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Old 06-13-2006, 08:35 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Suggestions for first sex after giving birth

My wife and I are looking forward to having sex again after just having our first child. We are waiting 6 *weeks* as instructed by her doctor, and realize it may be like our first time, a little awkward and uncomfortable. Does anybody have any suggestions for us?

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Old 06-13-2006, 08:44 AM   #2 (permalink)
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You have to wait 6 months?
I've never been a parent, but every bit of reading I've done on the subject in calming down other people, generally it's suggested waiting til after the first post natal check up - which happens at about 6 weeks...

Suggestions? Go slow.. take your time... and a woman's sex drive can change after child birth so pay attention to her...
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Old 06-13-2006, 09:14 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Six months? Who is your doctor?

We were back on the horse about a week or two later... would have been sooner but we had to wait for the episiotomy to heal.

From what I hear, sex (more specifically the female orgasm) is good for post-birth healing.
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Old 06-13-2006, 09:16 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Wow. Six months? Was there a medical reason for this other than giving birth? We only waited until the post-partem bleeding stopped.
If she had a vaginal birth, you might notice a couple of differences, most notably being she might not be as 'tight' as she used to be. This will vary but don't be alarmed if that's the case. She may also have developed hemmorhoids-again, nothing to really be concerned about unless they're severe and active.
If she had a ceasarian, nothing really changes at all internally(a boon to that procedure!)
Is she nursing? Nursing increases oxytocin, which has a few uses, one of which is increased horniness.
Otherwise after six months she should be as close to normal as she can be. Take it slow, enjoy the 'reentry', making sure to show her she's still the same desirable woman she was before. And make sure the baby has been fed really well, changed and down for the night! Nothing kills the mood faster than 'WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHH'
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Old 06-13-2006, 09:21 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Old 06-13-2006, 09:34 AM   #6 (permalink)
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It's really not any different that usual. Just take it easy and read her reactions before ramping it up. Oh, jerk off earlier in the day, you don't want to get too excited too soon!
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Old 06-13-2006, 10:09 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Sorry I meant 6 weeks, I corrected it in my post
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Old 06-13-2006, 10:22 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Just don't think about the difference in diameter between your penis and your newborn baby's head, and you'll be fine. Seriously, though, go on her schedule and timing, and if she says stop, stop. I doubt there will be any problems, though.

Also, unless you want kid #2 immediately following, use a condom. The whole "nursing reduces the likelihood of pregnancy" isn't statistically significant enough to bet your future on.
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Old 06-13-2006, 10:39 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by elsesomebody
Sorry I meant 6 weeks, I corrected it in my post
Whew!
Well, everything else still applies.
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Old 06-13-2006, 11:50 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Lube and lots of it. My wife needed a little extra right after. Also, she felt a little different after our first, I could last a whole lot longer. Our sex life got soooo much better after kids...
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Old 06-13-2006, 12:10 PM   #11 (permalink)
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It may be awkward, but not in a clumsy, first time, backseat of the car kind of way. Assuming you're both truly in the mood, it will be a great way to reconnect anew. Let her lead and have a good time.
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Old 06-13-2006, 12:28 PM   #12 (permalink)
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If your wife is nursing, then she will probably be drier down below than normal. In that case, use something like Astroglide or KY jelly as artificial lubricant. Also, after intercourse, she might be sore for a while, so don't expect a high frequency of sex in the beginning.
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Old 06-13-2006, 03:32 PM   #13 (permalink)
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If she had a vaginal birth with a lot of tearing, the scar tissue may be sore the first little while after you resume sexual activities. Just keep that in mind, and whoever mentioned lots of lube was right on the money. Oh...if she is nursing, her breasts may leak during sex...mine always did.
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