If you wanted to have sex with somebody would you tell them or keep it a secret?
 

I probably wouldn't tell them outright, but I'd at the very least let them know I'm interested.

Ummm... No. I don't think I'd tell them as, you know, I'd more than likely get kneed in the balls or something.

It clearly depends on who they were.

If it was my wife, I'd tell her.

If it were one of her family, probably not.

If it was my boss I'd only tell him if I thought it'd help my pay discussion.

In my case it would help with the discussion but certainly not with the result :)
But at least the discussion would be shortened!

I'd probably not tell them, i'd might come around to my SO :thumbsup:

I'm one of those that doesnt play games....If I wanna fuck somebody....I tell em outright....worst that can happen is that they say no, but I have been lucky enuff that the I was attracted to men that didnt say no lol

I've always had good results from telling them. StellaLuna and I count our relationship as having begun at a very drunken party when I told her--and I quote--"I'd totally do you."

I've only wanted one person I hadn't told outright. I'm glad, now, that I didn't say anything.

(And yay, yay, for Ratbastid and his honesty!)

If a guy does this he goes to jail. If a woman does it she's considered hot.

Lasereth nailed it. A lady can walk up to a guy and offer sex, and if she's average or better looking, the guy will probably say yes, unless he has a specific reason to say no, and even if he says no, he will probably go out of his way to be polite about it. If a guy approaches a woman and does this, he's gonna have trouble, the only question is the severity of said trouble

Now if it was me, I probably won't come out and say that, but If I think I have a chance with her, I might ask her out, and try to work towards that eventual goal. I don't expect though that it would happen quickly, besides, I would hope that by the time it does happen (if it happens) that I like her for more than just for sex.

Funny thing about asking her out though, the last gf I had, I never would have thought to ask out, as I didn't think I would have a chance with her romantically (though she was a friend already). Fortunately for me, she asked for the first date.

I don't think Jessica Alba wants to know if I want to have sex with her. I mean maybe if she met me, but I don't see that happening.

Possibly because historically, women haven't used sex as a means of punishment and domination. Not a lot of women force sex. Men do it all the time.

So stop whining.

So because some ancestral idiot forced himself on a woman, I am expected to treat all women with kid gloves? I treat women with decency because I'm decent, not because men used to be diots.

That's as nuts as sugesting that because people have been locked up in buildings against their will living in buildings is oppressive to the descendants of prisoners.

It makes no sense.

Well, Sultana... I agree with you (on the stop whining part) :) but you could say that women have withheld sex as a form of punishment and domination, too... not that it's any better than men taking it by force (which they are physically able to do, even if the woman does withhold it), but you can't say that some women don't use sex for manipulation, either. Then again, some people like the punishment and domination. Heh. :)

No joke, I've said that exact line to 2 girls. One of them I had sex with, the other I dated for 6 months (and obviously had sex with).

The only time I have tried this, my offer was accepted. The way I went about was pretty ridiculous, but it became a good story for my friends and I.

I've done this and it works.

Especially if you pick her up from a gas station in the middle of nowhere.

Hell, I should probably do it again.

I was told once by someone who'd seen a photo of me: "You ever get out this way, you are SO mine."
It worked;)

If you don't tell them then you stand no chance of ever actually having sex with this person.


Unless you choose rape.

The straight forward approach has always worked for me. Also, if I'm available and a guy who I think is attractive were to say something like that to me, it would seal the deal. Usually I won't say something like that to someone I've never met before though.

I once had a coworker say that to me. Made things totally awkward afterwards since I never showed any sort of attraction towards him.

Doubt if it's really necessary..
usually it's more than obvious what your thinking:orly:

Bottom line^^

No one ever keeled over and died from hearing "No". But hearing "Yes" could change everything for the better.
No, some aren't that savvy or perceptive. Besides, giving little 'hints' in the hopes they get picked up on is akin to game-playing.

I dunno..usually the trooling is a dead giveaway.

You might stand a better chance if you just dont blurt out "I WANNA SCREW YOU". Saying it in a way that gives the exact same meaning without the possibly unpleasant connotation of them simply being a penis depository gives you a better chance.

Every time I have been forward and either just asked or expressed an interest, it has had positive results... and no jail time!

...I like how there are females weighing in, as though a female telling a male they want to have sex with them might reasonably NOT be expected to work. :)

I was going to post something, but Lasereth already finished off the whole thread with two sentences.

I would not turn you down, luv :D



In my case without the drink, but ratbastid, with a direct, quiet confidence, Hey, It could work. :D




Damnit, more great wisdom :D

It's always been there, but I needed to be reminded of it....

thank you

It could also simply be a basic difference between men and women, that has everything to do with biology, rather than society.

There. I fixed that one for you. And even then...what is it Eddie Izzard says..."pulse optional?" :)

I'm a pretty confident fellow, but never could I go up to a women and say something like that. That being said, there have been times, when plied with copious amounts of alcohol that I have gone the ratbastid route and each time--those that I can recall clearly--ended badly.

I don't see myself doing this no matter how attracted I am to someone. I'm just not that forward.

And I agree with Sultana on the whining. I'm tired of reading threads that start on one subject and then turn into "what we hate about women" threads. It gets a little old.

Hahahaha, agreed.

Nah, got a pulse wouldn't be enough for me. Imagine that she's 250 pounds, and about 5' 2" and I think one might reconsider such a standard. Especially if one has a bit of a preference for ladies of skinny to average frames.

it depends on who they were...a chic at the mall...no....a chic at the bar...certainly....a friend...possibly

I would never condone rape, That being said, what are you going to do if she doesn't want to have sex with you? Not have sex?

God Bless Doug Stanhope

It's not rape, it's surprise sex ;)

"If you wanted to have sex with somebody would you tell them or keep it a secret?"

LOL I've asked several times, but only one girl. I would have to know that they aren't going to mace me in the face if I'm going to ask/tell them. The rejection isn't the worst part, it's the degree of it I guess.

The worst thing is when they say 'yes,' and you wait all day for "tonight," and she skips out on ya... That's kind of a weird turnaround of emotions.

It depends on the cirumstances and the person. If it's a girl at a party that we're both feeling it, then yes.

A coworker? no. my boss? I don't want to do her, but hypothetically if I did, I wouldn't tell her about it.