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fuelmyfire · 04-29-2003, 01:24 PM

I tried to keep this short for you!! I promise!!

I've been with a girl for over 3 years, who recently told me that we "just couldn't be a couple now". She told me that she has every intention of being together again in the future, as i "would make the perfect husband", etc, etc.
She moved two hours away and wants, more than anything, for me to come and live with her, but only "as friends".
We are still very much in love, and honestly, i never lost the desire to keep our relationship going.
She has told me that there is the possibility of her having "fun" with someone else whether i live there or not, but is not, by any means, looking to replace me or find a lasting relationship with someone else. This would be a risk that i would have to take if i decided to move in with her (by the way, we used to live together)

How do you feel about this situation?
Am i being physically and emotionally pushed around by her? Am i her "backup plan"?
I want to be with her, but as a couple, not "friends". But if i stay put where i am, i am missing out on spending great time with my love, and risking that she may never even end up "having fun" with someone else.
I also have the opportunity to move across the country. Would it be wise to move elsewhere and give her time to figure out what she really wants? or could this be harmful? (as she would be devestated if i left).

I really appreciate any experiences or stories any one has to offer.
Thank you in advance =)

04-29-2003, 01:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
fuelmyfire Insane	Follow my heart, or my conscience? I tried to keep this short for you!! I promise!! I've been with a girl for over 3 years, who recently told me that we "just couldn't be a couple now". She told me that she has every intention of being together again in the future, as i "would make the perfect husband", etc, etc. She moved two hours away and wants, more than anything, for me to come and live with her, but only "as friends". We are still very much in love, and honestly, i never lost the desire to keep our relationship going. She has told me that there is the possibility of her having "fun" with someone else whether i live there or not, but is not, by any means, looking to replace me or find a lasting relationship with someone else. This would be a risk that i would have to take if i decided to move in with her (by the way, we used to live together) How do you feel about this situation? Am i being physically and emotionally pushed around by her? Am i her "backup plan"? I want to be with her, but as a couple, not "friends". But if i stay put where i am, i am missing out on spending great time with my love, and risking that she may never even end up "having fun" with someone else. I also have the opportunity to move across the country. Would it be wise to move elsewhere and give her time to figure out what she really wants? or could this be harmful? (as she would be devestated if i left). I really appreciate any experiences or stories any one has to offer. Thank you in advance =)