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sexymama · 01-19-2004, 07:25 AM

Wow, hot topic and very intersting. I spent 3 years of my life professionally teaching parenting classes and have volunteered as a parent ed. facilitator for the last 7 years. I have met many people over the years ranging from the best of the best to some of the "worst." Here is what I've learned:

1. Anyone can have a chid and not everyone should;
2. However, of those convicted of "neglect" or "physical abuse" type crimes, they are simply repeating what was done to them, they don't know how to parent any differently and they are usually open to learning;
3. Every parent that has ever been in one of my classes truly loves their child(ren);
4. Sexual preditors do not change and should not be allowed to have children!
5. I believe EVERY PARENT should be required to take parenting classes in the same way that every driver must take driving classes and every graduate must have attended school;
6. The best time to take the classes is not when the baby is first born and "cute and lovable" but when they hit the terrific twos and above;
7. Classes should be ongoing and required every 2 to 3 years.

Even as a parent educator, I consistently take time to learn more, especially as my children enter new stages of development. I'm always listening to Love and Logic audio tapes and reading the latest book.

The major problem with requiring parenting classes, is who decides what is the best way to parent? Do you go with Dobsen (? spelling) who says spank. Or do you follow Jim Faye who teaches natural and logical consequences. Does each parent educator get to teach what he/she believes, or will there be a "standard curriculum?" And who pays for all of this?

01-19-2004, 07:25 AM	#8 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	Wow, hot topic and very intersting. I spent 3 years of my life professionally teaching parenting classes and have volunteered as a parent ed. facilitator for the last 7 years. I have met many people over the years ranging from the best of the best to some of the "worst." Here is what I've learned: 1. Anyone can have a chid and not everyone should; 2. However, of those convicted of "neglect" or "physical abuse" type crimes, they are simply repeating what was done to them, they don't know how to parent any differently and they are usually open to learning; 3. Every parent that has ever been in one of my classes truly loves their child(ren); 4. Sexual preditors do not change and should not be allowed to have children! 5. I believe EVERY PARENT should be required to take parenting classes in the same way that every driver must take driving classes and every graduate must have attended school; 6. The best time to take the classes is not when the baby is first born and "cute and lovable" but when they hit the terrific twos and above; 7. Classes should be ongoing and required every 2 to 3 years. Even as a parent educator, I consistently take time to learn more, especially as my children enter new stages of development. I'm always listening to Love and Logic audio tapes and reading the latest book. The major problem with requiring parenting classes, is who decides what is the best way to parent? Do you go with Dobsen (? spelling) who says spank. Or do you follow Jim Faye who teaches natural and logical consequences. Does each parent educator get to teach what he/she believes, or will there be a "standard curriculum?" And who pays for all of this? __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection. Last edited by sexymama; 01-19-2004 at 07:28 AM..