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assilem · 05-13-2004, 01:24 PM

I was reading some other posts here on marriage and it got me to thinking. I was married last August but my wife and I lived together for two years before we got hitched. The sex is still great and I was just wondering when do you hit the wall? How long do you have to be married before the sex gets old? Or does it ever get old? Your thoughts please.

Charlatan · 05-13-2004, 01:26 PM

It will never really get old unless you do the following:

stop communicating

If you don't talk about it you will find you probably won't get the sex you want...

Polyphobic · 05-13-2004, 01:32 PM

It doesn't get old. We just spice it up. However, we are in a dry spell at the moment. Mainly since we are very tired from having just moved.

absorbentishe · 05-13-2004, 01:34 PM

Sex get old? Wow, I don't think that can happen. I've been married for 8 years, and it seems that it's only gotten better. The frequency may vary from time to time, but for me it has only improved through the years.

maleficent · 05-13-2004, 02:03 PM

Sex, really anything with the same person that you've been with for a while, including conversation, only gets old if you stop caring and let it get old.

tecoyah · 05-13-2004, 03:11 PM

Sex doesn't get old....you do.

Rodney · 05-13-2004, 10:50 PM

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Originally posted by tecoyah
Sex doesn't get old....you do.

Beat me to it.

WarWagon · 05-14-2004, 12:15 AM

A little dry spell may not be so bad every now and again. It'll give you time to appreciate the other things that come with marrying the one you love, and then it'll be hot as all hell when you start back up again.

BenChuy · 05-14-2004, 07:16 AM

If it gets dry, then look around and see if you are not dealing with something. If it is stress from work, take time out from it to appreciate each other. If it is annoyance with each other, just bash it out and get it over with (never let the sun go down...).

If it is something that is messing with one or the other than cannot be avoided just support each other. The help will be appreciated.

assilem · 05-14-2004, 02:12 PM

That is some great advice guys. Thank you.

skysooner · 05-14-2004, 07:16 PM

13 years here and it is better than ever. As everyone has said communication is key but not just about sex. If you make a commitment to just communicating with each other every day (real talks) then life is so much nicer.

Frowning Budah · 05-14-2004, 08:26 PM

It doesn't get old. It just keeps evolving in to something better and better.

ratbastid · 05-15-2004, 08:27 AM

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Originally posted by WarWagon
A little dry spell may not be so bad every now and again. It'll give you time to appreciate the other things that come with marrying the one you love, and then it'll be hot as all hell when you start back up again.

Hear hear.

8 years here. When something's off in the communication in our marriage, sex is the first place it shows up. But it's NEVER about the sex, there's ALWAYS some underlying thing that shows up when we start talking about it.

lurkette and I have "hit the wall" over and over and over and over and over again. And each time we've blasted our way through it Kool-Aid-Man-style, and kept on cruising. Hell, we hit one YESTERDAY, and had the best sex last night that we've had in months.

Esco · 05-17-2004, 06:25 AM

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Originally posted by ratbastid

lurkette and I have "hit the wall" over and over and over and over and over again. And each time we've blasted our way through it Kool-Aid-Man-style, and kept on cruising. Hell, we hit one YESTERDAY, and had the best sex last night that we've had in months.

I think pictures are in order.

Or a video, preferably in SVCD format please.

cameroncrazy822 · 05-17-2004, 11:51 AM

It's obviously gonna be different for everyone. My advise... don't look a gift horse in the mouth my brother!

05-17-2004, 11:53 AM

The key is keeping the communication & interaction alive. Keep involved elsewhere, and the sex will stay great- or even get better.

Delvid · 05-20-2004, 12:19 PM

It never gets old - but kids put a hit on the frequency.

PayUp · 05-23-2004, 12:43 PM

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Originally posted by Delvid
It never gets old - but kids put a hit on the frequency.

Thats more like it. The more of them you have, frequency drops. people always say... make time. Bullshit. About the time you make time one of the kids is throwing up in there bed on and on and on I could go.......

ARTelevision · 05-23-2004, 05:24 PM

Many marriages can eventually turn into unhappy traps and just about sexless situations. Good luck.

Amethyst · 05-23-2004, 08:56 PM

I will be married for 6 years in Sept. and we have been together for 9. And it never gets boring. We talk and do new exciting things. It amazes me you would think we would get tired of it. But I never do it's great!

05-13-2004, 01:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
assilem Insane Location: Eternity	Sex and marriage. I was reading some other posts here on marriage and it got me to thinking. I was married last August but my wife and I lived together for two years before we got hitched. The sex is still great and I was just wondering when do you hit the wall? How long do you have to be married before the sex gets old? Or does it ever get old? Your thoughts please. __________________ The mother of mankind, what time his pride Had cast him out from Heaven, with all his host Of rebel Angels

05-13-2004, 01:26 PM	#2 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	It will never really get old unless you do the following: stop communicating If you don't talk about it you will find you probably won't get the sex you want... __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

05-13-2004, 01:32 PM	#3 (permalink)
Polyphobic Runt Location: Denver	It doesn't get old. We just spice it up. However, we are in a dry spell at the moment. Mainly since we are very tired from having just moved. __________________ <--The great infidel-->

05-13-2004, 02:03 PM	#5 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	Sex, really anything with the same person that you've been with for a while, including conversation, only gets old if you stop caring and let it get old. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

05-13-2004, 03:11 PM	#6 (permalink)
tecoyah Illusionary	Sex doesn't get old....you do. __________________ Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

05-13-2004, 01:34 PM	#4 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	Sex get old? Wow, I don't think that can happen. I've been married for 8 years, and it seems that it's only gotten better. The frequency may vary from time to time, but for me it has only improved through the years.

05-14-2004, 12:15 AM	#8 (permalink)
WarWagon Loser	A little dry spell may not be so bad every now and again. It'll give you time to appreciate the other things that come with marrying the one you love, and then it'll be hot as all hell when you start back up again.

05-14-2004, 07:16 AM	#9 (permalink)
BenChuy Insane Location: About 70 pixals above this...	If it gets dry, then look around and see if you are not dealing with something. If it is stress from work, take time out from it to appreciate each other. If it is annoyance with each other, just bash it out and get it over with (never let the sun go down...). If it is something that is messing with one or the other than cannot be avoided just support each other. The help will be appreciated.

05-14-2004, 02:12 PM	#10 (permalink)
assilem Insane Location: Eternity	That is some great advice guys. Thank you. __________________ The mother of mankind, what time his pride Had cast him out from Heaven, with all his host Of rebel Angels

05-14-2004, 07:16 PM	#11 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	13 years here and it is better than ever. As everyone has said communication is key but not just about sex. If you make a commitment to just communicating with each other every day (real talks) then life is so much nicer.

05-14-2004, 08:26 PM	#12 (permalink)
Frowning Budah Slave of Fear	It doesn't get old. It just keeps evolving in to something better and better.

05-17-2004, 11:51 AM	#15 (permalink)
cameroncrazy822 Junkie Location: MD	It's obviously gonna be different for everyone. My advise... don't look a gift horse in the mouth my brother!

05-17-2004, 11:53 AM	#16 (permalink)
:::OshnSoul::: Guest	The key is keeping the communication & interaction alive. Keep involved elsewhere, and the sex will stay great- or even get better.

05-20-2004, 12:19 PM	#17 (permalink)
Delvid Insane Location: Missouri	It never gets old - but kids put a hit on the frequency.

05-23-2004, 05:24 PM	#19 (permalink)
ARTelevision I change Location: USA	Many marriages can eventually turn into unhappy traps and just about sexless situations. Good luck. __________________ create evolution

05-23-2004, 08:56 PM	#20 (permalink)
Amethyst Addict Location: Illinois	I will be married for 6 years in Sept. and we have been together for 9. And it never gets boring. We talk and do new exciting things. It amazes me you would think we would get tired of it. But I never do it's great!