alison

alright, me and my best friend have been friends for almost a year but we feel like we have known each other for years. One of those types of relationships that you just click. While I kind of have had feelings for him as more then a friend but my councillor had advised me to not tell him in fear of jeopardising our friendship. So for the past year even though I have had feelings for him I haven’t acted on them.

Until about a month ago where I decided since he was moving to California that I would see to it that I at least got a kiss from him. So we fooled around a bit not all the way to sex but oral sex at least as well as many other things. Now hes moved away and we talk a lot but it hurts me to know that hes going to get a girlfriend soon and that I may never see him again.

My problem is that last night we were talking and he told me How pretty I was and that he cared about me a lot. That if I wasn’t just a friend to him that he would have asked me out. I read it wrong and blurted out my feelings, he was silent for along time and we pretended like I didn’t say it. I’m hoping I didn’t ruin my friendship with him cause I care deeply for him. Although I don’t know if he cares a lot about me in the same way.

When I liked a guy at my school he became very jealous of him. He told me I was to good for him and should be with some one better. Even though the guy I liked didn’t do any thing wrong and he didn’t even know him. His response was “well I cared about you very much. I thought if he came into the picture that would be the end of you and me”. Another key point people is that I am a clingy person and work well with only hanging out with one person at a time.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I should deny my feelings and tell him it was a joke, to ignore the fact that I told him or to bring it up. When I ask him if he liked me as more then a friend he quickly answers no and brushes off the subject never to bring it up again. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

merlin

I don't think you should deny or ignore telling him your feelings. Perhaps what you said just shocked him and he didn't really know what to do.

It's possible to still be friends even though one side likes the other person more than just 'friends' but that feeling isn't mutual. If what you told him doesn't make things awkward but he isn't interested, just keep acting like you have before.

I would wait and see how he reacts tomorrow.

Hope that helps a bit

MySexyAssJ

he does seem to like you. maybe he's scared to lose the friendship like you were. definitely wait a little while before bringing it up again because you don't want to push the subject. if for some reason he says again that he doesn't like you, do as merlin said and keep acting like you were before. also, if you do bring it up again and he does say no... and lets say you have a new guy that you're attracted to, and he has a hard time about it like he did before, ask him why he's so concerned if he only likes you as a friend.. ya know? that'll definitely make him think..

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