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Rodney · 01-03-2004, 09:17 AM

If it doesn't mean anything to you, trash it. If it still does, keep it -- if you don't mind your future wife wondering about it, and if you don't mind your kids finding it and giggling over it in 20 years.

On the other hand, 20 years from now, might not be bad to have the stuff to look at for a little perspective. Like, if you have kids and they're in their late teens and having goofy relationships that worry you, you can revisit your old relationship at that age and see how much difference there is between you at that age, and them. It's just an envelope, easy to store.

As for sending her stuff back to her, I wouldn't; I've had it done to me, and the message I get from it is "Here, I'm cleaning you out of my life." Well, I didn't really need an announcement, thanks; if you don't want it, trash it silently and move on.

01-03-2004, 09:17 AM	#22 (permalink)
Rodney Observant Ruminant Location: Rich Wannabe Hippie Town	If it doesn't mean anything to you, trash it. If it still does, keep it -- if you don't mind your future wife wondering about it, and if you don't mind your kids finding it and giggling over it in 20 years. On the other hand, 20 years from now, might not be bad to have the stuff to look at for a little perspective. Like, if you have kids and they're in their late teens and having goofy relationships that worry you, you can revisit your old relationship at that age and see how much difference there is between you at that age, and them. It's just an envelope, easy to store. As for sending her stuff back to her, I wouldn't; I've had it done to me, and the message I get from it is "Here, I'm cleaning you out of my life." Well, I didn't really need an announcement, thanks; if you don't want it, trash it silently and move on. Last edited by Rodney; 01-03-2004 at 09:22 AM..