.

if you.. or anyone else.. would like to talk more about it or compare experiences, dont hesitate to PM and i'll be sure to get back to you.

redrum

My mom, oddly, met her current hubby over the net. It can work, and there was a BIG distance between them. She lived in kentucky and he lived in wa.

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