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My mom passed away this past July. My wife and I had to explain to my oldest child, then 3 1/2, that sometimes (in my mom's case anyways) some people get very very sick and that somtimes, you get so sick the doctors can't help anymore and in grandmas case, they did all they could, but couldn't make her well again. We definatly didn't do the "went to sleep" trick, that would have frightened her for years.
It was quite possibly one of the hardest things I've/we've ever had to do, and I'm sure it could have gone better, but ya.. its hard. I think kids should have knowledge of death, as it is a natural process, but you have to be very gentle about it. We told her (even know I am not religous in any way, shape or form) that grandma is up in heaven and looks over us to make sure we are ok.
It took alot of question asking after that, but she understands. I'm really not looking forward to having to do this with my youngest or my "bun in the oven", but again, its part of life.
Sorry for the short rambling, but it's my $0.02.
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