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Poppinjay · 10-28-2005, 08:13 AM

I have a few hours left at my job and I'm getting a supreme lesson in how to deal. We've moved four times in four years, but now it's out of state and I'm leaving behind a mammoth of concern about what I'm going to do, how I'm going to pay for grad school, where I'll work.

Whenever I think of my SO, I repeat the mantra, "that is the only thing that matters."

This has been a four month process that has had many twists and turns. I had to start talking, writing, whatever. Not always about this, but just, anything to relieve the pressure. Sometimes it has helped to talk about anything BUT. TFP has been wonderful for that. I've hardly surfed any other web site these past couple of months.

I guess I have to just keep telling myself not to worry or carry uneeded troubles with me. It will all be over soon. I guess this also means Aberkok should be getting back from Hong Kong about now. Welcome home!

Thank you TFP and TFPers for helping me deal.

Charlatan · 10-28-2005, 08:27 AM

Stay strong... it really will work out. It's just hard to see that right now.

Cheers!

aberkok · 10-28-2005, 08:27 AM

I was thinking of making some kind of grand "thank you" statement because particular members of the TFP have been a large part of getting me through my rough time and helping to keep some perspective. In the interest of "thread economy," and also the fact that I think what Poppinjay is going through shares aspects similar to my own problems, I'll make it here.

Thanks, TFP members. You know who you are. The ones who took the time to give me encouragement and to help see things from different points of view. The ones who sent me PMs to help keep my spirits up. Poppinjay, I really felt a certain kinship with you and while I haven't experienced all of what you are going through, the feelings sound alike.

I had a lot of dealing to do out here. I've learned a lot about who I am, some of which I don't like, but I feel like I know myself better. Thanks guys.

Poppinjay. TFP friends can only do so much, but we take an interest in what's going on, and we are here for you as much as is possible over the internet.

clavus · 10-28-2005, 08:41 AM

Shit. I thought this thread was going to be about cards or drugs.

BigBen · 10-28-2005, 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by clavus

Shit. I thought this thread was going to be about cards or drugs.

Again, my fine feathered friend, you have proven why you are the funniest person on the TFP.

snowy · 10-28-2005, 10:06 AM

I'd like to follow the lead of Poppinjay and aberkok and throw out a huge thank you as well to the TFPers. Those of you who have been following along in my journal/on the boards know I recently fell in love and was concerned about how fast it all was. But thanks to your words of encouragement I'm not worried about that any more, and I'm just enjoying what I have. I'm also enjoying the prospect of a bright future with my love. So many of you have been so happy for me--and I love it.

I'd also specifically like to thank Sage, whose wise words about losing inhibitions comforted me more than anything. Thanks Sage.

Poppinjay · 10-29-2005, 08:09 AM

Ding ding ding! Home. We'll see what happens from here.

10-28-2005, 08:13 AM	#1 (permalink)
Poppinjay You had me at hello Location: DC/Coastal VA	Dealing... I have a few hours left at my job and I'm getting a supreme lesson in how to deal. We've moved four times in four years, but now it's out of state and I'm leaving behind a mammoth of concern about what I'm going to do, how I'm going to pay for grad school, where I'll work. Whenever I think of my SO, I repeat the mantra, "that is the only thing that matters." This has been a four month process that has had many twists and turns. I had to start talking, writing, whatever. Not always about this, but just, anything to relieve the pressure. Sometimes it has helped to talk about anything BUT. TFP has been wonderful for that. I've hardly surfed any other web site these past couple of months. I guess I have to just keep telling myself not to worry or carry uneeded troubles with me. It will all be over soon. I guess this also means Aberkok should be getting back from Hong Kong about now. Welcome home! Thank you TFP and TFPers for helping me deal. __________________ I think the Apocalypse is happening all around us. We go on eating desserts and watching TV. I know I do. I wish we were more capable of sustained passion and sustained resistance. We should be screaming and what we do is gossip. -Lydia Millet

10-28-2005, 08:27 AM	#2 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	Stay strong... it really will work out. It's just hard to see that right now. Cheers! __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

10-28-2005, 08:27 AM	#3 (permalink)
aberkok “Wrong is right.” Location: toronto	I was thinking of making some kind of grand "thank you" statement because particular members of the TFP have been a large part of getting me through my rough time and helping to keep some perspective. In the interest of "thread economy," and also the fact that I think what Poppinjay is going through shares aspects similar to my own problems, I'll make it here. Thanks, TFP members. You know who you are. The ones who took the time to give me encouragement and to help see things from different points of view. The ones who sent me PMs to help keep my spirits up. Poppinjay, I really felt a certain kinship with you and while I haven't experienced all of what you are going through, the feelings sound alike. I had a lot of dealing to do out here. I've learned a lot about who I am, some of which I don't like, but I feel like I know myself better. Thanks guys. Poppinjay. TFP friends can only do so much, but we take an interest in what's going on, and we are here for you as much as is possible over the internet. __________________ !check out my new blog! http://arkanamusic.wordpress.com Warden Gentiles: "It? Perfectly innocent. But I can see how, if our roles were reversed, I might have you beaten with a pillowcase full of batteries." Last edited by aberkok; 10-28-2005 at 08:29 AM..

10-28-2005, 08:41 AM	#4 (permalink)
clavus pow! Location: NorCal	Shit. I thought this thread was going to be about cards or drugs. __________________ Ass, gas or grass. Nobody rides for free.

10-28-2005, 10:06 AM	#6 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	I'd like to follow the lead of Poppinjay and aberkok and throw out a huge thank you as well to the TFPers. Those of you who have been following along in my journal/on the boards know I recently fell in love and was concerned about how fast it all was. But thanks to your words of encouragement I'm not worried about that any more, and I'm just enjoying what I have. I'm also enjoying the prospect of a bright future with my love. So many of you have been so happy for me--and I love it. I'd also specifically like to thank Sage, whose wise words about losing inhibitions comforted me more than anything. Thanks Sage. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

10-29-2005, 08:09 AM	#7 (permalink)
Poppinjay You had me at hello Location: DC/Coastal VA	Ding ding ding! Home. We'll see what happens from here. __________________ I think the Apocalypse is happening all around us. We go on eating desserts and watching TV. I know I do. I wish we were more capable of sustained passion and sustained resistance. We should be screaming and what we do is gossip. -Lydia Millet