Telluride

It wouldn't bother me.

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Borla

Bingo.

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Skitto

Skin is usually imperfect in some way, perfection is rare, stretchmarks can be surprising, but there are a lot of things it depends on. The biggest one for me is that it depends on IF I had a problem with them. IF they disturbed me somehow I'd hold it up against the girl's personality. Had kids and lost the guy? Responsible or immature with your children (note: this is my tested standard and I'm proud to keep it my own). Also it depends on how the girl feels about 'em. Be proud and you're likely to keep the better buck.

Embarrassing bit: I've got stretchmarks on me from doing yoga wrong.

belle_enigma

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blar

some guys care some don't

jimmy1s269

the wife has some stretch marks. most of hers are from our kids. she actually went 8 months with our first kid without getting any, then she stopped using the cream she had been using to try to prevent them and BAM!! there they were. still, they don't bother me. she actually had some as a teenager from going from an A cup to a C cup almost over night. don't mind those either. without them, there would be no huge boobs in my life.

the only time stretch marks have bothered me was walking through the grocery store one day this woman walked past me in a shirt that showed off her stomach, and she had stretch marks so bad it looked like she went from being a size 0 one night to having an alien abduct her and shove a bowling ball through her belly button over night. and on top of that she had been tanning so the skin that wasn't stretched was dark and the stretch marks were pasty white. man, that lady was just nasty.

duskytip

Not a big deal. if I am into you, I am into ALL of you despite your self perceived imperfections.

777

Well RJ, you can always cover them up with tatoos

JK

Although I don't have much under my clothes to worry about, I do have a huge mole. In fact, I have 3 moles, and they're on my face. Over an eye brow, on my cheek, and near my lip. I never noticed how noticeble they were until a friend from high school drew a sketch of me. There was this massive ink blot between my nose and lip! After a time, I forgot about it, and the girls I've been with never said anything. It was all in my head.

Perfection is for books, movies, and magazine ads. Sometimes, those aren't perfect either. Now everyone remembers the film 300, where are fearless Spartans are wearing nothing but a helm, shield, cape, and leather bikini for protection, and to scare off their enemies with their godlike physique. Well, I have news for you, even that wasn't real! There's a scene where one of the Spartans lands from a jump, and you can see his Six-Pack abs jiggle. "Huh?" you ask, "How is that possible?" With the magic of an air brush, those abs can be painted on by the make-up artist.

This is also done when a model is needed for those exercise gadgets, where the athletic woman's tummy picture, and nothing else. A friend of mine first pointed that out when he was told about it from a gal he knows that does costuming in Hollywood on for theatre too. She was on set when a thin model from those Doritos commercials was hired for some ab thingy machine, and they painted abs on her "I starve myself for this body" stomach.

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Sherk

Stretch marks are by no means a deal breaker - no one can be that perfect. Who cares? I have some, under my arms, from weight training. I also have some around my stomach area... too many beers and good food! Now that I've reclaimed my former size, they're present. No one has complained, though.

ShaniFaye

worst tat pain I ever had was getting one over stretch marks....and if it hurt ME thats saying a lot lol

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RangerJoe:

You are giving men far to much credit for any level of thought prior to copulation. For example, my favorite pair of boobs are the ones I get to play with....I find it impossible to find fault in the woman who has my penis in her mouth....The nicest ass in the world is the one I'm looking down at....I could go on and on. Fact is, a man just wants a woman who's comfortable in her own skin and who truly enjoys sex. It really doesn't matter if that skin has some "history".

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jimmy1s269

Cimarron said this quite well. I love Marisa Miller but by god, she ain't never going to sleep with me. But when I am with my wife, who ain't Marisa for sure, it doesnt matter at all. She is the one I want to be with and she is the one i am with, stretch marks, left over baby weight and all.

Brittnii

This whole thing makes me feel so much better.

I always felt like my stretch marks were worse then everyone elses.
They're on my chest and up my sides starting at my hip and meet in both directions. I didn't inherit nice stretchy skin from either side of my family.

blar

lol saying this is like saying a women would not see any fault in any man regardless of his penis size and height etc etc that doesn't

and happen as often as it should

sprintex

hey, those are some sexy photo's, if you have the confidence to do those pic's, rise above the stretch marks and bugger anyone who has an issue with them

newone321

I`m 21, Single, skinny and was never overweight. I got stretch marks on my back, buttocks and now they`re starting to appear on my arms. I wish they`d disappear. I feel embarassed to take my shirt off on the beach. I`ve heard that they naturally disappear.

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Many celebrities have them too if that helps.

Plan9

Ugh, I've got stretchmarks on my legs up by my hips and under my arms where my pecs meet my shoulders... all from my roller coaster attempts at putting on muscle mass. I'm not worried about them being ugly... I'm worried about the tissue tearing open the next time my scrawny ass tries to bench 225.

It would be foolish for me or anyone else to assume that the biological explosion that occurs when girls become women and when women gain weight or go through the screaming-mini-bastard process that the body is going to return back to its original state. Our bodies are amazing things, capable of so much adaptation... but let's not let airbrushed Playboy models confuse us as to the reality of the situation.

My exwife had a unique skin condition that nearly reduced the elastic effect of her skin to nothing. She was so afraid of becoming a stretch-marked, wrinkly creature even in her late twenties. She, like many, is much harder on herself about her perceived physical flaws than any partner would be.

Beauty is not finding a perfect human assembly... no, I feel beauty is in the unique pattern of imperfections that make up an individual by definition: unique. Makes me think about military records and police reports. They have a block for identifying marks: scars, tattoos, moles... imperfections that make you stand out. Everybody has similar features, and our 15 pieces of unique aren't all external.

I guess my feeling is, much like ManicSkafe said in the beginning of the thread, that confidence beats all. A sultry look and a cocky remark erases any physical limitations. Take me to bed, you suave toothless circus midget! Unless you're a heartless fuck-machine (you know who you are!), you're probably with X partner because you find the contents of their skull as appealing as the contents of their thong and you're not as superficial as to ignore the former because of the latter. I've experienced this focus over and over again and it makes me feel like maybe I'm not such an asshole all the time.

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Oh, yessir.

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Shaindra

I dated a guy who was 10 years older than I am. He looked every one of his years, balding and overweight. I've also dated guys who were 15 years younger than I am. I'm generally regarded as looking between 5 and 10 years younger than I am. Having had two kids, I have the stretchmarks to mark that period of my life when I was busy growing a life. I never really gave it much thought, anymore than I gave thought to the smattering of freckles on my chest, or the scar on my leg from when I fell riding a bike as a kid. Just part of me.

It was the older guy, who, after a romp, asked me if I'd considered lasering my stretchmarks. He had also asked me on another occasion if I'd considered getting my boobs done. Now, you can pick on me about the 10 or so extra pounds I carry and I might sulk. But my breasts are pretty damn good for anyone, nevermind someone who nursed two kids into toddlerhood. And I already mentioned that the stretchmarks didn't bother me. They never seemed to bother my younger lovers either.

I could've become very insecure about my stretchmarks. But why? We're all aging. True, some of us better than others. Physical perfection doesn't exist outside of airbrushed magazines and carefully prepared moviestars. And they only portray perfection. Anyone in the business will tell you the work that goes into making someone look that good.

And then I think about my lovers. The ones that made my pulse race and my skin flush. None of them were physically perfect. In fact, I've dated guys who were amazingly attractive...but my body knew and didn't respond the same way. Attraction isn't as simple as a perfect face or body. So I assume it's the same for the men I date. If I "do it for them" it won't be because or in spite of some physical imperfections. It just is. I accept it as my due and enjoy it accordingly. If you focus on how you make someone feel...and how they make you feel...there is precious little room left over for worrying about stretchmarks or wobbly bits.

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blar

lol a guy should not worry about their body / parts because a girl is more worried about her body and if the guy likes it

and a girl should nto worry abotu her body because a guy is more worried about what the girl thinks about his penis etc etc

all these "sayings" makes it seem society is one big pool of shallowness where everyone expects their partner to be perfect or things they are perfect

Tully Mars

So it was the old, fat, bald guy that thought you needed work? Umm, ok.

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Shaindra

Yes it was. And his focus on the relatively minor imperfections of my body told me that he would *not* be comfortable with me aging with any degree of grace and therefore was not an option for any kind of long-term situation.

I did find it quite amusing that the younger guys were just thrilled to have someone who didn't care what she looked like, even with the lights on and contorted in some rather unflattering positions.

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Jimellow

Humans are unique. Generally I think the individual puts more emphasis on what it is that makes them different and assumes it will be an issue for others instead of letting them decide for themselves. Confidence also plays a role here, as you are entering a situation with lowered confidence as a result of you assuming the worst of others and their reaction to whatever trait it is that you're concerned about.

In reality, there are those that are bothered by these things, and those that aren't. If nothing else, it serves as a nice filter to find genuinely good people who like you for who you are, while exposing those that are superficial and likely to place added emphasis on these things.

People have flaws. That's what makes us people. It's normal to be insecure about these things, but generally it's blown out of proportion in one's mind, and then projected onto the presumed reactions of others, which often turns out to be false and unjustified.

Are there superficial people out there that care solely about looks? Yep, there sure are. But you likely don't want to be with them anyway, so be yourself and you'll find those that you're genuinely interested in, and they you.

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newone321

Shaindra, that older guy sounds like an a$$ h***e. I accidentally might have reported your post just now. I thought that REP is for reply. Sorry about that.

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Good Post Jimellow.

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blar

that's the first time I ever heard of this

I always hear people say their younger partners expected their partners (male or female) to have perfect bodies while the older ones didn't put any thought to it.

Shaindra

It may be different for older guys who date younger women. My experience has been, my younger lovers have been universally enthusiastic about my less-than-perfect body. Of course, they've also been pretty enthusiastic about what I *do* with my less-than-perfect body. And it has nothing to do with hiding under the covers, lights out, and laying there until it's over.

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blar

hopefully you accept their non perfect body/parts as well

Shaindra

My ex was over 400lbs. I think I do just fine cutting my partners some slack.

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Plan9

That shouldn't be legal.

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Shaindra

Let's just say that where there's a will, there's a way. And it's a damn good thing I've got a strong will.

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SadnConfused223

Well i have sterch marks on my back and thighs and shouldera! doctors said grew to fast for my body i was never overweight or anything! i Actually have a nice body but i have sterch marks! They do bring down my self esteem and i have had sex before but never really enjoyed it becuase of my sterch marks i was to worryied about them! i guess im trying to ask is if i tell i girl i have them will she reject me or what im really confused im yet to find a girl that has sterch marks too on her body!

sbscout

"What would you do if you DID meet a woman with a crap load of stretch marks? Would it affect you in any way?

If she doesn't throw my imperfect body out of bed, neither will I.

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FuglyStick

I see this thread was started over a year ago. I think it's safe to say that stretch marks were not much of an obstacle.

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Daniel_

That's the point. If a lady wants to let me see her naked, I'm never going to say anything bad.

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GreyWolf

My wife has stretch marks... both from weight gain/loss & from pregnancy (ok, that's pretty much the same thing).

I honestly never noticed them until she pointed them out to me. And as others have said... if she can put up with my body, I'm sure not going to complain about hers

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surferlove007

I personally don't have stretch marks however I do have scars from having some *possible* precancerous moles removed. One thing Matt has told me is he likes seeing my scars because it reminds him that I'm a still a person and not perfect.

Although I don't particularly care for stretch marks I don't judge people by them. Everyone has imperfections, it's just part of the journey in life. I like that with such things on a person's body it tells a story of where they've been etc. I think you're being very honest by admitting that you don't like them, a lot of people would say that's just being vain. There are definitely things I don't care for on myself, I think it's great you're looking for more opinions to redefine your own personal opinion and work past this issue to see the beautiful you that is already there.

Have you looked into the various lotions they have that work to lessen the appearance of stretch marks? Like the others, being with someone you can't trust to see you in the light is going to be hard on your relationship and any future ones. I've found that accepting what you've got and working it is the best answer. I'm not a size 0, I never will be. That's fine, I'm with a man who loves me for how I am. Stretch marks? I don't have them now however I bet someday in the next couple years I'll have them after I have kids and I'll understand more of what people with them go there. No worries!