greathornytoad

do you usually expect your date to pay for everything on the first date?

do you split it 50/50?

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XeciX

Wouldnt it be better if the guy pays?

hobo

When I go on my first date, I do intend to pay for it all. It seems like the thing to do, although that was due to the fact that women didn't work back in the day and men had to take care of them.

MacGnG

was on tv chicks responded: it is usually expected; but it depends on the woman.

phredgreen

damn... another guy replying instead of a girl. that sucks, toadie, i'm sorry.


not that i'm planning any more "first dates," but i think it's expected of the male to pay... it's part of the whole basic rules of courtship... he's trying to prove ot her that he's good enough for her to want to be with, and when he hands his date the half the check's worth of cash and asks for her to cough up the rest, it's not scoring him any points.

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daoist

my advice is to bring enough to pay for the whole thing and attempt to do so. if she insists on paying half or all of it, let her.

some women are neurotic about that. but then again, if i were to date a woman neurotic enough to think that allowing me to pay means she "owes me" anything, well we wouldn't have a second date.

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greathornytoad

but what if she was the one that asked me out?

Peetster

Another dudes perspective. Sorry.

I would plan on being a gentleman regardless of who asked who out. Just move to pay for everything. If she says something, go with the flow. Be polite and have fun.

sierra2774

I think it should depend on who asks who to go on the date. If you ask agirl out, then yes, you should pay.

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I believe that the male should always, and i mean always pay the whole thing.
But then again, i also believe that he should keep his girlfriend/wife constantly happy with gifts and suprises, roses and more.

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rsl12

bad, bad, bad.

never think about how much to pay. the more important question is, how much fun can be had on the date? if you're a good talker you can go to mcdonald's and spend a few hours there. if you're a good hiker, you can take her to your favorite lookout. if you're a good financial analyst, you can share expensive haute cusine. even so, don't get the french food enless you enjoy it, and you think she will too. do something you really like to do. if she hates it, then chances are things won't work out between you anyways. if she likes it, hey, you've got something in common that you can talk about for hours.

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mydragonfido

If the man asks you out I expect him to pay sry boys!! I have no problem paying when in committed relationship.

motdakasha

i always try to pay half when i can, but i don't have a job so that's usually pretty difficult for me.

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crow_daw

Well, as a guy, I feel that it is expected of us to pay on the first date, basically always, but I'm the type that feels like I have to pay on EVERY date, just because. But my girl usually won't let me.

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StormBerlin

The guy always pays on the first date, although I always offer my half. The first date is about impressing the other person, while at the same time being yourself. Actually, the first cluster of dates should have this motive.

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hobo

After talking to some girls that are friends (not about this subject), I think that they generally expect the guy to pay. If you don't, you will look cheap. I think it is more important that the guy pay for the first few dates, as well as the more expensive dates than little things.

collide

It's like treating a friend to lunch or something. When I invite someone out for lunch or dinner, I don't expect whoever I'm inviting to pay (unless it's a group thing). So on a first date, it would depend on who makes the first move, and whether that person is comfortable about the changing sex roles. I would expect the guy to pay since it's usually the guy who makes the first move, but I'm always prepared to go 50/50 if I feel that we're not past the friendship stage. There is a difference between hanging out with a friend and going on a date, and it feels too much like I'm going out on a date if I let the guy pay.

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vveronica

Every guy who ever asked me out of a first date expected to pay the whole thing. If I feel that this is the first and last time in going out with him I will pay half.
I feel once in a relationship it should be based on how much money the other makes... If im dating a guy who is loaded I would expect to pay for less of the date. if i dating a guy who is broke..... well forget that hehehehehe just kidding!

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This question is situational.

However I do think it is a nice thing when the man pays.
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However I pay also. Then again if he takes me to a really expensive place I might give him a blow job later on to thank him. (Kidding)
Ok maybe I was kidding, maybe not.
No seriously though. I think that the girl should at least offer to split it.

This is the 2000's you know.

rodgerd

I'm a fan of, "who asks, pays", or "who can afford, pays". Or just, "we'll split down the middle".

I find the (apparent) US norm where men are expected to pay for everything quite the time-warp.

rodgerd

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lurkette

I don't date anymore, being married, but if I did I would split it 50/50. I ate half the food.

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analog

I think it has to do with the girl and the situation- and most would like it if you pay. It's not about the money, but about whether or not you show the ability to care for a girl in the long-run, and not just financially.

Also, if you're not looking long-term, she may just want you to shell out for the "dinner and a movie" to earn your place between her legs- someone who cares, even if only for the end result being sex, will get farther than someone who doesn't seem to care, and that's all just psychological.

Or maybe i'm talking out of my ass, but that's been my experience.

koli70

well for the first date I'd like him to pay, after that 50/50. Are there any guys who always pay and actually like it?

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tweekman

always do it 50/50, fairest way.

Steffi

I think it should be 50/50, that way if you don't have a good time, you don't have to feel bad that you paid for it all, or he paid for it all.