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Phred:
I love the vast majority of your posts, by the way... (missing my boobies :- )
You already know how you feel about the situation, and the end results. It's unfortunate that your family cannot seem to let things go, but the truth is they probably think that they're being supportive. It's taken a bit of brutality on my part to get my family to keep uninvited noses and comments out of my life, but surprisingly, they've become vastly more respectful now that they know that MY opinion, and MY judgement will drive my life. MY father calls me arrogant, but he certainly still calls when he needs a suggestion or an idea. My sister calls me "cold hearted" but again, she phones when there is an issue and she wants someone that she perceives as non-judgemental. (I am VERY judgemental, but no CRITICAL, she just doesn't understand the difference... If it doesn't negatively affect me or my family, I don't see any reason to upset anyone else over things)
My point is, appreciate their intentions, but let them know that it's painful to you at the moment, and since you're already aware of their opinions, rubbing them like salt on a wound isn't helping things.
Congratulations on not only your freedom, but your confidence! Best of luck, it's kind of a rugged ride for a little while, as you re-orient your thinking.
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