At what age is it inappropriate to have sex with the baby there? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Baz · 03-21-2009, 04:20 PM

So, with a new kid arrived, and working on the second already, I'm realizing that there will definitely be a point at which we should close the door when we fuck. I'm wondering if someone knows when abouts that is?

Xerxys · 03-21-2009, 04:27 PM

I have memories back to 1yr old. I say play it safe. Don't even mention the 'S' word when the kids around. It makes good practice for when your having dinner with the kids and you don't wanna curse!!

cdwonderful · 03-21-2009, 04:39 PM

when they can take pictures or run a web cam....

mixedmedia · 03-21-2009, 04:47 PM

I'd say that it would be somewhere between six months and one year, assuming the baby's crib is in your room. But by the time the child can pull up and stand in their crib, they will already be very interested in watching everything you do so having your baby stare and laugh at you while you're having sex might kill the mood a little bit. Otherwise, you really shouldn't be leaving a young child alone (unless they are in a crib in another room) for any reason. Best to wait to naptimes...one of the great things about most babies is that they are really heavy sleepers.

777 · 03-21-2009, 10:08 PM

And remember to use those baby monitors if you are leaving the baby alone in their room.

Redlemon · 03-22-2009, 06:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Xerxys

It makes good practice for when your having dinner with the kids and you don't wanna curse!!

Or relate your most intimate details of your life to the grocery checkout clerk. My son will tell *anything* to *anybody*, and has since he was about 3 or 4. Always assume that they are listening and recording, and you will be ready for the time that they are doing so.

Zeraph · 03-22-2009, 08:48 AM

Yeah, basically stop when they start talking. Lil before one year or so.

Willravel · 03-22-2009, 09:23 AM

Back when I was exploring such questions, the lady and I developed a special time of day for media time. The idea is that the toddler wasn't really given a lot of time in front of the boob tube or on the computer because we didn't want her raised by the nice people at Disney or PBS or Playschool. Anyway, when it was time for the adults to act like adults, it was also coincidentally media time. We'd choose a particularly wholesome dvd or online video and leave her to watch for about an hour or so.

We started doing this at about 9 months. It ended at about 2 because she'd get bored, so we had to replace it with video games, which still didn't quite meet the need. The last option we came up with was to be friends with other couples that could babysit for an hour or two every few days, and then we'd do the same for them. It was a sacred pact.

BogeyDope · 03-26-2009, 08:11 PM

Just out of curiosity, does it really matter if they understand what's going on?

Willravel · 03-26-2009, 08:19 PM

Does it matter if you imprint the picture of mom and dad going at it in their fragile little minds? Probably, yeah. There's a difference between making sure your kids are ready for sex and exposing them to your own sexuality, especially at a young age. One day they'll figure out that they are the result of sex, sure, but no need to recreate it for them live.

mixedmedia · 03-26-2009, 08:32 PM

It's a cultural thing. If sex were not so taboo, I don't think it would necessarily have a negative impact on their minds. We don't mind if children see animals having sex.

ngdawg · 03-26-2009, 09:04 PM

Babies won't remember anything. Their memories aren't developed enough before the age of two to even think about what you're doing. That's not to say they don't have any memory at all-my first one is from when I was sitting in a stroller-but the chances of someone realizing at 20 that they remember seeing mom and dad going at it is really small.
But I'd go with the "when they can stand themselves up in the crib" just for the ew factor of seeing my kid seeing me making a kid.....I didn't even like having the dog in the room.

Nephew walked into sister's and her husband's room when they were having sex. He was about three. He asked "what're you doing?" Dad said, "Exercising!" and walked him back to his own room....

ItWasMe · 03-30-2009, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Redlemon

Or relate your most intimate details of your life to the grocery checkout clerk. My son will tell *anything* to *anybody*...

Oh, man, that is so true. We walked out of a public restroom once, and my toddler smiled and said hello to a grandmotherly lady. The lady stopped and asked her 'how are you?' My toddler said, "Good. I pee'd." Then my toddler pointed to me and added, "and she pooped." They'll tell *anything* to *anybody*.

When our oldest was probably 3 or 4 months old, her crib was in our room. The mood was killed when we saw her lift up the crib bumper a couple of inches to watch what we were doing. And she was smiling. (I have a picture of that somewhere) That did it for us, no more sex around the baby. We didn't live in a one bedroom for much longer.

Xerxys · 03-30-2009, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by ItWasMe

Oh, man, that is so true. We walked out of a public restroom once, and my toddler smiled and said hello to a grandmotherly lady. The lady stopped and asked her 'how are you?' My toddler said, "Good. I pee'd." Then my toddler pointed to me and added, "and she pooped." ...

I actually LOL'd!!

When I was younger, maybe 7-8, my mom had taken me to the doctors and I was fidgetting when I cought sight of somthing interesting. I poked my finger in my mom's sleeve shoulder and clearly announced loud enough for the entire room "Mom, why do you have a whole in here? Did you forget to mend all your clothes?"

curiousbear · 04-05-2009, 07:31 PM

I personally wouldnt care few month olds seeing it. They definitely cant remember anything.
But what if they pick the sounds and expressions?

I had seen how smart they are in learning to make sounds and faces long before they can actually talk! Very dangerous!!!

Mister Coaster · 04-06-2009, 09:11 AM

I think it all depends on how you go about it. We're going to be downsizing shortly, and will have to move the crib into the bedroom for a few months. Baby will be one this thursday. If you keep it all under the covers and aren't going hog wild, I think it's all good. If you are recreating the last porno you watched, maybe not such a good plan.

ngdawg has a point, they won't really remember anything until after 2 years old.

03-21-2009, 04:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
Baz Psycho Location: North	At what age is it inappropriate to have sex with the baby there? So, with a new kid arrived, and working on the second already, I'm realizing that there will definitely be a point at which we should close the door when we fuck. I'm wondering if someone knows when abouts that is? __________________ - Baz

03-21-2009, 04:39 PM	#3 (permalink)
cdwonderful another passenger Location: Youngstown, Ohio	when they can take pictures or run a web cam.... __________________ Never try to teach a pig to whistle it wastes your time, and annoys the pig.....

03-21-2009, 04:47 PM	#4 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	I'd say that it would be somewhere between six months and one year, assuming the baby's crib is in your room. But by the time the child can pull up and stand in their crib, they will already be very interested in watching everything you do so having your baby stare and laugh at you while you're having sex might kill the mood a little bit. Otherwise, you really shouldn't be leaving a young child alone (unless they are in a crib in another room) for any reason. Best to wait to naptimes...one of the great things about most babies is that they are really heavy sleepers. __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

03-21-2009, 10:08 PM	#5 (permalink)
777 drawn and redrawn Location: Some where in Southern California	And remember to use those baby monitors if you are leaving the baby alone in their room. __________________ "I don't know that I ever wanted greatness, on its own. It seems rather like wanting to be an engineer, rather than wanting to design something - or wanting to be a writer, rather than wanting to write. It should be a by-product, not a thing in itself. Otherwise, it's just an ego trip." Roger Zelazny

03-26-2009, 08:11 PM	#9 (permalink)
BogeyDope Crazy	Just out of curiosity, does it really matter if they understand what's going on? __________________ Focus. Control. Conviction. Resolve. A true ace lacks none of these attributes. Nothing can deter you from the task at hand except your own fears. This is your sky.

03-21-2009, 04:27 PM	#2 (permalink)
Xerxys Junkie Location: My head.	I have memories back to 1yr old. I say play it safe. Don't even mention the 'S' word when the kids around. It makes good practice for when your having dinner with the kids and you don't wanna curse!!

03-22-2009, 08:48 AM	#7 (permalink)
Zeraph Banned Location: The Cosmos	Yeah, basically stop when they start talking. Lil before one year or so.

03-22-2009, 09:23 AM	#8 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	Back when I was exploring such questions, the lady and I developed a special time of day for media time. The idea is that the toddler wasn't really given a lot of time in front of the boob tube or on the computer because we didn't want her raised by the nice people at Disney or PBS or Playschool. Anyway, when it was time for the adults to act like adults, it was also coincidentally media time. We'd choose a particularly wholesome dvd or online video and leave her to watch for about an hour or so. We started doing this at about 9 months. It ended at about 2 because she'd get bored, so we had to replace it with video games, which still didn't quite meet the need. The last option we came up with was to be friends with other couples that could babysit for an hour or two every few days, and then we'd do the same for them. It was a sacred pact.

03-26-2009, 08:19 PM	#10 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	Does it matter if you imprint the picture of mom and dad going at it in their fragile little minds? Probably, yeah. There's a difference between making sure your kids are ready for sex and exposing them to your own sexuality, especially at a young age. One day they'll figure out that they are the result of sex, sure, but no need to recreate it for them live.

03-26-2009, 08:32 PM	#11 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	It's a cultural thing. If sex were not so taboo, I don't think it would necessarily have a negative impact on their minds. We don't mind if children see animals having sex. __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

03-26-2009, 09:04 PM	#12 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	Babies won't remember anything. Their memories aren't developed enough before the age of two to even think about what you're doing. That's not to say they don't have any memory at all-my first one is from when I was sitting in a stroller-but the chances of someone realizing at 20 that they remember seeing mom and dad going at it is really small. But I'd go with the "when they can stand themselves up in the crib" just for the ew factor of seeing my kid seeing me making a kid.....I didn't even like having the dog in the room. Nephew walked into sister's and her husband's room when they were having sex. He was about three. He asked "what're you doing?" Dad said, "Exercising!" and walked him back to his own room.... __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em. Last edited by ngdawg; 03-26-2009 at 09:06 PM..

04-05-2009, 07:31 PM	#15 (permalink)
curiousbear Addict Location: WA	I personally wouldnt care few month olds seeing it. They definitely cant remember anything. But what if they pick the sounds and expressions? I had seen how smart they are in learning to make sounds and faces long before they can actually talk! Very dangerous!!!

04-06-2009, 09:11 AM	#16 (permalink)
Mister Coaster Big & Brassy Location: The "Canyon"	I think it all depends on how you go about it. We're going to be downsizing shortly, and will have to move the crib into the bedroom for a few months. Baby will be one this thursday. If you keep it all under the covers and aren't going hog wild, I think it's all good. If you are recreating the last porno you watched, maybe not such a good plan. ngdawg has a point, they won't really remember anything until after 2 years old. __________________ If you have any poo... fling it NOW!