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Old 10-16-2003, 07:45 PM   #1 (permalink)
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She won't kiss me after I give her Oral

My new partner loves getting oral and asks for it but makes a face and pulls away when I try to kiss her on the mouth afterwords. I have been able to trick her and get little smooches (while we are still fucking) but the most part she is disgusted by the thought of kissing me after I go down on her.

I actually have to get up and rinse with biotene before she'll kiss me again.

I've never encountered this before. In the past I've actually gotten off a little -on sharing the taste of a girl's pussy with her. So I'm thinking about getting her in the throws of ecstacy and trying it then...

Has anyone encountered this? The last time I've even heard of this I was in high school. Most of my ex's were bisexual so the taste of pussy was never really a problem.
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Old 10-16-2003, 08:00 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Seems like she just doesn't like the idea of tasting her own sauce. If she doesn't like it, don't try to force it on her. Eventually she might stop caring about it, and might even like it. Tell her how you enjoy it and see how she feels.
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Old 10-16-2003, 08:08 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Ah, don't fuck around with ecstacy, half the time you don't even know what the fuck you are getting. If you want want to have drug 'enhanced' sex, try some good 'ol fashioned LSD (lysergic acid diethylamide). If you need any information about LSD. visit Erowid.org's LSD guide. If you choose to take ecstacy, visit Erowid.org's MDMA (Ecstacy) Guide. For any drug related questions, check out Erowid.org. I'm not condoning to usage of illegal drugs, I'm just trying to suggest a MUCH safer alternative to MDMA (Ecstacy).
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Old 10-16-2003, 08:15 PM   #4 (permalink)
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lol dude, I don't think he was talking about the drug when he said "throes of ecstacy"
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Old 10-16-2003, 08:26 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Oh well, if he was, he shouldn't, MDMA is some fucked up shit. Ecstacy can increase the sensation of people rubbing all over you and shit, but it isn't worth it, I know around 3 people who have died from MDMA. Lots of people are taking what they think is MDMA, but it is PMA, which is a whole lot more lethal than MDMA.
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Old 10-16-2003, 08:33 PM   #6 (permalink)
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LOL... seriously, "throes of ecstasy" is a term for... well... feeling that feeling to the limit.
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Old 10-16-2003, 09:03 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Yeah I wasn't talking about the drug. I've done it twice and it was just Okay. My preferred drug of choice is Maryjane with a little german beer mixed in for a good drunken stoned.

But that's neither here nore there because I'm not really enebriated when we are going at it. Neither is she. And yes, I am certain of this.
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Old 10-16-2003, 09:17 PM   #8 (permalink)
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back to the original topic....

my wife is the same way. The only time I get away with kissing her is when she is really, really drunk. It's kind of annoying and I'm still waiting for it to change, but it doesn't look good. Good luck getting her to change..

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Old 10-16-2003, 09:40 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Ah, don't fuck around with ecstacy, half the time you don't even know what the fuck you are getting. If you want want to have drug 'enhanced' sex, try some good 'ol fashioned LSD (lysergic acid diethylamide). If you need any information about LSD. visit Erowid.org's LSD guide. If you choose to take ecstacy, visit Erowid.org's MDMA (Ecstacy) Guide. For any drug related questions, check out Erowid.org. I'm not condoning to usage of illegal drugs, I'm just trying to suggest a MUCH safer alternative to MDMA (Ecstacy).
Sorry to go off topic but that was fuckin' hilarious. "Throes of ecstasy"

*laughs*

But yeah, I don't kiss after someone has gone down on me and I wouldn't expect them to want to either. The thought of tasting my own spooge is none too interesting.
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Old 10-16-2003, 11:53 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I think my girlriend actually gets off tasting herself from my face. Immediately after I'm done going down on her, she pulls my head up and starts kissing me like mad. I find it a major turn-on.
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Old 10-17-2003, 03:19 AM   #11 (permalink)
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She might just be nervous about it. A little shy and inexperienced perhaps. Eventually she may not mind. Have you talked to her about it? You could say something like "it would really turn me on if we kissed afterwards". That way you're not saying "Why won't YOU kiss ME." Otherwise, don't put her on the defensive...
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Old 10-17-2003, 03:37 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Has she ever kissed you straight after you blew into her mouth?
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Old 10-17-2003, 04:02 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Almost every girl I have ever been with has loved kissing me after I have gone down. I find it surprising because you would think they wouldnt want to taste their own juices...
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Old 10-17-2003, 04:09 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Sorry to go off topic but that was fuckin' hilarious. "Throes of ecstasy"

*laughs*

But yeah, I don't kiss after someone has gone down on me and I wouldn't expect them to want to either. The thought of tasting my own spooge is none too interesting.
So they don't love you enough to swallow?

This one girl was so amazed when I kissed her after she sucked me off. She was like "No one's Ever done that before" and she is rather experienced. She loved it.

If you are taking good care of yourself, your man juice should not make you scared.
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Old 10-17-2003, 04:23 AM   #15 (permalink)
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I enjoy sharing 'the juices' after either oral session, it doesn't bother me, so it kind of annoys me when it bothers her. Not sure of a solution, except wipe off my face
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Old 10-17-2003, 05:17 AM   #16 (permalink)
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kissing a girl after going down on her is sooo hot. Reciprocation isn't that bad either (ie me kissing her after she's down on me).

You should start the initative by kissing her after she's gone down on you, its not bad at all, as doos pointed out. It's all about sharing the juices
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Old 10-17-2003, 05:37 AM   #17 (permalink)
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you could just suggest to her that she experiment with tasting herself via fingers or whatever when she masturbates.

(assuming she does..)

that way may be less intimidating for her?

and if she's real concerned with whatever, tell her to ask her gyno about it (if there really are any off smells/tastes or whatever)
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Old 10-17-2003, 06:55 AM   #18 (permalink)
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Sometimes it depends on my mood. I am bi so usually I don't mind a woman's juices (except is she's a smoker - then it's super bitter, Ick) Sometimes I like tasting my self and other times I'm just not interested. Usually after some really good oral it doesn't matter to me. Also to begin with I was more shy about it. Once I found out that the guy got turned on by me tasting it then I had further motivation to do it. I wouldn't always just "eat it up" but I would at least tentatively taste and he'd enjoy it.
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Old 10-17-2003, 08:16 AM   #19 (permalink)
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She has never even thought twice about it after I go down on her, and I usually am not thinking about it when she goes down on me.

Guess its a win win situation for me :-D
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Old 10-17-2003, 08:23 AM   #20 (permalink)
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My wife is the same way. We just work around it. Instead of kissing her on teh mouth I go at her neck or breasts.

As afr as the other way around, its fine with me. She likes when I rub myself on her chest and then lick it off, so kissing after she's been down on me is no biggie.
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Old 10-17-2003, 08:38 AM   #21 (permalink)
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Desist all oral activities until further notice. If she asks just tell her she has to go "wash" first. Alright. Just kidding, its something you can't force on somebody, but I'd be willing to bet she'll warm up to it sooner or later. Most of the gals I've dated started out that way and then just got over it eventually. I think its natural for women to be somewhat self-concious about something like that at first. Good luck! Keep trying in the throes of...well...passion (not a drug is it?)
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Old 10-17-2003, 09:04 AM   #22 (permalink)
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My girl has the same problem but it doesn't bother me.
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Old 10-17-2003, 09:09 AM   #23 (permalink)
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Can I just say that it's not a "problem". It's a preference...



*dismounts off my high horse*
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Old 10-17-2003, 09:35 AM   #24 (permalink)
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Averett makes a very good point.
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Old 10-17-2003, 09:39 AM   #25 (permalink)
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As far as I can tell -she doesn't think that she's dirty -she's just 'very heterosexual'. To her, kissing me after I get her off like that -is akin to kissing a bearded clam herself.


This one is really into me, (physically)... we'll see how it goes. I'm also trying to get her to pose for some pictures... So I may post something in another forum. (And trust me this one is H-O-T, Double D's; like a 32 waist; blonde/blue; 27; need I say more?) But I'm not promising anything... I'm trying to avoid the 'jerk factor' and at the same time fuck the living shit out of her.


Sorry for rambling... must get coffee.
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Old 10-17-2003, 09:48 AM   #26 (permalink)
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As far as I can tell -she doesn't think that she's dirty -she's just 'very heterosexual'. To her, kissing me after I get her off like that -is akin to kissing a bearded clam herself.
It's just a mental thing with her. I used to be very nervous about letting a guy go down on me at all. Well, I got over that. I once thought in the back of my head while this was going on "I don't want to kiss him just after!" But then in the 'throes of extacy' I didn't give a damn.

Eventually she may give in, or maybe she won't. Be patient with her.
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Old 10-17-2003, 10:11 AM   #27 (permalink)
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My wife was the same way for along time. I managed to get her used to it slowly by stealing a kiss while she was in the throes. Now after I go down on her she is eager to kiss me.

LSD is goooood for sex. I ma through my drug experimentation phase so I don't imagine I'll ever try MDMA but maybe.....
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Old 10-17-2003, 10:14 AM   #28 (permalink)
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Astrocloud - how would you feel about kissing her after you came in her mouth? Probably not too keen. Don't push it if she is not into it.
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Old 10-17-2003, 10:39 AM   #29 (permalink)
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Had a girlfriend where it didn't matter what either of us had been doing, there was kissing going on. Very erotic and always a good time.

In my opinion, if you're taking the time to wonder what your partner's mouth is going to taste like, you're probably thinking too much.
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Old 10-17-2003, 10:51 AM   #30 (permalink)
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Astrocloud - how would you feel about kissing her after you came in her mouth? Probably not too keen. Don't push it if she is not into it.
Actually, I don't mind at all.
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Old 10-17-2003, 11:15 AM   #31 (permalink)
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In my opinion, if you're taking the time to wonder what your partner's mouth is going to taste like, you're probably thinking too much.
I agree, and that's how I was. But sometimes we're just in our own heads too much.

I'm only just starting to learn to let go a bit.
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Old 10-17-2003, 11:19 AM   #32 (permalink)
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I agree, and that's how I was. But sometimes we're just in our own heads too much.

I'm only just starting to learn to let go a bit.
Believe me, I know all about being in my own head.

I think I was just very lucky with this particular girl. We were pretty in sync with each other.
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Old 10-17-2003, 11:50 AM   #33 (permalink)
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As far as I can tell -she doesn't think that she's dirty -she's just 'very heterosexual'. To her, kissing me after I get her off like that -is akin to kissing a bearded clam herself.
It sounds like she's not so much very heterosexual herself, but slightly homophobic instead.....

Keep in mind that sex is supposed to be something that two (or more) people can enjoy. If she doesn't enjoy it, don't do it. Simple concept.


...but by all means, talk it out! It could be that she just has some pretty serious mental blocks, and a little reassurance on your part could do wonders.

Good luck!
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Old 10-17-2003, 12:22 PM   #34 (permalink)
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I have a friend that will not under any circumstances kiss a girl after she has had his dick in her mouth. I really do not understand this at all. It is all skin whether it is on your finger or on your dick it is all skin and connected in some way. I could not imagine not kissing my fiancee during sex just because earlier she had my dick in her mouth.
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Old 10-17-2003, 10:48 PM   #35 (permalink)
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Old 10-17-2003, 10:52 PM   #36 (permalink)
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There's also a very bad new rule. There are no blow jobs after penetration.

Well at least she's consistent. The "throws of ecstacy" idea isn't working either because I can't kiss her at that point whilst my mouth is otherwise engaged.
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Old 10-17-2003, 11:07 PM   #37 (permalink)
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So they don't love you enough to swallow?

If you are taking good care of yourself, your man juice should not make you scared.
Three things:

That "love" comment is bs. I'd never say "If you love me, you'll swallow it." If they don't want to then thats up to them.

Doesn't matter if she swallows it or not, I'm not gonna kiss her unless she can do some major convincing.

I'm not scared, it's just not my thing.
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Old 10-18-2003, 10:34 AM   #38 (permalink)
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The way I see it, kissing after foreplay or sex is an act of intimacy. Swapping of fluids is one of the main points of having sex in the first place, so why would it be any different for foreplay. It happens. The flavor isn't horrible or anything. And, it just seems kind of hypocritical to swap fluids with someone below the waist, but not above. Sex is messy, people.

Anyway, like Averett said, it's a preference. Don't pressure her into doing it because then she really won't like it (unless she has some weird kink you haven't told us about). The best you can do is educate her on how it is okay and that you really like to do it.
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Old 10-18-2003, 07:28 PM   #39 (permalink)
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My g/f doesnt like the taste, so flavored lube seems to take care of the problem.

Im with motdakasha though...
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Old 10-18-2003, 08:06 PM   #40 (permalink)
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I love tasting myself via my guy's kisses and have no problem either with his own wonderful flavor! mmmmm nummy
Making love is all about sharing yourself and opening up....kissing one another after oral is just another part of that, in my mind.
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