Gary_the_Rat

I don't have a particularly large or long shlong, but if I go past something like 4/5th of the way in, it hurts her a bit. We are fine in some positions, but entering from behind positions really get her bad. We've been intimate for about a month now, and for each of us this is our first. Is there something we can do, will it change over time, or do we just need to cope?

Aro23

it's just the way the position is, when entering her from behind try going slower at first.

Deltona Couple

Sounds like bragging to me!...lol.

Seriously tho, my wife has the same problem, cetain angles, especially from behind tend to be uncomfortable. It has mostly to do with the curve and angle of her "inner parts"..lol. Some positions have to be done carefully and slowly. I would suggest if you both like the 'doggie-style' position, try using different angles of approach, so to speak. try from a higher, or lower angle, and see if it makes a difference. Ladies? Am I missing anything?

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That's the great thing about sex, there is so much variety that you can always find something that feels great for both of you!

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KungFuGuy

yea, one of my ex-girlfriends basically banned me from the doggie style position for the same reason .

Inquiring Mind

It's a bit of a tangent, but do any ladies who have had kids have anything to add to this? Like does giving birth have lasting effect on your internal anatomy and therefore your experience of sex?

GTR- yep, it hurts my girl too- varying the angle by getting higher works for us. It's strange though, there are other times she'll get so into it that she'll thrust back so I slam her. You can get interesting angles/depths semi-squatting rather than kneeling.

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zed wolf

This is interesting, my wife and I both like doggy and as far as I know it has never caused her any discomfort. I'm not huge or anything though, average I'd say and I can feel the end of me running into things in there. She prefers it hard and fast often pushing back against me. Also of note since it was asked she has had one child.

waltert

I had the same problem, though I wont go as far as to say that I have a big wang. semour butts "not too deep" cock rings or something like that are what we used to solve the problem.

Sage

Ok, I'm going to go a different direction and suggest that she's not turned on enough. See, when a woman gets turned on her vagina elongates, widens, and her cervix tucks back out of the way of the penis. The more turned on she is, the more out of the way her tiddily bits are. If both you and her are convinced that she's getting turned on enough, then it probably is just a size issue, which is totally normal and easily worked around.

And another recommenation: both of you get your hands on a copy of Paul Johanne's The Guide to Getting It ON! (avaliable cheaply through Amazon.com) and read it cover to cover. You'll learn something, and sex will be more fun for you both.

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shesus

As Inquiring Minds mentioned she needs to move around while in that position so that you go in at the right angle. Or you could change your position. Mybe have her close to the edge of the bed with you standing or both standing with her leaning over. Anytime there is discomfort because of deepness, she can just try changing her hip angle until it doesn't hurt. This works for any position...lifting and lowering the hips also aids in the pleasure I've found. Happy exploring!

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USMC6531

I know how you feel, I am in the same situation with my g/f but what really gets her is on her back with knees propped up. you just have to use positions she can take and be sure not to start out at a mile a minute, she needs time to adjust

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mixedmedia

I've had three kids and sometimes I have discomfort in some positions, but as Sage said, I've found that my state of arousal has a huge impact on the depth and force of thrusting that I can withstand. So like many others here have said, take it slow, make sure she is fully aroused before attempting the positions she is experiencing discomfort in, and she'll probably notice a big (happy!) difference.

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Ustwo

Ahhhh so thats why when a woman is 'raging horny' as I term it, their response is so different. This is one of those things I never really thought about but is undoubtedly true thinking about it. I've had size issues with some women, but its very variable, and when they are totally uninhibited size is no longer an issue so to speak

I'm willing to bet that younger women still unsure on sex and not willing to totally let go will be the ones having size issues.

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